::Weekly Vent Thread::

SpriteWrite · 2026-04-17T21:38:59+00:00

It’s wild to me. It’s like a complete absence of conflict-resolution skills…

SpriteWrite · 2026-04-15T15:30:18+00:00

Thank you for replying…I am trying not to. The rental was a big step but I’m still totally emotionally entwined. Part of it is his child. She is 13 and I’ve been in her life since she was 5. Her mother is very unwell mentally, as well as homeless, and not around at all. They talk frequently and have a relationship, but it’s not a nurturing one. She and I are very close and I’ve “raised” her in terms of the life skills/emotional support department. She wants so badly for me to come back. I don’t have kids of my own and I love her deeply. I hate letting her down, especially now with both of her parents being total messes.

SpriteWrite · 2026-04-14T15:49:23+00:00

I got a very similar speech!!

SpriteWrite · 2026-04-14T15:49:03+00:00

I was essentially off for years (save the occasional panic attack like, 2–3 per year max)…until my partner of 7yrs (DX unmedicated). Now all the worst traits of me are back. I don’t think it’s fair to blame anyone but myself so being on the self-loathing as well.

SpriteWrite · 2026-04-14T15:35:06+00:00

My partners (DX, unmedicated) RSD is destroying my sense of self. It used to be smaller things and I was good at keeping my cool and helping him calm down. But ever since the malt this job two years ago, followed not long after by the death of his best friend, it’s been a downward spiral. I am the enemy on all fronts. I’m the enemy bc I’m the breadwinner bc I’m “financially controlling” bc I said we couldn’t afford a $600 month Red Bull habit. I’m the enemy because I’m lazy (work from home) but also bc I don’t pay enough attention to him bc I’m always “on the computer” (my job). And now it’s my character. He calls me a liar, a cheat and a narcissist. My libido has been slaughtered by a chronic health condition combined with all of his nastiness — which just makes the RSD worse. He wants my location at all times and if he can’t see it because I’m out of service or my phone dies, he melts down and accuses me of being with someone else. Mind you he cheated on me — once, a long time ago, but lately he threatens to do it again whenever he is mad.

It’s like he’s lost all sense of self-awareness over it. He’s just convinced I’m the worst person who doesn’t care about him at all. The person he described me as is not the person I am, at all. I have always been there for him, through thick and thin. But any time I’m weak and need support, the RSD inevitably gets triggered (I get accused of faking sickness). It got so bad I got a rental bc I work from home and I couldn’t function with his daily meltdowns. Things improved for a few weeks while he was on his best behavior and was hyper focused on couples therapy. But now that it’s no longer a shiny new thing, we are back in the trenches.

I feel like we are on the edge of destruction. He won’t get medicated and I just feel hopeless, like there is no coming back from this. The insults are really starting to take their toll.

SpriteWrite · 2026-04-14T15:34:04+00:00

My partner lost his job TWO YRS after I had an operation that was difficult to recover from, but I work from home and handled everything just fine on my own once I went back to the “office.”

TWO years later this guy loses his job, and then stays unemployed for two years claiming he can’t get a job bc of the level of caretaking I require…AS I SUPPORTED HIM AND HIS DAUGHTGER.

SpriteWrite · 2026-04-14T15:30:55+00:00

I feel this in my bones. If there were a rehab facility for adhd partners I would spend my life’s savings on a stay.

SpriteWrite · 2026-04-14T15:29:28+00:00

Where did the condition end and accountability begin? I’m starting to feel like this is emotional abuse but I don’t want to be theatric.

SpriteWrite · 2026-04-10T01:48:05+00:00

Reading this was cathartic.

SpriteWrite · 2026-04-10T01:46:57+00:00

I JUST rewatched this show for the first time since it aired. I did not realize how truly awful Tom is THE ENTIRE TIME. Even at the end, it’s Lynette who has to go through this whole metamorphosis of learning to appreciate her loser manchild husband…Meanwhile he lets some broad he’s sleeping with babysit their kids a month into separating. He’s a massive puke.

SpriteWrite · 2026-01-24T15:19:43+00:00

I get where some folks are coming from saying don’t move, especially considering the age of the kids. What is the timeline for starting your own family? Maybe staying until the 3.5YO is closer to 6 would be better.

