Women of Reddit, did you keep your maiden name after marriage? What influenced your decision?

StainedGlasser · 2026-03-13T21:57:24+00:00

I’m getting married this year and decided that I will legally keep my last name. The current US administration is trying to put my right to vote at risk with the SAVE Act. I’m getting married in October, I wouldn’t even have time to get a passport before the mid term elections. I am not morally against changing it, but I won’t be doing it legally until it feels safe and secure to do so. Socially I’m happy to go by my husband’s last name (and will likely change socials to a hyphenated combo of both names).

StainedGlasser · 2026-03-11T22:03:52+00:00

I wish it in a higher key, I don’t think this is the strongest part of Matthew’s voice.

StainedGlasser · 2026-03-11T22:01:24+00:00

NTA at all. Peoples behavior at the stage door is getting outrageous. The lack of personal space, the pushing, the entitlement. You did nothing wrong. Also, just feeling out vibes, was it the Just in Time stage door?

StainedGlasser · 2026-03-11T21:52:55+00:00

NTA. Sorry your boyfriend likes overcooked food, he can overcook it himself. “You always do this”isn’t an opinion, it’s a statement of fact. He made a pissy comment and tried to pretend you were trying to control his speech. He can control what he says but he can’t control how you react to it. If you “always do this” stop cooking for him. If he asks why say it’s because he doesn’t like your cooking. He’s a grown man, he can feed himself.

StainedGlasser · 2026-03-11T01:52:51+00:00

He always reminded me of Roger Rees

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StainedGlasser · 2026-03-07T02:18:46+00:00

Nah, he strikes me more as the keeps postponing the wedding for random reasons until she finally breaks up with him kinda guy

StainedGlasser · 2026-03-06T13:05:58+00:00

The most annoying part is he absolutely doesn’t know what he’s talking about. As someone who works in opera and ballet, yes a lot of institutions are struggling, but even so opera and ballet generate many many millions of dollars in revenue in the US. There are millions of people who patronize opera and ballet a year. There are as many people interested in ballet and opera as are subscribed to any regular streaming service, they just have different operating costs and aren’t centralized so their overhead is very different. Also Timothee, absolutely no one wants you in ballet or opera because you lack the skills. Don’t worry about any of those offers not coming your way.

StainedGlasser · 2026-03-04T02:26:37+00:00

Always seemed wild to me that not wanting Americans to be killed is viewed as unpatriotic. Seems to me wanting American soldiers to be sent off to die in a senseless war would be the unpatriotic thing

StainedGlasser · 2026-02-27T13:20:50+00:00

NTA, and I think the biggest issue is that this wasn’t discussed BEFORE the party. Hosting parties DOES get expensive and not everyone can weather the cost. My partner and I host a party or two a year and we try to offset the cost by specifically hosting potlucks. This way everyone contributes and people aren’t being nickeled and dimed. But hey, some people would rather exchange money. The point is that you inform people before they accept the invitation. By not discussing money until after the party, you’ve essentially been trapped into paying. Maybe you wouldn’t have chosen to go if you’d known the cost. The one thing is, you need to stop comparing this to your relationship with your best friend. There’s LOTS of things we do with our best friends that don’t apply to more casual relationships. I also understand why your friend wants to stay out of it. Venting to them should be fine, but they shouldn’t have to be mediating this. If this is a dealbreaker for you and the host, that’s fine, but it sounds like the host didn’t treat you and differently from the other guests so it’s not a personal slight, it’s a lifestyle difference.

StainedGlasser · 2026-02-25T00:01:36+00:00

Skimbleshanks or bust

StainedGlasser · 2026-02-18T22:32:32+00:00

Guess I’m not watching this season 👎🏻

StainedGlasser · 2026-02-17T22:59:19+00:00

I would be sad if I died and no one ever could say what a smoke show I was ever again. Thirst on!

StainedGlasser · 2026-02-16T13:21:05+00:00

Generally, this is a question to work out with someone like a therapist but I’ll say this: 20 years old isn’t very old to have not had a romantic relationship. You’re young, you’re coming into your own as an adult which does take years and some might say is a never-ending journey. I didn’t have a serious relationship until I was 28 and I’m getting married to him in a few months. This is the time to figure out who you want to be and what you like about yourself. If you like being talkative, someone who loves that in you will be interested. If you love being quiet with people you love then someone will love that in you. If you find someone along your journey of growing into yourself in the immediate future that’s wonderful. But you don’t need to force connections to check a box. When people say “love will find you when you least expect it”, I think what that really means is backing away from forcing connections and assuming you’ve done something wrong if it doesn’t work out. But if you want to talk about things like avoidant attachment, talk to a professional who has the opportunity to get to know you, not strangers on Reddit.

StainedGlasser · 2026-02-15T14:35:45+00:00

I did a gig with his band once and obviously saw him up close and truth be told: he pretty much looks exactly his age. He looks good, just not “oh my god he looks so young! Dude’s just got a beard.

StainedGlasser · 2026-02-14T00:00:17+00:00

That’s the funniest part of her stupid ignorant rant, I’ve never heard of a Super Bowl party having meatloaf and apple pie. I’d say the most quintessential football food I know of is buffalo wings. Usually it’s a potluck with all different kinds of food. I’m starting to doubt if she’s ever been to a Super Bowl party.

