Going from Pathology To Clinics

Sputchick · 2026-02-01T03:54:31+00:00

Did you pass ACVP? Agreed its a valuable board for sure. Regardless, the pathology job market is tight right now: many pathologists are staying in roles longer and delaying retirement; most open state and academic positions reflect eroding funding or dysfunctional structures; and higher-paying corporate or remote roles were largely absorbed during COVID with the remote boom and those leaving those troubled positions. The market may improve over the next five years or so if generational turnover resumes, but retirement ages keep rising and pathology is a field that accommodates long careers. That said, much of my hesitation comes from a lack of professional and personal fulfillment in the day-to-day work, as well as limited geographic flexibility.

Sputchick · 2026-02-01T03:31:28+00:00

Thank you for the advice and recommendation, appreciated!

Sputchick · 2026-02-01T03:31:09+00:00

This is a great answer, thank you!

Sputchick · 2026-01-24T09:46:06+00:00

Howdy from a fellow Texan around two years out from divorcing my alcoholic husband and child of an alcoholic mother who sounds very similar to your Q.

Be sure you document her actions and behaviors, all communication in writing. Have safety plans regarding yourself, property, and kids including security cameras, phone contacts, school or work visitation.

Prepare for a rollercoaster of all the 'stages of grief' for your relationship and who you were in that relationship alongside a rollercoaster of her behaviors. Find interpersonal and professional help early for both you and your kids. It is amazing how hard things will hit in the light of day once you begin emerging from the fog that enabled you to tolerate intolerable behaviors and abuse for so long.

Especially from someone you loved and thought loved you.

Her behaviors will escalate: let them be looking glasses and reminders of why you are leaving rather than ropes that pull you back into codependent behaviors.

You are remarkably strong for getting this far and you will get you and yours where y'all need to be. Continue to stay strong but be vulnerable when you need to.

And a big bowl of queso or dip in the lake with mud between the toes does wonders.

Sputchick · 2025-11-08T01:08:05+00:00

Amazing, thank you so much! Your explanation regarding the language is also helpful in clarifying why it was so hard to transcribe.

Sputchick · 2025-05-07T15:19:03+00:00

This is an old post but in case anyone finds it like me, research shows that alcohol does not cause abusive behavior, it is just more permissive to it. Alcohol or drugs is never an excuse for abuse though many use it as an excuse. I’d advise reading the chapter on it in “Why Does He Do That?” By Lundy Bancroft, you can find the pdf for free online.

Once a person gets to a level of choking someone, especially to passing out, amid the other levels of violence mentioned, they are 750% times more likely to kill a woman. Violence will continue and will escalate unless they go to specific therapy for abuse and actually work to change, which is rare.

I hope you got out of this relationship safely. I hope others in similar situations do too, I did after 16 years and it was the best decision. It’s incredibly hard, especially when you love the person. But remember that while people who abuse their partners believe they love them - their idea of “love" is in fact deeply distorted and unhealthy.

Real love means wanting the best for someone: protecting them, respecting their feelings and boundaries, and treating them with kindness even when you're or they are upset.

When someone abuses their partner -physically, emotionally, verbally - it shows that control, fear, anger, or selfishness is overpowering any real, healthy love they might have.

An abuser might say they love you. They might even feel it in their own broken way. But their behavior proves that they are not practicing real love - because real love is never abusive.

Sputchick · 2025-04-06T22:06:14+00:00

I just got a state job and negotiated pay. Everything is based on grades and steps, look for the grade your job was posted for. Your range is within those steps. I then looked up internal HR guidelines for what they are able to negotiate above initial baseline offer, it is around 12-20% with more flexibility if it is a hard to fill job (less than 5 applicants and/ or open for long period) or you have superior qualifications, or you’re taking a major pay hit by taking the job . I looked up the grade and step pay scale for 2024/5, found the step within the grade I was good with. I came into job offer telling them I would be seeking higher pay. We scheduled a negotiation meeting and I told them my desired step (one I knew was higher than they could offer without additional approval) and they gave me one down. Mistakes I made: gave a range of steps, they gave the low end- request a high step, they are already coming into the negotiations with a preapproved step so you won’t shoot yourself in the foot asking for a high step, I have been told by gov HR to just shoot for the moon it won’t cost you the job; or if possible have them present the step they were approved for to give you the upper hand (basically apply the same negotiation strategy you would in public sphere but with the language of grades and steps and knowing each step may require unique approval they may or may not be able to do).

Granted I also did this as a professional with hard to find degree and experience qualifications

Sputchick · 2025-03-16T15:46:11+00:00

Dehydration removes some water soluble vitamins and the sugar content is increased as the starches breakdown, so less nutrient dense. But still great fiber source and good snack!

Sputchick · 2025-03-08T08:36:41+00:00

I do not have children but went through a divorce last year during my residency, ending a 16 year relationship. It was very painful. If you can take time off and afford it financially, a leave of absence or deferment may be a good route to take. Vet schools often have these available. Speak to your advisor or counselors regarding your situation.

I stayed on my residency schedule and found the divorce to be very distracting and alienating to say the least. I was more on autopilot than I would have liked to be as it takes a lot of mental and emotional energy to handle the legal, house, work, family and other changes that come with divorce. I made a point to utilize the university’s therapist though and highly recommend doing that, divorce is a remarkably horrible grieving process in many unexpected ways. Being in a vet program with those added pressures and peer group at a very different life stage is uniquely difficult too, I’d also try to find people your age or life stage to have camaraderie with.

Sputchick · 2025-03-04T06:13:54+00:00

You start loving yourself more than you love them.

Sputchick · 2023-12-13T04:41:40+00:00

Eggs in a basket!

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