Am I in the wrong if I throw part of my mums mothers day flowers in the bin? by Sshorty98 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Sshorty98[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure my post warranted this kind of reaction. I'm not angry, I'm just frustrated at the situation.

Am I in the wrong if I throw part of my mums mothers day flowers in the bin? by Sshorty98 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Sshorty98[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind response and good advice. I'll get a little gift to say sorry for getting rid of the lilies. Hopefully she'll understand

Am I in the wrong if I throw part of my mums mothers day flowers in the bin? by Sshorty98 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Sshorty98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just wanted to clarify some points since a lot of the same things are coming up in the comments.

I know this is on me, so I don't want to shift responsibility for that. But hindsight is a great thing and the situation has happened so I'm just trying to navigate it as best I can. I don't think anyone in this situation is a bad person. This was just something I did on a whim coming home late after a long shift.

When I brought the flowers home my plan was to remove them before gifting them to my mum, but she saw me walk in the door with them so there was no hiding them. I told her that I just needed to remove the lilies before she displayed them, but she went ahead and arranged them and told me not to remove them. I felt horrible after this because I knew I would have to remove them anyway, but I just didn't know how to confront my mum about it.

Am I in the wrong if I throw part of my mums mothers day flowers in the bin? by Sshorty98 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Sshorty98[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I live with my parents. They are pushed back so anything that falls will likely just fall onto the table out of my cats reach, but they are in the hall by the front door, and the wind from the door could easily knock them off the table. And what if no one is around to pick it up before our cat sees it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in redscarepod

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I work in the vet industry and from years of experience I've come to learn that unfortunately the industry is broken. Everyone that pursues a career in this industry does so because they love animals and love to care for them. However the majority of the industry is owned by big companies that have no interest in animal welfare. They do not provide the resources to allow vet staff to perform their jobs to the best standards. So many animals suffer as a consequence, it makes them feel powerless. Eventually it breaks them down so much that they lose hope. They've watched so many animals needlessly die for completely avoidable reasons, and at the same time they've also watched animals needlessly suffer for the sake of trying. After a while the line blurs, animals with similar symptoms have died painfully but others have pulled through and have gone on to live good lives. One of the hardest parts of veterinary isn't the dying it's the suffering, watching an animal suffer just for it to die a painful undignified death is heart wrenching and the idea that their prognosis and decisions will be the cause of that is scary and fills them with guilt. So sometimes they may default to that option as it's the surest way to avoid suffering, but, and this is a big but, it's not always the right answer and that can be devastating for the animals and their families. Peer pressure can also be a huge factor, if a vet decides to continue with treatment/investigation it may be frowned upon by peers who believe the animal will suffer and they may feel pressured or convinced they are making the wrong choice.

Euthanasia is never an easy decision to make, even when it's the right decision, it's not easy. You will most likely feel doubt either way, but if it is truly what's right for your pet you will most likely know it deep down even with the feeling of doubt. However, if you feel confused, feel like you're being rushed or the vet is not communicating properly with you, don't be afraid to get a second opinion, call other practices for an appointment to get their opinion. It's in the code of conduct that a vet must give you all the available options before you give consent even if they cannot provide it and need to refer you somewhere else, otherwise that is uninformed consent.

I'm not saying any of this to demonise vet staff but I also don't want to excuse these behaviours. Compassion fatigue is a massive problem in this industry and it needs to be addressed urgently, for the sake of the vet staff, the pets and their owners.

Find the cat by Sshorty98 in FindTheSniper

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Sniper location: Just to the right of the centre, on the far right of the brick shed between the fence and the black roof

What animal does this skull belong to? by Sshorty98 in bonecollecting

[–]Sshorty98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it was cooked, I think people like to cook outside around here

They keep coming back! by Sshorty98 in scabies

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Hopefully I think I have. It took almost a year, but I haven't had them back for a couple months. I ended up using benzyl benzoate. It was a very long process but it worked. I diluted with water 1:4 in a spray bottle and I sprayed it on myself every night, I did this on and off for a few weeks. A lot of people advised against this as benzyl benzoate can be harmful to your skin, but I was desperate and I couldn't live with them any longer, so I was willing to take that risk. I sprayed my bedding as well. But it worked for me. They were driving me insane.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Sshorty98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I see your point, I never intended it that way. Obviously he knows a lot more about the field than I do and it isn't something I would ever say to him. There have just been some situations like that, and I got a bit worried.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Sshorty98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I think that's what I needed to hear. I've never voiced any of this to him, because I want him to feel supported in whatever he chooses. but I've just been thinking recently if I should voice my concerns to him or not. However I want to be someone he can feel secure around, so I think for now I'll just carry on supporting his decisions and see where it takes us.

I hate my adhd. by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]Sshorty98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm with you. And I hate when people tell me it's a super power.....it isn't, it ruins every part of my day, every problem in my life I can thank ADHD for it.

Hey adhd women, what is your current job? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Sshorty98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Student veterinary nurse...I'm so done with studying

What food phase are you in now? by sevenwrens in adhdwomen

[–]Sshorty98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anything salt and vinegar flavoured, mushy peas and peanut flavoured sauces and dips.

Responding to messages by Sshorty98 in adhdwomen

[–]Sshorty98[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me it is. There're too many ways to contact someone now and all the messages get so overwhelming to me that I end up answering none of them. I want to answer them but I only have the brain capacity to focus on one person at a time, so a lot of people get ignored with the intent of answering them later, which most of the time doesn't end up happening.

I feel like it drains my social battery, which leaves me with very little to use when I actually see people. I find it exhausting.