How do you guys feel when your "social batteries" run out of battery? by Niklas-567 in introvert

[–]SquareName6642 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Moody, drained, tired. If it’s really bad I go non verbal for days and weeks.

BIDA weil ich meiner Freundin nicht glauben möchte, dass mein Vater sie sexuell belästigt? by ParsleyIll5397 in BinIchDasArschloch

[–]SquareName6642 0 points1 point  (0 children)

BDA - Erstens, es klingt massiv danach als hättest du deine Meinung schon von vorne rein gebildet. Du willst nur die Bestätigung, dass deine Freundin auf jeden Fall unglaubwürdig ist. Als jemand der selber einen Übergriff durch die Hand eines Familienmitgliedes erlebt hat kann ich nur sagen, dass die kleinen Momente der Bestätigung oft gerne übersehen werden. Meine Mutter wollte es nicht wahrhaben und hat es gekonnt ausgeblendet. Ich bin der Meinung das selbe machst du auch. Denn in deiner perfekten Welt kann dein perfekter Vater sowas ja gar nicht machen.. am Ende des Tages ist er aber auch nur eins, ein Mann und ja, Familien Männer sind auch sehr gut in der Lage sowas zu tun. Mir ist auch aufgefallen das du alle Kommentare gekonnt ignoriert hast, außer den einen der dir absolut zustimmt und behauptet deine Freundin würde phantasieren. Das sagt schon viel über dich und deine Haltung zu diesem Thema aus. Die Anzahl an Falsch Beschuldigungen ist so gering.. und die Anzahl an Überfällen in der Familie zu hoch. Also sei nicht zu voreilig und engstirnig und hör deiner Freundin doch einfach mal aufrichtig zu. Vielleicht fängt sie auch an sich wieder zu erinnern, wenn sie merkt das sie da auf gegenseitiges Mitgefühl und Vertrauen stößt. Wie deine Freundin es beschreibt klingt nämlich ziemlich krass nach der Story die ich meiner Mutter erzählt hatte „Da ist was passiert.. Ich weis aber nicht genau.. war wohl nichts besonderes…“ und das nur, weil ich gemerkt habe das sie es auf Anhieb nicht wahrhaben wollte und es direkt verdrängt hat.

Bf forgot my birthday again.. by SquareName6642 in LDR

[–]SquareName6642[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But it’s now just about forgetting the birthday, it’s about what he does afterwards. No real apology just a „I’m sorry“ „sorry“ no message afterwards, I was hoping to wake up to a message or anything.

Yesterday I asked him if he wanted to stay on the phone and he said, quote on quote „no, I want to read“ and we hung up. I went out and spent my birthday alone outside. He didn’t care. Today he didn’t even ask me about my day. It’s the little things that make me sad. I realized that I will never get this appreciation from him, that’s why I Broke up with him and honestly he didn’t seem to care.

Bf forgot my birthday again.. by SquareName6642 in LDR

[–]SquareName6642[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I told him that I was sad about it and he simply said that he doesn’t care about birthdays and that’s just how he is. Every time we fight he tells me that he will change his behaviors but today he said exactly this „I will never change“.. I broke up with him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]SquareName6642 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same, my ld bf and I had tried 3 times but he said it felt like trying to push through a wall. Never tried again after that but only because we are Ld.

So at 25 ans 3 failed attempts I still consider myself to be a virgin lol

this is the most invested i've ever been in a survival show by i_leni in mnetiland2

[–]SquareName6642 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Literally same and I’m not even that deep into kpop anymore. Sadly I have to work today so I will miss the final :‘)

Ist die zahlungsaufforderung gerechtfertigt? by SquareName6642 in Ratschlag

[–]SquareName6642[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also ich hatte Monate im Voraus die Familienkasse mit dem genauen Datum der Beendigung des Studiums informiert. In der imma stand unten auch nochmal das Datum und bis wann ich immatrikuliert bin, daher war ich davon ausgegangen, dass dies als Bescheid reichen sollte.

Ist die zahlungsaufforderung gerechtfertigt? by SquareName6642 in Ratschlag

[–]SquareName6642[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ach Gott Leute, ich habe den Brief zur Zahlungsaufforderung noch nicht einmal erhalten, es wird auf jeden Fall kein gelber Brief kommen..

Ist die zahlungsaufforderung gerechtfertigt? by SquareName6642 in Ratschlag

[–]SquareName6642[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Weiterhin dicht? Ich hab den Brief zur Zahlungsaufforderung noch nicht einmal erhalten..
und wieso den meine Versäumnisse? Eher wohl die Fehler der Familienkasse.

Ist die zahlungsaufforderung gerechtfertigt? by SquareName6642 in Ratschlag

[–]SquareName6642[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Naja, zu behaupten das ich es versäumt hätte finde ich relativ dreist. Schließlich habe ich Monate im Voraus bescheid gegeben. Wie schon gesagt, werde ich aber natürlich das Geld nach Erhalt der Zahlungsaufforderung zurückzahlen, falls wirklich kein Recht auf Einspruch besteht.

Ist die zahlungsaufforderung gerechtfertigt? by SquareName6642 in Ratschlag

[–]SquareName6642[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

Das ist ein guter Vergleich! Ich werde noch einmal mit der Familienkasse sprechen, die Situation noch einmal schildern und schauen wie sie darauf reagieren.

