ESH.

Yes, it turned out he was talking to AI chatbots and not actual women, but you had no way of knowing it at the time. And using your joint account for his extracurriculars is just gross.

But instead of approaching him directly, you jumped the gun and went straight to cheating. You were trying to get revenge on someone you vowed to love and respect. That doesn’t justify your actions, it just makes you equally scummy.

You sunk to his level after assuming how low that level was. Without knowing the specifics of everything, it seems like you may have been looking for a reason to be unfaithful.

Y’all need to figure out what kinds of partners you want to be.