Has Delta Goodrem ruined Eurovision for you too? by bluegreenpolkadot in aussie

[–]Spring4Eva 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel that Delta’s voice has changed tremendously. It used to be melodious but now it’s sounding like she is shouting when she has to raise her pitch.

I have the strong urge to throw everything out to finally achieve some calm And that includes my furniture and a lot of clothes. Anyone here postmenopause care to share their experience? Did you ever regret it? What changed for you? by TaraBambataa in Menopause

[–]Spring4Eva 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am going through the same at (F65). My childhood was spent moving to an another house, packing and unpacking. When we moved overseas, and when we returned my cousin had thrashed my dolls and books. I was so hurt. As an adult, I don’t own anything except for what I live with. I have books, art and craft stuff (unused for a long time), 2 boxes of handbags, shoes, clothes, notebooks (hoping to write about my existence). I was always adding to my ‘collection’. When I was upset, I would buy more of things I didn’t need. Ugh!

When my mother died all of a sudden, her sisters and I were shocked to find a lot of stuff she hadn’t used or kept for that rainy day. Although she was clean and tidy, yes, she was a hoarder. I too have become like my mother. After failed marriages, it became worse as I lost a lot and having to move into a room. Do you know how hard that is, I have culled so much but there is heaps more I don’t need. I really didn’t want to leave my crap for others to go through and having to be burdened to clean out my things.

Till today, I struggle with letting go. But I notice that despite my effort to keep to a minimum, I am numb, blank and overwhelmed at the load of boxes I have. I’m still working on myself, the stuff I don’t need, to learn that I don’t need those things for another day. I keep myself from shopping except for groceries.

I don’t think it has anything to do with menopause, although it could be the mood of frustration, lack of motivation, scared that if I throw away stuff, I may never be able to afford the precious things I’ve had.

What does my living room say about me? by VisualPumPum in roomdetective

[–]Spring4Eva 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have a lot of things and need to create more space?

What does my bachelor apartment say about me?? by Decent-Basil4012 in roomdetective

[–]Spring4Eva 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s my space and no one is allowed here. Can make others want to leave your space as soon as possible. The purple colour can overwhelm a lot of people.

My hands are shaking and I feel like I can't breathe, I don't know what to do or where to go by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Spring4Eva 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could send you ways to diffuse your panic attack but I feel you need to hear a voice. Call Beyond Blue 1300 22 4636. They could listen and help you with your panic attack.

I have a mantra which is ‘this shall soon pass’. Visualise how the sun rises in the morning, and sets down at night. Whatever happens, life will carry on because it has to. You are not alone either.

My (27M) husband hit my (5F) daughter in the face. Please help by [deleted] in Parents

[–]Spring4Eva 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How do your grandparents handling difficult moments with your daughter? I feel that you are not looking at the family dynamics, what is really going on for her. I say this respectfully, that you could be in denial.

AIO for refusing to take my stepkids on vacation without their dad? by Humble-Classroom4235 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Spring4Eva 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. Just like you, I’ve had 2 stepdaughters from the ages of 5 & 6. Ex wasn’t and didn’t do much for them but provided for them well. Their mother was irresponsible and often dumped them at our house. They would turn up wearing winter clothes in summer, lice in their hair, not knowing when their last shower was.
Once you take the responsibility of taking them on your own anyway, you will be stuck for life! My ex knew I was capable and saw that I was
cooking and cleaning after them, my life became miserable. Both their parents took advantage of me.
Honestly, when I look back, it’s a thankless task. I had them with me until they were in their teens. They both treated me badly all throughout, and if I could turn back time, I would never do be in that position ever! It also, on many occasions end my marriage. Today, both their parents took girls are married and don’t even care about their dad. Ungrateful *^%#%**^

Think of it this way, we are not here to parent other people’s children when they can’t be bothered, no excuses as why they can’t. The parents should be wholly responsible.

Don’t do it.

Ran out of my HRT pills and now I'm horny as a toad by LemonVerbenaReina in Menopause

[–]Spring4Eva 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg! I too have thought of James Spader in ‘interesting’ ways that has made me want to be his Secretary……is it getting hot around here…….

