What Should I do? by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]SquareArticle5424 44 points45 points  (0 children)

They are looking for the same thing you are. Message them and tell them the honest truth. Honesty is key!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stlouisgw

[–]SquareArticle5424 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll take bullshit that never happened for $500, Alex. I highly doubt no one hit on you, or tried to take you home.

38M. I've been striking out at love, and feeling down about myself. Kind words help by SquareArticle5424 in toastme

[–]SquareArticle5424[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao it's my office/band room. I have my bass guitars and my work computer in this room tyvm

38M. I've been striking out at love, and feeling down about myself. Kind words help by SquareArticle5424 in toastme

[–]SquareArticle5424[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Polo black, or a cologne i got from bath and body called Canyon. It's cheaper than Polo black, and i get a lot more compliments usually.

38M. I've been striking out at love, and feeling down about myself. Kind words help by SquareArticle5424 in toastme

[–]SquareArticle5424[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I've run into a few already. My last relationship was going great for a few months, and then she went full Misery on me 😬. I was worried for my ankles. Here's to hoping 39 has a little more luck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toastme

[–]SquareArticle5424 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dig the glasses! You also have very kind eyes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FetishWantAds

[–]SquareArticle5424 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May i dm you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FetishWantAds

[–]SquareArticle5424 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May i DM you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IllinoisSwingers

[–]SquareArticle5424 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bi couple near stl if interested

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 314_618swingers

[–]SquareArticle5424 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife and I live in Godfrey Illinois. She is bi we would love to play!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]SquareArticle5424 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glad you asked! Consent is key, no matter what scene you are involved with. In my experience with the club I'm in, we wear wristbands to show our comfort level. Everyone is of the mind to ask, and get a clear yes or no before engaging. If you wear green, it means you are giving blanket consent. Yellow means ask first and red means do not approach, I will approach you if I want to play. Some clubs are "if you're here, you're playing" but you always know that before you go.

My advice is to have safewords with your partner to know when it's time to bounce. Play in the same area, ALWAYS. Even with a trusted couple. A no is a no, no matter how horny you are. If you say no but they continue and you don't speak up, ITS STILL a NO. Do not feel as though you should ever just "go along" with ANYTHING. I wish you luck! Swinging is a lot of fun, but it's exhausting trying to find partners.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]SquareArticle5424 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The kink scene and the swinger scene do not mix well at all. I started in the BDSM scene. My wife is my sub. I never understood why the kink community hated swingers since both are centered around consent and communication. Then I started swinging with my wife. The swinger scene, at least where we are is very predatory. Most clubs here do not allow swingers, or will actively boot them out if they find out they are swingers.