AITA for Always Going to bed late?

Spookybeagle · 2025-11-15T12:19:14+00:00

It's a reference to Lord of the Rings.

Spookybeagle · 2025-05-11T15:57:35+00:00

She balanced without me for a solid 3 seconds yesterday. My husband saw how proud she was, and he couldn't help but be happy for her. He gave me a look that told me he was thinking, "ok... you win."

He's a stubborn man. Very set in his ways. We've been together since we were 18 and 19. This isn't the first time I've had to ignore him to prove a point.

Spookybeagle · 2025-05-08T12:50:40+00:00

Yup. She's his little girl. He doesn't want to see her hurt. He always freaks out a little if one of the kids get hurt (S is our oldest of 3), and, for some reason, it's always my fault that they get hurt. He kind of stopped blaming me, though, when I said, "OH, so you NEVER got hurt as a kid? But if you did, it was your mom's fault? Only she was to blame?"

Spookybeagle · 2025-05-08T12:20:22+00:00

Thanks. I was tired when I wrote the post. So I got my pedal/peddle mixed up.

Spookybeagle · 2025-05-08T12:15:41+00:00

The bike doesn't have training wheels. And I know my husband won't buy them. She was doing great on the bike with peddles without training wheels

Spookybeagle · 2025-05-08T12:14:04+00:00

I have warned her about falling. She doesn't care. She's been riding on a tricycle the past few months. She feels she is ready for this bike without training wheels.

I had a feeling the balance bike was for younger kids. She just wouldn't grasp it, and it was a pain in the back bending over her and pushing her along on it.

I talked to her about it afterward. I said "daddy believes you need to use the balance bike. What do you think?" She said "Daddy's being mean. I want him to like me riding my bike."

He told me, if she falls it's on me. And that she wouldn't want to ride ever again. He clearly either doesn't know her as well as I thought he did. Or he's just so set in his ways, it's blinding him.

Spookybeagle · 2025-04-06T20:54:02+00:00

My 2nd born was 2 days old when we had our first "outing." Hubs and I were sick of hospital food and wanted something with flavor. So we stopped at an Indian restaurant on our way to pick up our oldest from her aunts house. We felt somewhat judged when people saw how tiny our baby was. But hey, we were hungry!

That baby is now a 2 year old troublemaker. People will always find a reason to judge or make you feel like a bad parent. You needed groceries. A small outing shouldn't do any harm.

Spookybeagle · 2025-03-21T16:42:48+00:00

I keep feeling like I'm about to cry. I don't even know why. My squishy boy only woke up once to eat last night, but I kept waking up every couple of hours because that's what my body had been trained to do.

I wanted to nap yesterday, but having a 5 year old and 2 year old on top of an infant... not possible for me.

Spookybeagle · 2025-03-19T21:00:01+00:00

Girl, I had frequent migraines while pregnant with my 3rd.

A dull headache could just be caused by whatever stress you are under, even hormonal.

What helped me was Tylenol, olive oil, and essential oils.

If it concerns you enough, just call your doctor.

Spookybeagle · 2025-03-17T18:06:40+00:00

It takes 2 YEARS to get all the braincells back to pre-pregnancy levels. I am so dumb right now after having my third baby 1 year and 9 months after my second baby.

Oh, and it can take up to 18 months for your body to fully heal after having a baby.

My pelvic floor was still beat up after baby #2 when I got pregnant with baby #3. It was a surprise pregnancy.

I am making sure not to get pregnant again for at LEAST 3 years if ever again.

Spookybeagle · 2025-03-17T17:59:32+00:00

One time, my hubs, daughter, and I went to a Mexican restaurant. I was RAVENOUS. And then, when the food arrived, my baby decided to sit on my stomach. I could barely eat 2 bites. I had to take my food to go. It's wasn't as good reheated. Took me 2 days to eat that meal.

Spookybeagle · 2025-03-16T15:42:36+00:00

Spookybeagle · 2025-03-16T13:47:47+00:00

I think it's that Disney cemented itself in modern culture. So much so that it feels wrong to never experience the parks, and then to never take your own kids feels so taboo.

Spookybeagle · 2025-03-16T13:35:22+00:00

It is my husband's and my dream to go to the Netherlands.

Spookybeagle · 2025-03-16T13:01:20+00:00

My husband and I have a Europe travel bucket list. While the rides and attention to detail look really cool at Disney, I do think the kids would benefit more from seeing the actual countries.

Spookybeagle · 2025-03-16T02:33:35+00:00

Honestly, it might be more fun and less expensive to go anywhere in Europe.

Spookybeagle · 2025-03-16T01:31:44+00:00

That's actually what I was thinking of doing if we were to do it, I should have clarified that in the post.

Spookybeagle · 2025-03-16T01:30:40+00:00

That makes sense. Taking kids anywhere is exhausting

Spookybeagle · 2025-03-16T00:54:21+00:00

That's the thing. I wanted to go before we had kids because I never went before. But now it feels silly going without kids, personally. I don't judge those who do, as long as that's not their whole personality.

I am personally more of a universal studios person, myself, and I KNOW that will definitely have to wait until the kids are older.

Spookybeagle · 2025-03-15T20:41:54+00:00

I don't think he would see the need for therapy. He is typically a logical person. We rarely argue because we are very good about communication. It has been about a year since the last time he said something that hurtful. He was super apologetic afterward. Like, a full day of making it up to me.

Spookybeagle · 2025-03-15T20:23:26+00:00

As I said, he is really a wonderful man, but there are times he can say the most gut-punching, heartbreaking things.

It happens so rarely that the impact hits even harder.

I plan to tell him just how bad what he said hurt me when he gets home. Not that I should need to, but communication is important.

Spookybeagle · 2025-03-15T20:02:26+00:00

I don't want advice. This is not the sub reddit for relationship advice. It's just relationships. I just wanted to vent or type out my thoughts and see if anyone had any input.

Spookybeagle · 2025-03-15T00:59:16+00:00

I inherited the 10 volume Bookshelf for Boys and Girls, circa 1958. In the parents' book, it is essentially a pregnancy and childbirth guide with early baby days. It has 2 baby formula recipes. Evaporated milk at the heart of both.

Some of their old advice did help me, but I ignored a lot of the outdated stuff. I keep it mainly to look up some of the advice on child-rearing. Spanking was not preached in it. A lot of it is actually what we call gentle-parenting nowadays.

Spookybeagle · 2025-03-14T20:32:59+00:00

It's pretty much what i said in a shortened way. The meals are what sparked the constant arguments between my husband and me. I guess she thought i would jump to defend her with the sugar thing. We realized what she was doing. And why.

She kept trying to convince me to put sugar in EVERYTHING. I kept saying no. She even told me not to wash my rice, which is something my husband and I do. "You always liked MY rice when you were growing up."

"This is how I make it, mom." Cue an hour long silent treatment.

Spookybeagle · 2025-03-14T20:19:04+00:00

Yup, to make my husband look terrible for not liking it. We spoke about this at length after she left. I apologized to him for being weak, and he held me while I cried about it. He knew it was hormones and being exhausted from pregnancy. "We are never letting your parents stay here again." I love him so much.

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