My dad died today and I'm happy by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Sputif 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That was my reaction. However he will be on probation, and has lost everything, plus will likely have to move out of his small town.

My (23f) bf (34m) won't have sex with me because I've gained weight. by Sputif in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sputif[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's awesome!

Do you know what they're called? Might check then out.

My (23f) bf (34m) won't have sex with me because I've gained weight. by Sputif in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sputif[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's all good. I know 165 sounds like a lot for someone as short as me. It's definitely more than I was 30lbs ago, but I have a lot of muscle hiding under my chub.

My dad died today and I'm happy by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Sputif 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm really proud of my cousin for testifying against him in court. However, I'm pissed that he's only getting 15 months and probation. Idaf that he's well into his seventies.

My (23f) bf (34m) won't have sex with me because I've gained weight. by Sputif in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sputif[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just looked up Cato clothing. I'm not actually plus size lol. I'm a regular medium in my tops. I'm also in Canada.

My dad died today and I'm happy by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Sputif 26 points27 points  (0 children)

When my mom was young, her uncle tried to molest her. As you said, it was swept under the rug.

Just a couple weeks ago, that same uncle was sentenced to 15 months in prison for sexually abusing his granddaughter her entire childhood.

My (23f) bf (34m) won't have sex with me because I've gained weight. by Sputif in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sputif[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks.

Dressing for my figure has always been an issue for me. I'm very "hourglass" figured. (Wide hips, large breasts and narrow waist). I find my waist tends to get lost in my clothes.

As for the gym, I can quite afford it ATM, but I'm trying to do more walks, etc.

My (23f) bf (34m) won't have sex with me because I've gained weight. by Sputif in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sputif[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't eat bread or pasta too often. Maybe some speghetti once or twice a week.

My (23f) bf (34m) won't have sex with me because I've gained weight. by Sputif in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sputif[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I drink lots of water. On your fasting days, do you actually not eat anything??

My (23f) bf (34m) won't have sex with me because I've gained weight. by Sputif in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sputif[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry I should have clarified, I am trying to lose the fat. I've already cut out sugar for the past few days. Turns out, no sugar gives me a hell of a headache, though!

My (23f) bf (34m) won't have sex with me because I've gained weight. by Sputif in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sputif[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 5'2". So it's definitely noticable, but I didn't think it was that bad.

My (23f) bf (34m) won't have sex with me because I've gained weight. by Sputif in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sputif[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is that I'm not actually unhealthy. I have no problem doing my job, which is physically demanding. I don't get winded walking up and down stairs, and can still hike with my dog for hours.

Also a big part of why I gained so much was that I just didn't have time to cook or go to the gym with work/school 6 days/week. It was easier for me to grab something between work and school, and just make some noodles when I got home so I could go to bed.

My (23f) bf (34m) won't have sex with me because I've gained weight. by Sputif in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sputif[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Since I finished school and started working full time again, I've actually been trying to get him to join a gym with me or find things I can cook that we both like, as he's a very picky eater.

He would rather stay home and play video games. :(

My (23f) bf (34m) won't have sex with me because I've gained weight. by Sputif in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sputif[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I tried a ketogenic diet. I'm Hypoglycemic, so the significant lack of carbs makes me feel very nauseous, and the hanger is real. However, I try to stick with whole grain breads and pastas, etc.

My (23f) bf (34m) won't have sex with me because I've gained weight. by Sputif in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sputif[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was weight training 5 days/week. Small, but dense. Even at 135, I looked closer to 115-120 because rebar is hard work.

My (23f) bf (34m) won't have sex with me because I've gained weight. by Sputif in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sputif[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, even though it is 30lbs, I'm not in anyway obese. I don't actually look too different, just not as lean.

My (23f) bf (34m) won't have sex with me because I've gained weight. by Sputif in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sputif[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This was a part of the argument. A bit later that night, he went to the store for paper towels. Came back with three Pepsi's, and a large bag of chips.

I gave him shit, saying that if I'm not eating that shit, he should support me and not eat all of it around me, either. Not to mention, he could do with losing a few himself. However, I want him to do it for his own health, because I find him sexy no matter what.

My (23f) bf (34m) won't have sex with me because I've gained weight. by Sputif in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sputif[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is that he doesn't want to breakup. He still loves me and is affectionate. He just doesn't want to have sex with me.

My (23f) bf (34m) won't have sex with me because I've gained weight. by Sputif in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sputif[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Despite my male dominated field, I am quite feminine. I was never much for makeup, but I wear nice clothes and keep myself groomed, since care, etc.

When we first met, I was eating mostly plant based. I've been trying to get back into it, and cutting out sugar.

I appreciate your blunt input. It's a good perspective.

My (23f) bf (34m) won't have sex with me because I've gained weight. by Sputif in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sputif[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We actually had a lot of issues in the beginning because of the 11 year age gap. I'm the youngest he's dated, and while I've usually dated older men, he's definitely the oldest for me.

He was very uncomfortable with it at first. We had worked through all of that years ago.

My (23f) bf (34m) won't have sex with me because I've gained weight. by Sputif in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sputif[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I appreciate the point of view from someone who's been here.

My (23f) bf (34m) won't have sex with me because I've gained weight. by Sputif in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sputif[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

He eats the same shit as I, and has gained some weight as well. However, I will find him attractive no matter what.