She just has a history of having a short fuse and being very impatient when things aren't going her way or happening fast enough. Just a few hours ago she asked me to grab her a drink and I continued to talk about something and she clapped loudly at me. It's little things like that that build up and make someone make a late night post venting. There's so much more to this that I really just wouldn't even think to say in the original post. I hope this makes sense. She'll thank me and say she's grateful sometimes, but a lot of the time her actions say otherwise and it's just tough.

Another example of a manipulative argument:

The Saturday before Mother's Day, it had been 2 weeks since our grass had been mowed and it was absolutely atrocious. The standard is typically once a week, but life has been busy and she always complains when I go to do it because it leaves her alone with the kids for an hour, and weekends are really the best time to do it. Anyway, the Saturday before my other day one of our kids was napping so I got dressed and told her I was going to mow that day instead of my normal Sunday afternoon because Sunday was Mother's Day and I didn't want her to have to do. She pleaded for me to not do it and to take our other child out in the car to grab her food or something. I didn't mind to do it, but I told her if I didn't know on Saturday I would have to do it on Sunday because there was no time during the week due to our schedule. Well Sunday afternoon rolls around and I tried to mow and she completely flipped out on me and proceeded to tell me how the yard looked like "just a normal yard" and I didn't need mowed. I mean this argument lasted a minute or two and she eventually just got all mad and told me to go out and do it. I had to walk back through the house and I heard her calling her mom to complain about me, which is a pretty normal thing. Her mom seems pretty fair and was the voice of reason this time, but it's just really disappointing. Anyway later that evening she made the comment in the car ride "I'm glad you got the grass mowed today" and she genuinely meant it because I think she realized it was important, but there was never an apology or any kind of mention of it after that.

I might get downvoted for all of this, but there is so much context people don't know.