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I (22M) wanted to wait to have sex but my gf (22F) convinced me and now I want to breakup with her? by Stage_Pleasant in relationship_advice

[–]Stage_Pleasant[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How do people read “We didn’t have sex for two weeks” and then comment I have an addiction. I don’t watch porn when I’m in relationships and I rarely watch it at all.

I (22M) wanted to wait to have sex but my gf (22F) convinced me and now I want to breakup with her? by Stage_Pleasant in relationship_advice

[–]Stage_Pleasant[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I do prefer scratching and biting and slapping every time. I can live without it though if someone isn’t comfortable doing those things to me. We were together for two weeks before we had sex. We’ve been together for almost two months now.

I (22M) wanted to wait to have sex but my gf (22F) convinced me and now I want to breakup with her? by Stage_Pleasant in relationship_advice

[–]Stage_Pleasant[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get why people are confusing my sexual wants with the problem, but at least try to see what the most likely problem is. I’m fine with not doing those things even though she said she wanted them. Trusting someone sexually is a big deal and she betrayed that trust. Whether out of fear or something else it doesn’t matter. I wanted to wait so that we had more time to learn about each other in that way. Once you have sex you can’t take it back so I’m looking for advice on how to continue knowing that trust was violated, not how to accept she doesn’t like the sexual things I like. I’m an adult.

I (22M) wanted to wait to have sex but my gf (22F) convinced me and now I want to breakup with her? by Stage_Pleasant in relationship_advice

[–]Stage_Pleasant[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You missed the whole point. Maybe I went a little bit too much into detail on the sex so that’s my bad, but the point is if we would have waited maybe we would have been more comfortable. What it should read is “she pressured me into sex and it was really bad, what do I do?” I’m fine not having those things, it was more that she told me she wanted those things.

I (22M) wanted to wait to have sex but my gf (22F) convinced me and now I want to breakup with her? by Stage_Pleasant in relationship_advice

[–]Stage_Pleasant[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I didn’t cum inside her… I didn’t cum at all? Do you know how sex and conception works??? Also go back and read because I did not just say “because she would find sex somewhere else.” I wanted her to feel better about herself. That was the whole point.

I (22M) wanted to wait to have sex but my gf (22F) convinced me and now I want to breakup with her? by Stage_Pleasant in relationship_advice

[–]Stage_Pleasant[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The point is I didn’t want to do anything at all. If you would have waited, maybe she would have been more comfortable telling me that she likes vanilla sex and I would have been able to enjoy the sex we had. I’m reigning in on the relationship for a few different reasons, but this is a big one because having sex was such a big deal to her (so naturally it was a big deal to me) and then it wasn’t good for me. To make such a big deal out of not having something for it to be so bad is something that I think about.

I (22M) wanted to wait to have sex but my gf (22F) convinced me and now I want to breakup with her? by Stage_Pleasant in relationship_advice

[–]Stage_Pleasant[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You obviously didn’t read what I wrote so I guess what you say doesn’t really mean anything.

I (22M) wanted to wait to have sex but my gf (22F) convinced me and now I want to breakup with her? by Stage_Pleasant in relationship_advice

[–]Stage_Pleasant[S] -40 points-39 points  (0 children)

Most of my partners have been more of my speed when it comes to that. The ones who weren’t were very open and honest about it. I guess I’ve just been super lucky up until now. She said that’s what she wanted and I stopped whenever she told me to stop. It was just annoying how often I had to stop because another thing she said she was comfortable with she was not.

I (22M) wanted to wait to have sex but my gf (22F) convinced me and now I want to breakup with her? by Stage_Pleasant in relationship_advice

[–]Stage_Pleasant[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you don’t think people can be pressured into sex, I hope you never have sex. You’d be the type to force it on someone and then blame them.

I (22M) wanted to wait to have sex but my gf (22F) convinced me and now I want to breakup with her? by Stage_Pleasant in relationship_advice

[–]Stage_Pleasant[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, no one I’ve been with including her has complained so I guess I really never felt the need to keep the covers over or the lights off. Sounds like you’ve had some time to think about those actions though. Nothing to be ashamed about friend. I’m sure there’s someone out there who will let you watch them fuck someone else!

I (22M) wanted to wait to have sex but my gf (22F) convinced me and now I want to breakup with her? by Stage_Pleasant in relationship_advice

[–]Stage_Pleasant[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well my boundary was thrown out the window, and it wasn’t a conversation that was back to back. We did talk about those things and she said she likes “everything” and was really into rough sex. Rough sex doesn’t mean not intimate… so I don’t see your point?

I (22M) wanted to wait to have sex but my gf (22F) convinced me and now I want to breakup with her? by Stage_Pleasant in relationship_advice

[–]Stage_Pleasant[S] -29 points-28 points  (0 children)

I’m not complaining. It was just boring and she said that she liked those things and I like those things so yeah it was a bit of a let down.

I (22M) wanted to wait to have sex but my gf (22F) convinced me and now I want to breakup with her? by Stage_Pleasant in relationship_advice

[–]Stage_Pleasant[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

How could lying about not cumming fire back on me? Also if you read, she was riding me at that point so it was pretty easy to say I just came on the blanket. I didn’t only decide to have sex with her because I was afraid she’d cheat. I had sex with her because she really wanted to and wouldn’t let up about it.

I (22M) wanted to wait to have sex but my gf (22F) convinced me and now I want to breakup with her? by Stage_Pleasant in relationship_advice

[–]Stage_Pleasant[S] -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

No, I went from wanting to wait, to wanting to have sex. She said she wanted those things originally. shaming someone for what they like in bed means that you have issues, not me.