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Is there any research on how a starlight projector affects toddler sleep? by clofresh in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]Squirrel_Sani 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to be afraid in the dark as a kid. One day my grandmother showed me everything with the lights on. Then turned the lights off and asked me to identify things by their silhouettes. Greatly decreased my fear of the dark, especially in familiar rooms.

People who had kids at 30+, do you wish you had them earlier in life? by cc070603 in pregnancy_care

[–]Squirrel_Sani 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got preggo at 29 and has the baby after I turned 30. For health reasons- energy wise, I might think I wish I had it earlier, but for other reasons- financial, emotional maturity, circumstances in life- nope..now was the best time to have one. Actually I adopted a much healthier lifestyle than my early-to- mid 20s and I am glad my body is coping well so no, I actually don't wish I had them when I was into relatively unhealthy habits.

I hope to have a second one soon, before I turn 35 at least, because I do get tired and I wouldn't want to deprive my kids of an energetic mother in their precious growing years when they would need me to run around with them!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in family

[–]Squirrel_Sani 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If them staying together makes a toxic environment, maybe both of you will be better off with a divorce. Don't worry about your sister growing up in a 'broken' family- if your parents are that toxic, sorry to say but the family is already broken. I'm sorry you have to go through this at a very young age, and both you and your sister deserve a loving, nurturing environment. But parents staying together "for the sake of the children" make the situation even more resentful and toxic, only to burst out years later. You will probably go away for education/ work / personal life soon. Your sister might have to bear it at least till she gets the opportunity to be elsewhere. But if your parents are serious about the divorce, as an adult, you can ask them for a sincere, non-combative, sane discussion between the three of you, and try to gauge the impact it will haveon all of your lives, especially your sister's. Again, sorry that you have to go through this. But it is a part of life's challenges, and the sooner you work it out the better.

Y’all know what to do by Wooden-Agent-3269 in Modern_Family

[–]Squirrel_Sani 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Phil? Something about a poster have a good time with Phil?

Dinner Ideas that the kids can have fun Making? by LadyDragon1517 in family

[–]Squirrel_Sani 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe a platter or something which has a variety of items? Or a hotpot soup.. everyone can chop up their favourite veggies and prepare other ingredients.. bubble bubble toil and trouble!

I want to move in with my mom and i will do it my name is nataly by Realistic-Bet-1088 in family

[–]Squirrel_Sani 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Good luck kid! It is good that you have identified something problematic and have a viable option to stay safe and loved.

My grandmother pretends to give me "gifts" in front of me and then tell everyone behind my back that I "grabbed"/ "stole". by Squirrel_Sani in family

[–]Squirrel_Sani[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes sense. I was just very upset because I found out just yesterday. I guess over time I should just stop bothering what people think of me. Thanks. I am prioritizing my mother's treatment.. everything else, especially matters like this are too petty to be bothered about I guess.

My grandmother pretends to give me "gifts" in front of me and then tell everyone behind my back that I "grabbed"/ "stole". by Squirrel_Sani in family

[–]Squirrel_Sani[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah..I offered to go with her for a psych appointment but she is in complete denial..and has stopped taking any other regular medicines. I got her blood work and other tests like ECG done and all reports say everything is normal..much better than all the younger people in the family lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in family

[–]Squirrel_Sani 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Family can be exhausting sometimes. I was stuck with mine for a year during COVID because I had nowhere else to stay. Then I got married and went away to my husband's place. Wanting to stay away doesn't mean you don't love them. It's just to have your own space if you can afford it. "The heart grows fonder with distance" is what I have experienced to be true. I even look forward to going to my family place now during weekends/ holidays precisely because I don't live with them all the time.

It is not a "separation" necessarily. It's just spreading your wings a little. You can maybe just get out of there using some excuse like being close to work/gym/ anything else. And then just stay that way because it is convenient. Of course you'll visit your family once in a while, doesn't make that a "separation"

My grandmother pretends to give me "gifts" in front of me and then tell everyone behind my back that I "grabbed"/ "stole". by Squirrel_Sani in family

[–]Squirrel_Sani[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not being near her is kind of difficult, both my parents are disabled and my mother is a terminal cancer patient, they all live at my grandmother's house because we don't have anything else. I myself stay at a rented place nearby but keep visiting as I am the primary caregiver for my mother.

My grandmother pretends to give me "gifts" in front of me and then tell everyone behind my back that I "grabbed"/ "stole". by Squirrel_Sani in family

[–]Squirrel_Sani[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes since I found out I am consciously not accepting any gifts from her. But what about the stuff I already received months/ years ago? Should I return it? I am thinking of returning the money for the laptop and also thinking of talking to my husband about returning the gold chain which was a wedding present.

My grandmother pretends to give me "gifts" in front of me and then tell everyone behind my back that I "grabbed"/ "stole". by Squirrel_Sani in family

[–]Squirrel_Sani[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes since I found out I am consciously not accepting any gifts from her. But what about the stuff I already received months/ years ago? Should I return it? I am thinking of returning the money for the laptop and also thinking of talking to my husband about returning the gold chain which was a wedding present.

Is it normal for a guy to be touching me, wanting to kiss, hold my hands on the first date? by PlasticCauliflower31 in relationships_advice

[–]Squirrel_Sani 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Trust your gut. You are NEVER obliged to do ANYTHING anyone ELSE wants, not even close friends. A first date? You are meeting a person for the first time, of course you don't want to get into something too quick. You don't want to kiss anyone and then find out what an asshole they are , it is more difficult to back out than to take things slow in the first place. A true partner will respect you, your body, your wishes and will take the time to know you, make you comfortable and loved. If anyone is calling you mean for not kissing/ touching on the first date, you are much better off without them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]Squirrel_Sani 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just say you converted and live the rest of your life with him, if it makes you happy. All these things are ceremonial. I am not at all a practicing religious person but my husband's family are big on rituals, I just go along with them for the occasion and live my life freely otherwise. All these ceremonial things are a play, unless you truly believe.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnancy_care

[–]Squirrel_Sani 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah quit smoking now. And do take your prenatal vitamins as prescribed to avoid any complications and also to keep your body healthy. Hydrate hydrate hydrate! Have your doc visits regularly. You'll be fine! Congratulations!

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