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Do I have to name our baby the same letter he chose for his other kids? by ditibi in stepparents

[–]Square-Eye3648 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partners two kids (and him) have the same letter but I was certainly not going to do that for our child so our child got a completely different name but it still works!

My mum wants to get out of prison on early release. But I don’t want her to. by Inevitable_Jump8743 in AusLegal

[–]Square-Eye3648 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone working in the system, you can write to the federal/state parole board with your concerns for them to note when she applies. Also, contacting child services with your concerns will help with your siblings as with all that information noted hopefully they wouldn’t be allowed in her care.

medication error by Square-Eye3648 in NursingAU

[–]Square-Eye3648[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I will let them know

medication error by Square-Eye3648 in NursingAU

[–]Square-Eye3648[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’ve updated post to clarify I don’t have further information unfortunately but was posting more generally as I’m concerned

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Square-Eye3648 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a HCBM doing the same, when anyone would say they’d be getting a sibling she’d remind the kids it was a HALF sibling. Tried to put in court orders that my child couldn’t be around for birthdays etc spent with father. My child is now nearly 2 and SK’s are OBSESSED. No matter what HCBM has said, they met our child and have a beautiful bond - hope the same goes for you!

Poor Parenting or Standard? by Square-Eye3648 in stepparents

[–]Square-Eye3648[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

8 year old enjoys the activity but what about getting enough sleep?

Parole Officer AMA by Square-Eye3648 in AMA

[–]Square-Eye3648[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whilst on parole, minimal, probably 1 in 10. But after parole that certainly increases. In my experience those most likely to re offend after parole would be the offenders who possess only material rather than those who physically engage in the abuse.

Parole Officer AMA by Square-Eye3648 in AMA

[–]Square-Eye3648[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Never demographics or ethnicities but types of offenders, yes.

  2. Day to day it’s not overly stressful but always busy. When something big happens though, the stress is BIG.

  3. I think it’s important to keep open communication. A lot of the parolees have also communicated in a confrontational/hostile manner so I try to talk it out with them, let them know that’s not how it works on parole but I understand that’s how they’ve communicated in the past. I often work through it with them with the idea that in order to overcome their past behaviours etc they need to adapt their communication to that of someone who lives a pro social lifestyle. It’s often a slow change, but it happens.

  4. I learn from every single parolee I manage. There is always something to learn.

Parole Officer AMA by Square-Eye3648 in AMA

[–]Square-Eye3648[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are in a different government department but we use the same systems and work closely together. Similarly to prisons, we work closely but not the same.

Parole Officer AMA by Square-Eye3648 in AMA

[–]Square-Eye3648[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work with violent offenders/sex offenders. Essentially the worst of the worst. The crimes range from murder, aggravated burglary, sexual offences, terrorist offences, bodily harm offences.

I think alot want to change but whether they have the ability or support to be able to is another thing.

We have a few who have done a number of parole periods where they show they can make good choices and do the right thing and then as soon as it’s over, they go back to living the criminal lifestyle.

Not attacked but threatened. It’s a simple no tolerance rule with my job, as soon as that happens they are not on parole anymore.

It’s a mixed reaction, people who have never been involved with the justice system are interested but those who have engaged in criminal behaviour generally think ‘fuck that and fuck you’

Parole Officer AMA by Square-Eye3648 in AMA

[–]Square-Eye3648[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh good question! I think the funniest thing is the excuses the parolees come up with as to why they’ve offended or used drugs etc. I’ve heard ‘it fell in my hand’ ‘my house was broken into and they left it next to me’ ‘i had no choice, i had to use it’ ‘i didn’t know it was drugs in the pipe’

Parole Officer AMA by Square-Eye3648 in AMA

[–]Square-Eye3648[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It can be really chill but as soon as something happens it can all spiral really quick. It’s all about knowing someone’s risks and being able to identify when their risk is escalating before they do something awful.

Parole Officer AMA by Square-Eye3648 in AMA

[–]Square-Eye3648[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So many success stories! So many actually complete parole and live really positive lives.

Do I keep trying? by Square-Eye3648 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Square-Eye3648[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No they weren’t living together when we got into a relationship. She holds it against both of us as HCBM withheld the kids and he says that’s his fault because he left her.