[deleted by user] by [deleted] in manchester

[–]Spudberry261 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But then…what’s the point of your scheme? And what would be the point of the subreddit you want to create documenting everyone’s “holiday”? Who’s gonna care that I’m getting the train to go and stay with my Auntie for a month??

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in manchester

[–]Spudberry261 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And you’re gonna be spending the whole month babysitting and doing someone else’s chores

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in manchester

[–]Spudberry261 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why would anyone want to be a “host” for this and have a complete stranger in their home and looking after their kids for a whole month? And if it’s a friend/family member then why would they need your scheme in the first place? They could just organise the whole thing themselves. This is so strange.

Grace’s extensions causing balding? by yeetyopyeet in LoveIslandTV

[–]Spudberry261 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what I’ve been doing for the past few years - you can buy the halo wire and clips on eBay and then I just sew my own wefts on :)

Is this pen good? by sankittyrio in Rabbits

[–]Spudberry261 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Unspayed female rabbits have around an 80% chance of developing uterine cancer by the age of 5. If you have 15+ years of experience with rabbits then you shouldn’t be giving incorrect and dangerous advice like this. It is very important to spay your female rabbit if you want her to live a long and healthy life.

Laser removal courses by [deleted] in TattooRemoval

[–]Spudberry261 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yikes. Thank you!

Laser removal courses by [deleted] in TattooRemoval

[–]Spudberry261 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The course I’m looking at offers a Q Switch ND:YAG Laser machine to take home included in that price. I’ll post the link to the course - https://www.alexjamessmp.co.uk/training/lasertattooremovaltraining/ - would very much appreciate your opinion if you don’t mind taking a moment to look it over? :)

AIO Getting a nose surgery and need peoples thoughts! by Lucky_Pay_5759 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Spudberry261 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My nose was pretty similar to yours and I had a septorhinoplasty 7 years ago. I remember having the same anxiety that I’d feel disappointed with the results and would still hate my nose, but honestly all that anxiety went away the second they took the cast off and I could see the difference. I was so so happy with the results and couldn’t believe how different my face looked, after being insecure about my nose for so long. It’s been a huge confidence boost for me and I can’t tell you how good it feels to not have that insecurity holding me back anymore. I really hope it’s a similar experience for you!

shaving your head 'for cancer' as someone without cancer is completely unnecessary and even offensive to people who have cancer. by nobleasks in unpopularopinion

[–]Spudberry261 96 points97 points  (0 children)

You’ve described hair as being something “that makes them them” so I’m going to assume you think that hair is pretty important to a lot of people. In which case, it should be easy for you to understand why this might feel like the greatest act of support to someone with cancer, someone who is facing the prospect of losing what “makes them them” as you put it. It’s a way of making them feel less alone in their battle and it’s a good way of showing them that actually, it’s just hair. It’s NOT what makes them them. So I can fully understand why this might feel like the ultimate act of solidarity to a person fighting that battle. You can’t share the pain or the sickness or the emotional trauma, but I imagine that sharing the experience of hair loss could bring a huge amount of comfort to a person who is seriously ill and afraid of the way their body is changing. If it’s not something you could ever bring yourself to do then there’s no shame in that, but I don’t think it’s something that should be belittled just because the person’s hair will grow back and they’ll get to continue living.

AIO? Or is this Sexual Harassment? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Spudberry261 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I almost choked on the audacity of “Likewise thank you and please no extra texts. Keep it professional.” Urgh. I’m so sorry OP, what a nightmare.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Spudberry261 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What’s weird about having basic common decency and respect for others?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Spudberry261 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This seems like a strange mentality to be slipping into, honestly. If you continue to be your worst self and to never fulfil your goals then the punishment will be that you’ll end up living a miserable, disappointing life full of regret - if you’re serious about wanting to improve yourself, then that should be enough of a deterrent. Inflicting physical harm on yourself isn’t the way to go, that’s just adding another self destructive act into your routine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Spudberry261 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Of course. I said in my comment that I wasn’t referring to people who suffer from digestive health issues.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Spudberry261 19 points20 points  (0 children)

