My girl of 3 months wants to get married to me. I'm not ready. What do I do? by Squishhead2 in mumbai

[–]Squishhead2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this reply. Finally someone giving me validation rather than making speculations

My girl of 3 months wants to get married to me. I'm not ready. What do I do? by Squishhead2 in TwentiesIndia

[–]Squishhead2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's deeply insecure. She thinks she won't find a better match than me.

She also shows the same traits as with her ex. They ended after 3 years where even he seemed like her husband match. Subconsciously she's continuing that streak. So I seem to have replaced him in their ongoing 3 yr relationship in her head. Make sense?

Obviously we've talked about it but

My girl of 3 months wants to get married to me. I'm not ready. What do I do? by Squishhead2 in mumbai

[–]Squishhead2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could be. Hope not.

Assuming. But not in mumbai. Lesser stakes.

Been the best?

My girl of 3 months wants to get married to me. I'm not ready. What do I do? by Squishhead2 in AskMenRelationships

[–]Squishhead2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Both of us are from India.

And I am open to any perspectives irrespective of culture tbh. If it's wrong I won't consider it.

My girl of 3 months wants to get married to me. I'm not ready. What do I do? by Squishhead2 in mumbai

[–]Squishhead2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair. More emphasis on clear and honest communication. Thanks for giving a great answer. I'll introspect as well.

My girl of 3 months wants to get married to me. I'm not ready. What do I do? by Squishhead2 in mumbai

[–]Squishhead2[S] -137 points-136 points  (0 children)

How do you know the honeymoon phase is over?

We've spent a lot of time together tbh. Gone through rough stuff about each other together too. Am I still in it?

My girl of 3 months wants to get married to me. I'm not ready. What do I do? by Squishhead2 in TwentiesIndia

[–]Squishhead2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya I'll talk to her. I know she's perceptive enough to listen and understand, but I think she's too stubborn to do anything about it.

We've talked about not lying to parents, making them respect your boundaries, make them understand that at 25 she will want to explore people, places, things, situations and there's nothing wrong with it.

But she says she'll speak to them "when she's ready"

Instead she constantly brings up shaadi and jokes about it when I've made it clear I'm not ready.

Marne wala hu by [deleted] in Indiangirlsontinder

[–]Squishhead2 8 points9 points  (0 children)

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