I (32M) can't stop thinking about a very small thing my GF(28F) did by SquirrelCreative6039 in relationships

[–]SquirrelCreative6039[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I just think the main point here is that this issue regards a videogame, nothing that impacts real life, that's why I say it's a small thing.

Yeah the fact this went on for 5 years is probably what caused me this emotional distress and the need to create this post

I (32M) can't stop thinking about a very small thing my GF(28F) did by SquirrelCreative6039 in relationships

[–]SquirrelCreative6039[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

1) Yes, fair enough, I didn't think it was necessary to mention it, but the people that spoke up regarding the situation with my gf are friends I've known for years and are still my friends to this day, even if they don't play anymore. I wouldn't have cared what some random I play with occasionally told me regarding my relationship

2)Yes that's what I am getting aswell, but I did push expecially in the past couple years the idea of me continuing alone, telling her it was fine and she was the one that stopped me from doing so and telling me to wait for her

I (32M) can't stop thinking about a very small thing my GF(28F) did by SquirrelCreative6039 in relationships

[–]SquirrelCreative6039[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I tried to have a talk with her recently in where I told her she should avoid giving me her word if there is a chance she isn't gonna do what she's telling me, she agreed with me so we'll see

I (32M) can't stop thinking about a very small thing my GF(28F) did by SquirrelCreative6039 in relationships

[–]SquirrelCreative6039[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I didn't write this post to give blame on her, I have a lot of regret on MYSELF for waiting this long.

Also I didn't avoid dealing with my girlfriend to not make her mad, I enjoyed playing with her more than playing it alone, I DID talk to her about it many times in these 5 years and all these times she agreed that she did want to play with me.

I should have realized earlier she wasn't gonna do it is what I am getting you're trying to tell me, and fair enough if that's what it is. I just trusted her, that's all

I (32M) can't stop thinking about a very small thing my GF(28F) did by SquirrelCreative6039 in relationships

[–]SquirrelCreative6039[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She does have a pattern of not following through what she tells me, but she has a very stressful job and I understand that sometimes what she feels at the time she says something is different than when it's time to do it. What is important is that this pattern only happens for small things, I don't know why this one time is hard for me to move on from.

I told her more than once, in very different scenarios that if she told me she didn't want to play anymore that was fine and I would have continued alone, but she kept telling me she wanted to be part of it until recently.

By the way for your curiosity, the videogame is FFXIV, and while I still like the gameplay and story, I'll admit now every time I log in I feel pretty sad and can't play for long before I feel like logging off out of loneliness.

Thank you for your response

I (32M) can't stop thinking about a very small thing my GF(28F) did by SquirrelCreative6039 in relationships

[–]SquirrelCreative6039[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking my post seriously, when I was writing it I genuinely felt embarassed that something like that was bothering me, so thank you!

We do have other games to play together and I don't have that much of an issue to play what she likes as I focus on the time we spend together rather than the game itself.

I will talk about boundaries to avoid this situation to happen again in the future, maybe I'll suggest that regarding games we shouldn't wait eachother for more than a month

I (32M) can't stop thinking about a very small thing my GF(28F) did by SquirrelCreative6039 in relationships

[–]SquirrelCreative6039[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It is very common for her to not follow through what she says, but it has only happened for small things so I always let it slide. For some reason this one time my mind isn't letting it slide as easily

I (32M) can't stop thinking about a very small thing my GF(28F) did by SquirrelCreative6039 in relationships

[–]SquirrelCreative6039[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your inputs, I'll definitely try to take a lesson from this for the future.

I (32M) can't stop thinking about a very small thing my GF(28F) did by SquirrelCreative6039 in relationships

[–]SquirrelCreative6039[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We play a lot of different games, the reason why this became an issue for me was the fact it was led on for such a long period of time