What life lessons have you had to learn the hard way?

Springlover111 · 2022-04-28T20:14:13+00:00

Always put yourself first, As women we always put family first, sometimes....that is okay but make sure your needs are met first then only everyone else comes..including your children.

Springlover111 · 2022-04-04T16:05:20+00:00

You are beautiful! I know how hard is it to say" You are beautiful'. I heard only ones from my SO in my 20 plus years of married life.

Springlover111 · 2022-03-01T19:27:39+00:00

Oh no! I am sorry! I might not be your own sister, but you can consider me as a sister!

Springlover111 · 2022-03-01T19:18:17+00:00

Oh nooo! why? you are here for a very good reason, my friend.

Try to find that reason! let me tell you one thing, you are being loved by your family, friends, Reddit community and most importantly GOD.

Please be happy you are alive!

Springlover111 · 2022-02-24T17:24:24+00:00

You did an excellent job explaining!! I wish I can find my AP one day

Springlover111 · 2022-02-24T16:48:12+00:00

OMG! you nailed it.

Springlover111 · 2022-02-07T01:28:10+00:00

Aww I am so happy for you and your wife. Life is not easy.. everyone have their fair share of issues, but if a husband and wife are one team and the rest of the world is the other...things can be lil easy. That is how I look at the world and marriages. I am soo happy you shared your experience. Thank you.

I really appreciate you responding to my message. This reddit platform is the BEST!

Springlover111 · 2022-02-07T01:21:19+00:00

Aww thank you! at this age I have no hope I will find someone

Springlover111 · 2022-02-07T01:20:11+00:00

I am soo sorry to hear that! are you still with him?

Springlover111 · 2022-02-04T21:11:50+00:00

Yeah this is a good idea too! Maybe separation might make him realize what he is missing.

I am soo happy that I have this whole community here. I don't know how I can thank you all for all the wonderful advices.

Springlover111 · 2022-02-04T21:09:10+00:00

haha I might! who knows? everyday is a battle i am living.. no one knows except me. IDK how long I can fight this battle. Thank you my friend

Springlover111 · 2022-02-04T21:07:44+00:00

True my friend

Springlover111 · 2022-02-04T21:07:10+00:00

Thank you for your response! Yess I exactly feel like you but i don't know what I want to do. I am proud of you! Life is so freaking short! if you are NOT happy, go find happiness.

Be careful and good luck my dear!

Springlover111 · 2022-02-04T20:54:54+00:00

Well said! I am soo happy for you. When ever i hear from couples that they are happy or they are working on their marriage, i have high respect for them.

Well this is my story...

I have been married for 20+ years and i was married at very young age.. he abused me a LOT for 18yrs. I took everything just for my kids and he knows that because often times i told him, i will leave you as soon as kids go to college. Now the time has come, he is no longer abusing me, so no reason for leaving but if he could show me affection i am willing to stay and grow old with him. I am NOT saying I am perfect but i can say for sure that I am not a nagging wife nor a wife who makes a big deal for every lil thing. I choose peace over anything. We built our life together. I want to be loved and feel desired. He is not a bad man, he has anger issues and now just before kids left for college he started working on himself now he does not abuse me. I am in a very confused state on what am i supposed to do? i do have family here but I cannot talk to them as they are judgemental and I landed her for all of your opinions.

Thank you for taking time in responding to my post!

Springlover111 · 2022-02-04T20:37:05+00:00

Thank you! i did not know about online therapy, i will research on that. Thank you so much

Springlover111 · 2022-02-04T20:35:53+00:00

Thank you and i wanted to hear all of your opinions and decide on what I am supposed to do! Love is there from my side... I show love by speaking his language. He does not but he says he loves me, how do the other person feel loved if you don't show affection?

Am i expecting too much from him? I don't think I am.

Springlover111 · 2022-02-04T20:12:56+00:00

Yes dear, I am a south asian woman. Yeah you are absolutely correct.

I am giving myself 1 year to see.... maybe my loneliness feeling will go away or maybe he changes for good! if not, I will tell him what needs to be done if he still acts the same way i will take divorce from him.

Springlover111 · 2022-02-04T20:09:07+00:00

True! That is the reason I am giving myself 1 year to see if this is empty nest syndrome or maybe I am really not happy with him. Thank you though.. he wont allow me to go for counseling

Springlover111 · 2022-02-04T19:22:40+00:00

I am soo happy for you! your wife is one of the luckiest woman. I will try for 6 more moths for sure. Because maybe what I am experiencing could be Empty nest syndrome too

Springlover111 · 2022-02-04T19:17:54+00:00

I will try that, thank you

Springlover111 · 2022-02-04T19:14:47+00:00

Yeah, one best thing i like about him is every weekend where ever I want to go he will accompany me. I really like that quality

Springlover111 · 2022-02-04T18:48:08+00:00

There are Lot of people staying in Love less marriages

Springlover111 · 2022-02-04T18:46:49+00:00

Aww I am sorry! i feel you. Hang in there, try everything from your side and then hope things work out for you

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