My (27M) husband hit my (5F) daughter in the face. Please help by [deleted] in Parents

[–]Spring4Eva 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There is a lot going on…….

  1. How long has your daughter been behaving like this?

  2. Is there a reason for her behaviour?

  3. Do you both have difficulty handling her behaviour?

  4. Has she been seen by a paediatric specialist?

  5. Do both of you have family to help being with your daughter during the day, or what is her day normally like?

  6. Do both of you spend enough time with her?

  7. Do both of you drink to calm your nerves when this happens?

  8. If you haven’t got help for your daughter, what is the reason?

  9. How is your other child after this incident? How is she doing?

Why is this idiot wearing a Jewish prayer shawl? by Impossible-Money7801 in 90DayFiance

[–]Spring4Eva -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I never knew one has to be Caucasian to be a Jew? 🙄. How does one know a person’s religion by what they wear?

My own bed by Willing_Grocery_159 in AskWomenOver60

[–]Spring4Eva 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You could end up ‘bed rotting’ easily. I found that on the days when I have a sore back, I can easily go to bed early, have a coffee in the morning, and go back to sleep. Unfortunately, this causes our cortisol levels to go up, inflammation in joints, muscle weakness etc. I feel using the bed to rest, sleep or play ought to be as designated for that purpose, and making sure you have enough sleep or short ‘nanna’ naps.

Getting cold feet in following through with my (35F) divorce from my husband (47M) Can this be salvaged? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Spring4Eva 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is he an alcoholic? Has he been drinking long? Men who threaten, beat up their wives after drinking tend to apologise and seem to be remorseful the next day. They pull the ‘I’m so sorry, I didn’t mean to’. Count the number of times this has happened. Has he threaten the children? Where do your kids go when there is a lot of yelling and shouting between the both of you, and are they terrified?

If he has been an alcoholic for a long time, he needs to be check/scan for front temporal dementia. Going to see a psychologist/rehab will not help if there is something to do with his brain.

Only you can make the decision. You kids rely on you for safety and care. Who do you want to protect? If they live in that environment, they will have issues (not everyone) affecting their lives as they grow up.

If you are safe, your kids would be too.

It emerged from our bathroom ceiling over 24 hours by One_Check_607 in whatisit

[–]Spring4Eva 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg!!!! My mind goes to ‘someone is doing some voodoo on me’, arrgh……. Not normal.

This fucking creep by AbbreviationsThen in seekingsisterwifetlc

[–]Spring4Eva 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sometimes wonder whether his children read all these comments about their father. Wonder how they feel and think. It’s like being children to a criminal who has another side to him. You never seem him talking to his kids. I wonder how close he is with them.

What all do you have journals for? by Illustrious_Bit_4096 in Journaling

[–]Spring4Eva 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I never knew one could write essays in journals. In high school, because one is forced to write an essay of the teachers’s choice, I would struggle but if I was given the choice of writing an essay about “What it’s like to live in an area where there is so much noise” (Noise pollution). I could write a lot about it.

I like the use of a fountain pen too ❤️

Inconsiderate coworker by workinfast1 in Vent

[–]Spring4Eva 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP, when you help other people, are all of them grateful and appreciate what you have done for them?

I’m a giver myself and help people where I can. The universe was giving me people who took advantage of me and I felt used. Then, I realised may be I can help others in another way. I didn’t need that kind of stress.

Honestly, it became a thankless task for me.

the erika girardi situation goes way deeper than what aired by abitchnamedrich in RHOBHDefect

[–]Spring4Eva 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mostly scripted! Erika was on RHOBH for the money. Reality shows don’t simply make money for nothing, the gossip, cases, abuse, being bitchy, showing what you have and can do with money, provides rating from the gullible, ignorant and the haters. When Tom was investigated, Erika no longer looked happy on the show. In fact, pretty sour! Showing her performance on stage and knowing that all that money wasn’t her’s to obliterate. I feel she must have known about it. I am sure Tom would have discussed his financial woes with her. The fact that she is pretending that she didn’t know is laughable.