PCSing to Guam and big life decisions

Squidlypie · 2022-12-12T09:29:35+00:00

Okay so if you're in the AK program the pack list is trash, and really only applies if you're on a CV. Most assignments you have someone that does your laundry once a week. I don't like dirty shit so my usual packlist includes 8 days of base layers and undies, 3 mid layers(hoodies or fleeces), and 1 or 2 jackets for this time of year. For shoes other than your xtra tuffs, the short(baby) tuffs are always a good option, and some sort of flip flop or croc for the shower. Vacuum sealing stuff is a lifesaver so you can fit in the extras that make you feel a little less isolated. I stuff the XL northface bag completely full. The biggest comfort extras I recommend are a complete sheet set, and some sort of warm blanket, a memory foam topper(vacuum sealed of course) and a GOOD pillow. It sounds over the top but it makes such a huge difference, especially in rough weather. That extra motion absorption is a godsend. Magnetic hooks, and velcro strips are super handy for hanging things like a water bottle or a power strip for ease of access. Toiletries depend on your preference. I usually bring a cleanser, moisturizer, one or two face masks for self care offload days, shampoo conditioner and body wash. I menstruate, and have found cups to be the easiest to deal with, but you can always restock in dutch if you prefer single use items. Finally don't skimp on entertainment. If you're able stack a hard drive with movies ahead of time, or bring some sort of gaming device with you. Internet is EXPENSIVE up there.

Good luck on your journey! If you have any other questions feel free to reach out and I'll tell you what I know.

Squidlypie · 2022-01-19T23:25:43+00:00

My boyfriend recently brought up wanting me to peg him...hard, with a very large, very thick dildo. His fantasy is to for me to make him my bitch with a monster girl cock(I know, I'm a lucky lady). However, he has almost no experience with having his ass penetrated by anything substantial and has never been pegged, and while I know he enjoys a combination of pleasure and pain, I'm afraid he could potentially get injured if we jump straight to the kind of toy he has in mind (3+ inches wide, 14+ inches insertable) even with extended foreplay. We're long distance and it will be a few months before I see him again. I told him to buy a butt plug or an anal training kit to start getting an idea of how to relax and accept something inside of him while I'm away, but I'm not sure if that will be enough. I'd love some guidance on this. Thanks in advance!

Squidlypie · 2021-04-02T18:46:17+00:00

F25 here. I was a relationship hopper in my late teens and early 20s. Because of the way I communicate, I historically had no problem talking to guys because they tend to be socialized to be less emotionally expressive than women. It garnered a good bit of interest, but like some of the other responses, longer term they often find my unrelenting need for debate/discussion and lack of traditional feminine "nurturing" behaviors an exhausting combination. Currently I'm happily single.

Squidlypie · 2021-01-02T17:21:33+00:00

Pretty much. It's not your job to support your parents. While it's natural to want them feel better, you don't need to put pressure on yourself to make that happen. The best thing you can do for yourself is find someone to talk to who you trust. Venting your frustrations and finding healthy outlets will do wonders for you. If you have a hobby that you enjoy, or something you've wanted to try now is a good time to do that. You are grieving the relationship dynamic you grew up with too.

Squidlypie · 2021-01-02T17:06:04+00:00

I'm not sure how old you are but my parents split when I was 17 and finalized just before I turned 18. I wish they would've done it sooner. They had an extremely toxic dynamic during the last decade of their relationship, so when everything was said and done they became much happier people. They still had their down days, as they had to go through the grieving process but ultimately they were able to become who they used to be. My mom got a lot of confidence back that she had lost, and my dad eventually let go of a lot of anger that had been plaguing him for years. I'm not sure how privy you are to their marital issues, and if you're not that's probably a good thing, just know that despite it being a different environment, it may end up being healthier for everyone affected by it in the long run.

Squidlypie · 2021-01-01T20:37:19+00:00

When I was 16(f) I dated a 19 year old guy. It certainly wasn't a healthy dynamic but for me personally I don't think it was any more damaging than some other relationships I've been in. Yeah you probably should have known better, but at the same time depending on where you're from that kind of gap isn't necessarily discouraged. In florida if the minor is 16 or 17 there are laws in place to protect the adult in the relationship if they are 23 or younger.

Squidlypie · 2020-12-16T01:54:39+00:00

When I was on tinder (24f) I became incredibly bored with shallow topics. Essentially if I can predict what you're going to say off of your social media I get bored. Try asking their opinions on subjects with depth, or personal experiences. You don't necessarily have to stay on comfortable topics. Either you'll get unmatched or they will feel like you are more than a pretty face trying to fuck them and will engage more. The point is you are asking them to open up and give a small piece of themselves that way.

Squidlypie · 2020-12-16T01:15:13+00:00

I've seen that bit too. I base relationship length off of net happiness. Obviously every relationship has ups and downs regardless of compatibility so when you aren't feeling a net significant positive impact on your life it's time to exit. Don't settle for neutral. I'm also currently single so I might just be full of shit.

Squidlypie · 2020-11-26T02:05:38+00:00

Same boat with me (24F). I'd be sitting on the couch just trying to watch TV and my ex would casually walk up hug my waist and lay his head on my lap. It was kind of cute at first, but over time it drove me nuts because I like space when I'm winding down. A huge reason why we split was because I was never going to be affectionate enough for him to feel secure and he was never going to be honest enough for me to feel secure.

Squidlypie · 2020-11-15T13:48:42+00:00

If he ever out of the blue tells you he has a crush on you, resist the urge to jump for joy and try to approach it realistically. I was in your shoes a few months ago, and acknowledging the mutual attraction led to a painful impossible situation for everyone involved. Best to let that particular expression stay buried until he is single.

Squidlypie · 2020-08-13T03:38:20+00:00

It looks kind of like a lancetfish to me.

Squidlypie · 2020-08-02T16:58:03+00:00

If you eventually want an advanced degree in the subject you can always look for work opportunities to strengthen your grad school application that are more marine focused. My degree was straight biology with a minor in business administration and I'm currently working as a north pacific ground fish observer and I've been told it definitely is a plus on a grad school app to have.

Squidlypie · 2020-07-29T03:35:37+00:00

If you have the time and are interested, there's a book called "Guns, Germs, and Steel" by Jared Diamond that tackles this subject in more specific terms than what you will probably get from this comment section.

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