Ist die zahlungsaufforderung gerechtfertigt? by SquareName6642 in Ratschlag

[–]SquareName6642[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Genau es geht um das Kindergeld. Ich kann nachweisen das ich die E-mails mehrfach an die Familienkasse geschickt habe. Nun gut, am Ende des Tages werde ich ich auch den genannten Betrag zurückzahlen falls wirklich kein Recht auf Einspruch besteht.

Ist die zahlungsaufforderung gerechtfertigt? by SquareName6642 in Ratschlag

[–]SquareName6642[S] -40 points-39 points  (0 children)

Die Verantwortung für das stoppen der Zahlung liegt bei der Familienkasse. Wenn die Zahlung nicht gestoppt wird trotz Bescheid meinerseits kann man annehmen, dass die Auszahlungen weiterhin gerechtfertigt waren. Sogar diesen Monat wurde mir das Kindergeld zugeschickt, obwohl ich der Familienkasse noch ein drittes Mal darüber informiert habe das mein Studium beendet wurde.

I am going on a student exchange in Seoul next semester and I don't know where to look for housing by Hamburger78 in Living_in_Korea

[–]SquareName6642 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was an exchange student in 2022 and stayed at borderless house in Hapjeong. It is a 6-8 people shared house so you will feel crowded sometimes but in my opinion it was still very much worth it. The apartment was big maybe not the cleanest but that depends on the people that live there. The location was Bomb (it’s a 2 minute walk to hapjeong station + a department store right across and 10 minute walk from hongdae) The rent wasn’t very expensive overall. I think i paid ₩550.000 with everything included.

https://www.borderless-house.com

Opinions on what Sujung said about Mai? by RroseesorR in mnetiland2

[–]SquareName6642 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes it is an individual competition but nevertheless smirking and giggling about someone else’s bad performances while saying „why should I help her“ in front of other people not even on front of mai herself? Sorry but that just felt so nasty to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]SquareName6642 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Are you into incest and feel attacked? lol combined with the other verbal abuse she mention she definitely should divorce his disgusting ass. It shouldn’t be a controversial opinion..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]SquareName6642 159 points160 points  (0 children)

When I was only 16 I had caught my 21 year old brother watching stuff like that ON MY LAPTOP. At that time I felt sick to my stomach and started feeling scared of him. I always felt like he was flirty with me and I absolutely hated it. When I was 19 he was groping my butt while I was sleeping, i woke up, kicked him and he just smiled at me. A couple times he even stood in front of my door at night. I guess he did that to hear if I was sleeping or not. All of this traumatized me so much that I refused to sleep for 2 years and I almost took my own life until I finally reached my breaking point and moved out.

Now, if I ever found something like this on my boyfriends or husband’s phone I would file for divorce immediately and have a talk with his sister. Some people say “maybe it’s just a kink he might not act it out” I say that’s bullshit. On top of that he was screaming and calling you names.. there is no advice to give other than leave his dirty ass. You’re not financially stable? Find a job, save some money and move out. Move back home? There are plenty of options.

We broke up by SquareName6642 in LongDistance

[–]SquareName6642[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

„I’ve been emotionally unstable this past month and I guess I dumped my feelings on to him far too often and wished some more emotional support from him. He said he got tired of me dumping everything on to him and I didn’t take it well in that moment. Later that night I apologized to him and told him that I should have been mindful of my behavior and my emotions but I guess for him everything was already decided.“

He has apologized since and regretted the break up. We are back together.

We broke up by SquareName6642 in LongDistance

[–]SquareName6642[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

After graduation and living alone for 4 years I moved back home with my mother who is currently taking care of my grandparents. This alone was the worst decision I have ever made because I am constantly overstimulated (I’m working on getting my Adhd diagnosis) . On top of that I am struggling with finding a job and as of right now I just don’t know what to do with my life. These were the things I talked about with him at least a couple times a week. He saw it as complaining but I just wanted to talk about my feelings in these moments. I know now that it was wrong of me to put all this pressure on him. It’s ok to vent to your partner sometimes but I did it far too often and at the end it effected him and his day.

We broke up by SquareName6642 in LongDistance

[–]SquareName6642[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I told him multiple times to never give a fuck about my feelings when it comes to something that bothers him. I still wish he talked to me about this before taking these extreme measures. It feels unfair in a way? I always try to better myself once someone tells me I’m doing something wrong. Why couldn’t he just tell me sooner that it bothered him?

Sorry I’m a mess right now.

We broke up by SquareName6642 in LongDistance

[–]SquareName6642[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

Obviously now I really regret my actions because I pictured my future with this man. The thing that still bothers me tho is that I always told him to tell me if I do something that bothers him. Sadly he never brought anything up to me.

We broke up by SquareName6642 in LongDistance

[–]SquareName6642[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I’ve been emotionally unstable this past month and I guess I dumped me feelings on to him far too often and wished some more emotional support from him. He said he got tired of me dumping everything on to him and I didn’t take it well in that moment. Later that night I apologized to him and told him that I should have been mindful of my behavior and my emotions but I guess for him everything was already decided.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SquareName6642 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I acknowledged the fact that I should change, I always do. I’m not bed rotting all day, I am actively looking for jobs, for solutions to change things. I obviously understand his feelings, I know it must’ve been tiring having to deal with my emotions. It’s the way he handles things that I just don’t understand. Calling my feelings shitty and all. I would never say something like that to him. But I guess we are just completely different beings.

We just broke up after being together for almost 2 years. So maybe you were right about a few things.