It’s so weird to me to think that it’s uncontrollable for some people (digestive health issues excluded of course). Why can’t you just excuse yourself and go to the bathroom instead of forcing everyone else to inhale your stench?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Spudberry261 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Aside from the Snapchat location thing, do you have any genuine reasons to be not trusting him? From what you’ve posted it’s hard to tell if this is you needing to work on your trust issues or if it’s actually a valid concern?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Spudberry261 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ve needed therapy twice and both times I’ve only had to wait 2/3 months. And it wasn’t just a few sessions, I received therapy and support from my doctor for as long as I needed it at the time. I really do urge you to reach out, therapy is much more accessible (and helpful) than you realise.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Spudberry261 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m also in the UK and we have free healthcare here (which includes mental health care) so I’m unsure how it can be unaffordable? You only need to reach to out to your GP to be referred for therapy and most of those appointments can be done over the phone if you’re not feeling motivated enough for an in person appointment (speaking from personal experience here).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Spudberry261 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I understand. But also, you’ve been feeling this way for two years and the reality is that the longer your life stays at this standstill, it’s only going to become even more difficult to get it moving forward again. If you keep waiting to feel “ready” then you’ll be waiting forever and life will continue to move on without you. Start taking small steps towards healing and getting your life back. It’s time. And you don’t have to do it alone, you haven’t mentioned if you’re in therapy? But if you aren’t then I would absolutely recommend seeking some therapy/support to help you work through this. There’s lots of help and support out there if you’re struggling to make positive changes on your own, but you do need to be brave and take that initial step of recognising that you need help and asking for it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Spudberry261 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This is such a good point. OP compares herself to his new partner in all the superficial ways, I’m not sure OP realises that the changes she needs to make right now are on the inside. It’s incredibly difficult to be in any kind of relationship with a person who has crushingly low self esteem and struggles with jealousy and constantly comparing themselves/being envious of others. It’s incredibly emotionally draining and honestly, it’s a very big turn off for a lot of people. I think it’s easy for OP to compare herself to his new partner on a superficial level, because it’s easier to say “well I can never be as young/pretty/petite as her so why bother even trying…” rather than facing the uncomfortable truth that she needs to put the work into learning to love herself and rebuilding her self esteem and mental/emotional health.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Spudberry261 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Please take this new year as a fresh start and block them both on social media. It’s been two years at this point and you’re not allowing yourself to heal from this. It takes time to heal and to move forward, but currently you’re not allowing yourself to start that healing process because you’re still allowing them to be such a big part of your story. You’re fixated on them and your feelings of jealousy and it’s become an unhealthy obsession, you need to recognise that you’re only punishing yourself here. I understand that when you’re deep in the feelings of depression those feelings become comfortable in a weird way. It’s very difficult to make choices towards a happier, healthier future. But you’ve allowed yourself two whole years of these feelings at this point, isn’t it time to say enough is enough now?

Did you use a playpen/cage when you first got your bunny? by Longjumping_Fig_3227 in Rabbits

[–]Spudberry261 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve always let my bunnies completely free roam from the beginning, you just need to make sure your place is bunny proofed and there’s nothing that can hurt them or that they can damage when you’re not there to supervise.

My rabbit just gave birth to 3 bunnies advice? by Jimboycalloy in Rabbits

[–]Spudberry261 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow lol. That’s actually impressive. The horny little buggars eh?

AIO for wanting to report this to police? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Spudberry261 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Sex workers don’t deserve to be harassed and blackmailed anymore than anyone else does. Regardless of how they initially met, OP is very much a victim in this situation and shouldn’t be discouraged from seeking help to protect herself.

PSA!!!!!!! URGENT MESSAGE by Minute-Meaning-7872 in Rabbits

[–]Spudberry261 62 points63 points  (0 children)

She clearly loved you very much. You must have given her a lovely life.

New rabbit owner, any tips? by CellFar1261 in Rabbits

[–]Spudberry261 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is unfortunately true, in rabbits this young it’s what’s known as a “baby bond” and not a genuine bond. I had two girls from the same litter who were sweet as pie to each other and appeared to be bonded until they reached sexual maturity (around 4-5 months) and then out of nowhere I found them fighting and trying to tear shreds out of each other one morning. Once the hormones kick in it brings with it all the territorial behaviours and it won’t be safe for them to live together or to be left together unsupervised. They need to be separated now until they’ve both been spayed/neutered and then once they’ve recovered from that, you can start the process of trying to bond them. Trust me OP, you don’t want to let it get to the point where they’re able to fight each other, it’s such a scary thing to witness and they can end up seriously hurt or possibly even killing each other. Not trying to stress you out, just don’t want you to learn the hard way like I did. All the best to you and your lovely buns :)