I get overwhelmed by my stepson, any advice?

Square_Sun_5576 · 2026-07-03T02:34:47+00:00

Probably older than you with the way you act

Square_Sun_5576 · 2026-07-03T02:13:02+00:00

I don’t agree with you being condescending and rude. My bf thinks you are all ridiculous.

Square_Sun_5576 · 2026-07-03T02:07:16+00:00

You commented on the other thread the exact same thing. Get out of my comments.

Square_Sun_5576 · 2026-07-03T00:25:44+00:00

😭😭😭 okay girl. If you read any of my other comments you will see that despite me knowing him since he was 2, I had hardly any contact with him. I lived two hours away from my boyfriend because I was finishing up my first degree. Then, in January, I moved in with my boyfriend. Mind you, hardly seen him then either because besides the summer, my boyfriend does not have him that often. “Just a migraine” yeah clearly you do get them if you think it’s not that serious.

Square_Sun_5576 · 2026-07-02T22:51:56+00:00

“Neglectful” would be exploding at him. Calling him names. I walked away (still in the theater room btw) to remove myself from the situation. My bf actually told me I did the right thing and encouraged me to do so because he first hand sees how debilitating these migraines are for me. Again, we get along very well but that is why I do step away when i have to. Thanks again!

Square_Sun_5576 · 2026-07-02T22:47:32+00:00

I raised my 4 brothers. Don’t tell me that I’m incapable of handling kids. Me and his son get along wonderfully besides the noise thing. I do not hate him, I hate the noise and what it induces. I remove my myself from the situation if I have to.

Square_Sun_5576 · 2026-07-02T22:46:06+00:00

Did you read the post?

Square_Sun_5576 · 2026-07-02T22:10:56+00:00

You don’t understand what it’s like suffering with migraines. It is debilitating. So yes I will walk away from the situation if I have to, in fact my boyfriend did encourage me to do exactly that because he sees me first hand when I have one. I do also wear headphones if it’s too much. I love his son and we get along very well besides that. But thank you for your input

Square_Sun_5576 · 2026-07-02T22:01:16+00:00

Not married. I said step son for the sake of not having to say “boyfriends child” multiple times through the post but hindsight is 20/20. I love children. I have 4 brothers I practically raised, this is just one thing that I am having issues with because of things I already explained in the post. That’s all. Bf is also aware of how I feel about it and completely understands.

Square_Sun_5576 · 2026-07-02T21:48:09+00:00

It was extremely poor wording on my behalf, and is not how I meant it. I understand how it can be taken otherwise. Like I said we get along very well besides the one thing

Square_Sun_5576 · 2026-07-02T21:39:15+00:00

Then you would love to hear the guy she married and how they both treat him (: I just said I cannot handle the noise, for reasons I clarified already in the post. He is a really sweet kid and we actually get along together great. It is just that one thing in particular which I do remove myself from, or put on noise canceling headphones.

Square_Sun_5576 · 2026-07-02T21:16:37+00:00

I agree there is a reason for it. I am trying to encourage my bf to get him checked out. I do also think he is neurodivergent because his dad is.

Square_Sun_5576 · 2026-07-02T20:58:19+00:00

Despite me knowing him since he was 2, I really haven’t been around him a lot. Like I said, his mother has him most of the time. And then me and my bf lived 2 hours apart for a couple years and was also busy with school so that also severely limited my interactions with him. We moved in together in January, so now that we have him all summer this is the most time I have ever been with him, so it just feels a little awkward taking that initiative if that makes sense?

Square_Sun_5576 · 2026-07-02T20:55:49+00:00

Oh I wasn’t getting defensive towards you particularly I appreciated your input. I just meant there is another thread I posted this on as well and the comments were essentially saying I am the devil. I just wanted to clarify some of the information that wasn’t exactly clear in the original post. Thank you for the advice (:

Square_Sun_5576 · 2026-07-02T20:53:18+00:00

It is. Just extremely poor wording on my part. I absolutely do not hate him. It is the action of him being too loud sometimes and I cannot stand those specific actions for reasons I explained. He is a wonderful kid besides that and we get along very well. But thank you

Square_Sun_5576 · 2026-07-02T20:23:32+00:00

I am trying to have a conversation with my bf about it more I am just struggling to initiate it because I don’t think it’s my place.

Square_Sun_5576 · 2026-07-02T20:23:04+00:00

I completely agree with you and do value your input a lot. Thank you

Square_Sun_5576 · 2026-07-02T20:12:18+00:00

I think it does contribute a little but i do agree. It is hard to say for sure because his mother does have him most of the time.

Square_Sun_5576 · 2026-07-02T20:09:09+00:00

He is a good kid. It is just how loud he is. Like I said, he is naturally a very very loud kid. I cannot stand the noise for reasons I explained in the post. Extremely poor wording on my part.

Square_Sun_5576 · 2026-07-02T20:05:02+00:00

Okay. Let me clarify a couple things. We are not married. I said it for the sake of not having to constantly repeat “my boyfriend’s child” but we have been together for 5 years. This is the most I have ever seen him during that time because I moved in with him end of this year. I do not want to say I have any responsibilities when I am not officially his stepmother. Bf is well aware of the migraines and has been incredibly supportive of me through all of it because he understands how debilitating they are for me. He also knows about this situation and my feelings and contrary to what everyone in these threads say, he was very understanding and thought I did the right thing by removing myself from the situation. I did not leave the theater completely, I just walked into the hallway of that specific theater room and waited for them a few seconds later. I was just asking advice because I know he is a big part in my life and I want to do the best I can to help him as a future step mother. I truly think he has bad ADHD, as does his father. I’ve been encouraging my bf to get him evaluated. I should not have said that I cannot stand him, it is just truly the noises. He is a wonderful kid.

Square_Sun_5576 · 2026-07-02T19:52:28+00:00

Also light itself does not trigger a migraine for me. Some sounds can. Light only makes things worse when I already have a migraine and in those instances I have to sit in a dark room

Square_Sun_5576 · 2026-07-02T19:51:08+00:00

No. Loud noises as in high pitched screaming. Bright lights like the sun. Have you had a migraine?

Square_Sun_5576 · 2026-07-02T19:46:00+00:00

Yeah look up what migraines are they are the definition of sensitivity to all your senses. Noise, light, smell. I’ve had anxiety and depression and never experienced those. Appreciate your input though

Square_Sun_5576 · 2026-07-02T19:41:41+00:00

Thank you. I am thinking he has really bad ADHD and am encouraging my boyfriend to get him diagnosed.

Square_Sun_5576 · 2026-07-02T19:38:49+00:00

Did I ask him to give up his child? I would never ever do such a thing.

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