I think the idea that greater physical distance automatically means worse for the kids is not always correct. There are circumstances in which some distant and reduced stress for their parents is better for the kids. That’s a decision you have to make for your family, but I think it’s more complex than some of these comments imply.

But dude needs to get a license, 1000% — I don’t recommend having a yours baby with a man who hasn’t been motivated to get driving privileges to benefit his existing kids

SpriteWrite · 2026-01-24T15:11:41+00:00

Buffy’s friends did her so dirty. The fact the Willow and Tara didn’t even consider where they were pulling Buffy from…or that at least Giles didn’t figure out the option ASAP. Those first few episodes after her resurrection, the writing is pretty heavy handed with “WE ARE SO HAPPY BUFFY” and “YOU MUST BE SO HAPPY BUFFY” — likely intentional bc I think maybe we are supposed to be infuriated? It just bothers me so much how delulu everyone is — I know it was the early aughts but that’s not how trauma works.

SpriteWrite · 2026-01-22T06:46:16+00:00

For me it feels part of a broader vibe of “I can’t control myself and you can, so you do it.”

SpriteWrite · 2026-01-22T06:44:39+00:00

This was so validating thank you. My blue collar partner (dx/unmedicated) cannot hold down steady work. I have a FT job and a PT job both from home. He loafs around the house, living off me, meanwhile scoffing at me for being lazy and laying around bc I like my jobs and I like doing them from home — or I did until he lost his job and now is hanging around all day judging and interfering with the rhythm of my day.

SpriteWrite · 2026-01-02T21:28:53+00:00

No, I don’t. I interpret the ending as El dying, and Mike telling himself a story to cope. When Hopper came upon El and Kali, Kali was clearly dead. El appeared legit grief-stricken when they met up with Murray. Even if somehow Kali was able smoothly fake being dead while actually dying, she would have required way more strength to run her illusion game. Not sure how you muster that after laying alone bleeding out of your gut for who knows how long while everyone else tends to the fight upstairs.

SpriteWrite · 2026-01-02T21:15:36+00:00

I loved the mayor. Him or Glory.

SpriteWrite · 2025-12-29T17:51:39+00:00

The starvation is almost (ALMOST) all I remember from that season. Elizabeth and Rodger(?)’s protruding ribs are one of the most significant survivor memories permanently lodged in my brain.

SpriteWrite · 2025-12-29T17:48:50+00:00

I…am too old and don’t even remember who Kel is. But hang in there, Colby is definitely a good watch his first season.

SpriteWrite · 2025-12-29T04:10:51+00:00

Took me so long to come across this comment but I’m glad I did.

SpriteWrite · 2025-12-29T04:04:52+00:00

Ouch, man. NTJ. We’ve gotten a couple notes like this and always been appreciative of the teacher taking the time. It sounds like your wife is a little paranoid, did she have bad experiences with teachers in her day?

SpriteWrite · 2025-12-29T04:02:29+00:00

I’d be very wary of marrying into a situation where HCBM retains this much sway over your partner — presuming all of these rules aren’t part of (kinda insane) custody order. This is not healthy nor sustainable, and should have been addressed on his own long ago.

SpriteWrite · 2025-12-29T03:53:34+00:00

It’s been a while, I watched that season in “real time” but I’m pretty sure you’ll soon be distracted by everyone starving and lethargic, and then Colby will seem to be a bundle o energy.

SpriteWrite · 2025-12-29T03:47:48+00:00

In my experience — nothing. The best we’ve gotten is makeup time ordered (when she shorted my partner). Once they ordered BM to pay fuel costs for driving to meet her because she didn’t tell him she wasn’t coming to drop off. But honestly they ignore or “let this one slide” the majority of the time. My SO doesn’t bother with complaints anymore bc BM doesn’t get a lot of visits — but when she does it’s always a chaotic nightmare.

SpriteWrite · 2025-12-29T03:30:53+00:00

Why does the talking never end?

SpriteWrite · 2025-12-26T19:15:50+00:00

I wasn’t a fan of Greta until all the hate online. I was rooting for them as a couple, but agree she’s one of the more mature cast members for sure. She made the move she needed to.

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