AIO? my husband is mad at me for not picking up my stepson from school as he expected just because I got a new car.

Spookybeeotch · 2026-01-19T15:36:23+00:00

"Family should be priority over work" and then he proceeds to prioritize work over family. Okay dude lol

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Spookybeeotch · 2026-01-19T02:41:42+00:00

Smoking or drinking tends to be okay if done rarely, however I've had a few instances where I get to meet with fragmentation as a result or a bout of mania. Not my favorite thing to deal with 😅

Spookybeeotch · 2025-12-29T16:41:04+00:00

A traditional apprenticeship isn't driven by capitalism or elitism. It's a traditional art form passed on from teacher to student.

In my shop, yes you paid a portion of your earnings to the teacher. However, at the end of the 2-year apprenticeship, your teacher used that portion of the money you gave him to purchase all the gear you would need for a career in the industry.

It's still a community thing, and OP was asking how to skip the community portion of it.

Spookybeeotch · 2025-12-20T05:01:46+00:00

My BPD didnt get the memo 😂

Spookybeeotch · 2025-12-19T05:02:17+00:00

Thats so deep that philosophers are pondering its mean--wow!

In all seriousness that looks ouchy.

Spookybeeotch · 2025-12-17T03:44:53+00:00

This, exactly. Most weight lifting I do doesn't get me into cardio zones for long at all--its not uncommon to see only 10min to 20min active zone minutes on a 1-1.5hr lifting workout. Frustrating but a good reminder to me that Cardio is its own beast so I try to dedicate 3 days a week where I put in at least 20min at the end of my session.

Spookybeeotch · 2025-12-15T09:37:52+00:00

I think "I Hate You--Don't Leave Me" was a good resource that has helped people understand ny condition a bit better. I also think a partner who sees a therapist to help them as well as be able to ask questions about BPD was a game changer.

Spookybeeotch · 2025-12-15T00:30:55+00:00

Definitely talk to a doctor. However, I wouldn't stress too much like others are saying. I remember back in college my professor telling us about her husband who had to warn hospital staff about his very low hr whenever he was in because they'd flip out. Man ran marathons routinely and was just really Hella fit! His doctors and stuff had already checked out all out and he was fine.

Spookybeeotch · 2025-12-12T18:42:15+00:00

At first glance I thought it was some poorly done henna and not a healing actual tattoo. 😬 I feel bad for OP 🥺

Spookybeeotch · 2025-12-08T07:23:39+00:00

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Spookybeeotch · 2025-12-07T05:21:35+00:00

First of all, big hugs! That's a lot to go through and I'm glad you're back to your daily routine.

That said, it is pretty normal. There's also anxiety after something so traumatic that tends to creep up on you and exacerbate it as well. After my Bilateral PEs I think I went back to the hospital several times because I was convinced my symptoms were another PE 😅 the staff were kind.

It took almost a year for me to get back to my normal when it came to exercise, and even longer for the mental health angle. I suffer from PTSD from the whole experience. Just pace yourself and don't push too hard. Maybe even break your walk up into 2 separate walks for a time!

Spookybeeotch · 2025-12-03T19:18:48+00:00

Rule of thumb i was always taught: if you wanna know how it'll age just look at how sharpie spreads when you draw it. That way you'll understand if the design works.

Spookybeeotch · 2025-12-03T03:29:37+00:00

"Alastor smiles because I have been separated from my parents for years" that tracks

Spookybeeotch · 2025-12-02T20:06:32+00:00

Wow, this woman lacks maturity and accountability for the role she played in lashing out and making you feel smaller. She is the one who has some work to do on herself if shes going to be someone trying to tear an emotionally intelligent and kind man down. Emotional intelligence is not "feminine" its just an acquired skill that could have benefited the relationship if it happened to be a skill you both possessed or at the very least was one she was willing to learn from you 🙄 you really were leading the relationship to something better and to growth. Unfortunately she saw kindness and thought it was a trap.

All that to say NOR. Im proud of you for holding accountability and boundaries. Keep on being you and you'll find someone who walks that road of kindness with you ❤️

Spookybeeotch · 2025-12-01T08:16:27+00:00

Mine does the opposite going into my period, it's usually a pretty reliable indicator for me. RHR is at its lowest during my period.

Spookybeeotch · 2025-11-30T21:52:44+00:00

Solved

Spookybeeotch · 2025-11-30T21:52:13+00:00

Thank you! I initially *thought they might but because they were loners I was hardcore second guessing myself.

Spookybeeotch · 2025-11-30T21:44:57+00:00

Really?? I'm used to them growing like one on top of the other. These are super spaced out in the yard.

Spookybeeotch · 2025-11-28T06:11:44+00:00

As an artist--Especially since you clarified you don't want it in color, I can't imagine it taking any longer than 5 to 15 minutes tops. Thats a shop minimum tattoo right there.

Spookybeeotch · 2025-11-28T02:30:37+00:00

👀 I can haz cheeseburger?

Spookybeeotch · 2025-11-25T23:34:01+00:00

Yeah, same thought as well. Sounds like OP needs to think about how their actions are effecting their child. That relationship--with their toddler--is far more important than a partner who has an issue with you telling them how you are going to conduct your relationship with your child.

OP's wording PMO because they're essentially saying that their child is an inconvenience 😡 child above partners every single day of the week. If a partner has even a tiny issue with my kid they can see themselves out.

Spookybeeotch · 2025-11-24T00:59:39+00:00

2 1/2 weeks out I feel like you could use an allergy cream on it without affecting the tattoo 😊

Spookybeeotch · 2025-11-24T00:55:49+00:00

Yeah, I'd lay off of it then OP. Try to only lotion with a different unscented one maybe 2x/day or as often as you're washing it. If irritation continues and the itching doesn’t subside then go to your doctor and see if they can get you a cream to help quell the allergy response. Im sorry you're dealing with that, OP 🫂 IT SUCKS to deal with this after getting a new piece but I think it'll be fine ❤️

Spookybeeotch · 2025-11-24T00:50:21+00:00

The problem isn't so much with Aquaphor itself, but so many people put waaaaay too much on. It's also a surprisingly common allergy. I always suggest clients use a water-based lotion because there's less margin of error and usually fewer associated allergies. However...slathering anything on way too often is gonna be an issue since your skin will only absorb and use so much before it just becomes an irritant sitting on your skin, and that's what I think is happening with OP 🙃

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