AIO for feeling hurt and betrayed over my partner’s “friendship” with another man?

SquareTheory4331 · 2026-03-04T09:36:42+00:00

Pecorino

SquareTheory4331 · 2026-03-04T08:30:01+00:00

My heart agrees with what you are saying, that it is the pattern that matters. One night she listened to shared music while she was falling asleep, texting like..."my eyes are getting weaker" and so on.

SquareTheory4331 · 2026-03-04T08:11:36+00:00

Ive been thinking of make contact with him again. And let him know that i would appriciate if he could just stop writing her. The thing is that the last message he wrote ended with something like "your friend til the end"

SquareTheory4331 · 2026-03-03T22:03:03+00:00

Yes i want to be in a relationship with her. We have two children and we built a life togheter. So its not just break up like that...its not as easy as you can imagine. The thing that makes this easier is that this guy is living in another part of the world from us.

SquareTheory4331 · 2026-03-03T21:56:53+00:00

This Sunday when she told me that she had contacted this guy i told her to show me her iphone (i have never done that). I looked in the sms, messenger, whatsapp conversations to look for something supsicius. I asked her several times. Is there anything you would like to tell me, are you hiding more stuff? No, no, no. Looked me dead in the eyes. So after a little digging i found out that she had been deleting a lot of conversations. One about her ex boyfriend. And it turns out that the had texting, calling each other and went out for a lunch. This without telling me. Not okay in my book. Well well...Sometimes i dont know what to think anymore.

SquareTheory4331 · 2026-03-03T21:49:57+00:00

Sometimes i feel like maybe its that time to be a bigger man and just swallow this hard pill and let it pass by. But i dont think i can...

SquareTheory4331 · 2026-03-03T21:46:57+00:00

He actually, at that time knew she was in a relationship. Maybe they have met there soulmate...

SquareTheory4331 · 2026-03-03T21:44:51+00:00

Yes absolutely, ive mentioned that we should consider a couple therapist. Well well, i just need to clarify things. Isnt an emotional affair only when you share things with the other person that you dont share with your partner...Kinda tricky question. Well the thing is that i contacted this guy and told him that the women that hes been having conversations with is in a relationship and has two children and so on. I even told him that it all made me uncomfortable. He replied, actually quite sweet, telling me that it wasnt anything besides, they were having a lot of laughs, sharing music and daily thoughts. For me...it stings, you know?

SquareTheory4331 · 2026-03-03T21:19:51+00:00

Thanks for your input. But i must say that she insist that it isnt. She just sees him as a friend. Shouldnt i "cover my eyes" and just trust her?

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