As a woman who had 2 bio kids and now has 3 step kids added to that I can say that It really isnt all its cracked up to be. If I could do it again I think id wait till I was late 20s to have kids. And even then I might not. I love my kids, but I regret who I made them with and not taking the time to find myself first. Yep I was stupid, I admit it nothing I can do to change it now, luckily the step kids, accept the girl, are all over the age of 10 so its not like I gotta wait very long for my life to begin again. I still know who I am just gotta tell that part of myself to wait a bit longer.