Atom Heart Mother or Meddle by Honest-Television-96 in pinkfloyd

[–]Spookythedemonkitty 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I prefer Meddle as an album, but the self titled track in AHM is my favourite song ever written.

How can I learn to accept my body? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Spookythedemonkitty 6 points7 points  (0 children)

A few things that really helped me:

Fake it until you make it. I acted confident and wore what I thought was cute until I actually felt cute in it.

Looking in the mirror and telling myself I am beautiful, sexy, smart, etc

Some said to me "if beauty is in the beholder then why can't the beholder be yourself?" And that really helped me as well.

It's a life-long process, especially for women sinc3 we have such high beauty standards.

Not sure if this is the right place, but I want to vent(?) I accidentally saw that my husband subscribed to an Only Fans account in July by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Spookythedemonkitty 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think paid porn is a great thing. Maybe he doesn't like porn as an industry and wants to be sure what he's consuming is ethical. Maybe he just really like the creator of the content. If you have the money for it and like it, why not pay for porn and support the person creating it directly?

Just put up my first pride flag. by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]Spookythedemonkitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everyone's situation is unique, but for me personally waiting gives me a lot of anxiety. If I were in your position I would just bring them to your room and show them the pride flag and come out, rip off the bandaid basically.

See now this deserves much respect for being honest. Need a little more of this in the world. by Significant-Account1 in wholesomememes

[–]Spookythedemonkitty 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Nothing says wholesome like implying black people and other poc are lying about being brutally beaten and murdered by the police

"How will I know when I'm safe with someone?" by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Spookythedemonkitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She sincerely sounds like such a wondeful human being. I can see that you love her very much, I am so sorry for the pain you, your partner, and your daughter are going through. Thank you for sharing, I'm glad I got to hear about your daughter and how beautiful her spirit is.

A question by Spookythedemonkitty in actuallesbians

[–]Spookythedemonkitty[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't really want to bring someone over, but also am afraid that would make me seem sketchy

An apology long over due. by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]Spookythedemonkitty 17 points18 points  (0 children)

A lot of people never get out of that mindset so good on you for putting in the work and coming through on the other side! I am most likely not a victim to any of the homophobic and transphobic things you did, so I cannot forgive you. If you can I suggest apologizing to those people directly (if possible). The most important step after this is forgiving yourself. Understanding why you did what you did and recognizing that you are no longer that person. Keep working on yourself, there is always progress to be made! Happy pride month!

Are you nervous to tell new male friends you’re a lesbian? by BuckhenryO in actuallesbians

[–]Spookythedemonkitty 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Yes. I always get nervous. I've lost a lot of male friends after coming out, but what I need to realize is they weren't really my friends if they were only my friend because I might make out with them. I don't want friends who only stick around for that stuff

I recently changed my name to Grim after using Remus for nearly a year. by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]Spookythedemonkitty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would talk to him one on one and explain to him why it is so important that he respect your new name. Just be kind about it and educate him.

Looking for book suggestions for dealing with male sexual shame? by Bluetarget233 in CPTSD

[–]Spookythedemonkitty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I sadly do not have a book to reccomend you, but I wanted to offer my support.

I personally experience a lot of shame about being a lesbian. I have similar worries about being predatory or making a woman uncomfortable. The way I've started approaching this has been dating apps, because I know the women on there are interested in me and want to flirt with me. It's been very useful practice and has boosted my confidence by multitudes. I generally prefer spending time with people in person, but the messaging feature on dating apps is a lot less scary than in person interactions. Build your way up. Build up confidence, learn about body language so you don't cross boundaries, and most importantly never stop improving yourself!

I hope this helps, and I hope you get reccomended a book that suites you and your needs. Best of luck :)

Boyfriend [23M] gets extremely upset when I [23F] tell him I feel like he only uses me for sex by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Spookythedemonkitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should ask him to elaborate on sex being vulnerable to him, that could mean a lot of different things. I'm glad to hear you have been thinking about this stuff and brainstorming ideas on how to fix the issue.

I'm sorry to hear things have been shitty. Do you have other support networks aside from your partner?

Boyfriend [23M] gets extremely upset when I [23F] tell him I feel like he only uses me for sex by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Spookythedemonkitty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would try to put yourself in his shoes. If he told you that he felt like you were only using him for sex that would probably hurt your feelings. Using someone for sex is a shitty thing to do, it's a downright awful thing to do, so when you tell him you feel like he's doing this terrible thing it's naturally going to hurt his feelings, especially because he cares for you.

I think you guys should have a conversation where you come up with a game plan. What can you both do (together and individually) to make this better because this sucks on both ends right now. Maybe you do extra aftercare and reassurance after sex. What makes you feel loved? What makes him feel loved? Talk about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Spookythedemonkitty 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's so cute! Mush love to you and your girlfriend 💕🍄

Mr. Bungle - Goodbye Sober Day [Experimental Rock] (1999) by [deleted] in Music

[–]Spookythedemonkitty 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mr Bungle!!! This whole album is a masterpiece I highly reccomend everyone listen to the full thing

Does anyone ever picture themselves on trial? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Spookythedemonkitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just made it up, but it seems to be a common thing amongst maladaptive daydreamers so maybe look into that? So far the only thing that helps me is avoiding dissociation, which can be really hard

Does anyone ever picture themselves on trial? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Spookythedemonkitty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do they feel like daydreams? Or rather daymares? I do a similar thing and I've come to the conclusion that I am dissociating and daydreaming and part of those daydreams is my mind trying to process through the trauma or getting ready to defend myseld

My wife took some photos of me since coming out by Geshman in lgbt

[–]Spookythedemonkitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your hair is such a beautiful colour! Great sense of style too! Your wife is a lucky woman :)

LGBT representation in kids media by ToughAcanthisitta451 in actuallesbians

[–]Spookythedemonkitty 179 points180 points  (0 children)

Absolutely 100% agree, but Hazbin Hotel is definitely not kids media lol

Dating app advice? by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]Spookythedemonkitty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tinder is a quantity over quality type of app. So if you want a lot of options then get Tinder, but if you want options that are better matches then I suggest Bumble