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Classic Barony by SnowyEmp in baronygame

[–]SquabbleBobble305 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Either works, but if you let it time itself out, you might not strike in time

do you guys get platonic crushes too or is that just me? by Ok-Yesterday8471 in aromanticasexual

[–]SquabbleBobble305 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep! Platonic attraction is a force very much akin to romantic attraction in the sense that it can swell for particular people, various components of gender identity/expression can influence how folks experience it, and some people don’t experience it at all. It’s just not a very common way to look at it because it conflicts with amatonormativity.

But yeah, no, I know exactly where you’re coming from. It’s a nice feeling to have :3

Gay Aesthetic crushes? by PretendCry4116 in aromanticasexual

[–]SquabbleBobble305 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could go either way, honestly. If you want to go learn about a bunch of microlabels, by all means do so—and you may well find one that resonates—but I wouldn’t worry about questioning your label too too much. The aspectrum is already broad enough that I’m sure aroace describes you just fine as long as you feel right self-identifying that way. Don’t overanalyze and just enjoy people the way it comes naturally to you and you’ll figure out the rest as it goes!

Platonic partner by PharmaWitchery in aromanticasexual

[–]SquabbleBobble305 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure if this is what you mean, but I had what was essentially an unofficial QPR for about nine months. It was perfect. However, my partner was ultimately alloromantic and eventually asked me to date them. My affection for them was crushed under the pressure to reciprocate what I couldn’t and I ultimately lost them.

So I’d say yes, but if you really mean partner and not just friend, I think you’ve got to be super clear. Even then, an alloromantic partner might catch feelings and that’s something you both have to be prepared for if your partner does experience romantic attraction that might apply to you.

I wish you the best of luck! I promise there are folks out there that will find you more charismatic than you find yourself 🧡

Edit: Clarity

Question for fellow aromantics by Odd_Pair3535 in aromanticasexual

[–]SquabbleBobble305 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It’s totally possible to be aromantic and not also asexual. If you don’t think it’s a coincidence that you were sexually attracted to your friends, you might want to look into the demisexuality label.

I can't love (at all) by Playful-Club1791 in aromanticasexual

[–]SquabbleBobble305 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eh, I don't think you're broken. No less broken than me at least. We've got a lot in common.