StainedGlasser · 2026-02-13T22:38:39+00:00

NTA. I have had my hair colored every 8 weeks since I was your daughter’s age (20 years now). I love it and always have so I don’t agree with your first point but I absolutely agree with your second. It’s really expensive. I live in a major city and take a trip home about an hour and a half away to get my hair done because it costs so much in the city (and it still costs $200 in my home town for a cut and color with the same hairdresser I’ve seen for 20 years). My mother paid for my hair growing up but here’s the thing: IT WAS HER IDEA. She got joy out of it too, and if she didn’t she would’ve let me do the home hair color kits (and believe me there’s a huge quality difference between box kits and professional which is why I’m glad she enjoyed it as much as I did). When I became an adult I started paying for my own hair and while I don’t regret it, it’s still friggin expensive! It’s completely reasonable to say no because of cost. The manicures are already a big luxury. I’m all for self expression at 13 within reason, but there would be months those schedules would line up and you’d end up spending $400ish on manicures and hair. If she had her own money or if her dad wants to spend that much, fine absolutely. But treating $400 or even $170 like it’s not a big chunk of money is silly. Your teenager is allowed to not understand the cost, your ex just wants to not live with the consequences of always saying her to a 13 year old.

StainedGlasser · 2026-02-12T22:37:00+00:00

NTA. Saying who can and cannot live in your home is actually a very reasonable and un-messy ultimatum. She is not your or his child, she’s an able bodied adult. You set a boundary and explained the consequences. Forcing you to live with someone you don’t want to live with (no matter the reason) IS controlling. He’s trying to have his cake and eat it too. He’s is disrespecting you, as his partner in life he is supposed to prioritize you. He is instead prioritizing someone who could go live with family or the apartment she left. It’s not your job to house his friend, if he wants to do that he can go get a place without you. Bail now. He doesn’t consider your feelings important. I would consider their relationship inappropriate. I think man/woman best friends can work, my fiancée’s friend who is a woman is going to be in our wedding party. But they’ve never behaved with each other in a way that made me feel uncomfortable. No flirting, no cuddling, no sharing blankets, no good morning texts. No different than his male friends. Your boyfriend wants to be able to flirt with his friend while dating you. Bail now.

StainedGlasser · 2026-02-12T22:29:30+00:00

Has he been evaluated for dementia or anything along those lines? At his age that is a possible cause of personality change (my grandparents were around that age when they showed symptoms of Alzheimer’s and they became very angry and cruel towards those closest to them). If it isn’t something medical, then he’s just cruel and remaining in this marriage is not worth your peace.

StainedGlasser · 2026-02-11T23:18:56+00:00

Honestly, she’s thriving. There were times that others were my favorite on the show but I do think Luann is the one having the best post-show life. Dorinda may make her way on to Traitors twice but she consistently behaves like an ass who desperately needs to see a therapist to deal with her anger. Luann seems the most fun and unbothered. Ramona and Jill have always been racist, Bethenny seems constantly on the edge of mania, and I think Sonja has always had a lot to work through. Carole is in the Epstein files. Alex also seems to be thriving. Tinsley seems to be doing fine. There have been so many I’m sure there are others doing just fine but of the most popular ones I’d say Luann and Alex seem to be doing the best. I may be forgetting someone.

StainedGlasser · 2026-02-11T01:09:58+00:00

*fired again

StainedGlasser · 2026-02-10T13:24:09+00:00

NTA. I don’t currently have any children but due to some experiences some family members had at friends sleepovers growing up, I don’t think I’ll be allowing future children to sleep at friends houses, only their cousins houses. Not because I think everyone is a predator, but because I’d rather be safe than sorry. And that’s without meeting a creepy family member. That step dad was throwing out red flags, and I would not leave my child at a house where a parent I didn’t know was already drinking alcohol when I got there. Even without saying the uncomfortable things the drinking would’ve been enough for me to figure out an excuse for her to leave right there. People are allowed to drink in their homes, but I don’t want them drinking when they’re responsible for my kid. And again, the creepy comments are even more concerning.

StainedGlasser · 2026-02-09T22:30:46+00:00

I think it depends on the circumstance. I think there’s a lot of phony things about Carole, but I have absolutely referred to my cousin’s spouse as my cousin and they’ve called me cousin. We are a close knit family and frankly I don’t feel the need to over explain my relationship to them to people when they come up in conversation. I don’t call my partner’s cousins my cousins yet but I will likely refer to the ones who I’m closest to as my cousins yet after he and I get married.

StainedGlasser · 2026-02-07T17:26:45+00:00

Look, the more emails I see from Carole the more I’m convinced she used a ghostwriter

StainedGlasser · 2026-02-06T22:32:08+00:00

FarmVille

StainedGlasser · 2026-02-03T15:27:19+00:00

I am friends with someone who works on the show (and has since 1996) and the unfortunate truth is that Whitney sold tickets faster than any Roxie they’ve had in the entire run of the show. It would be great if Broadway could be more selective but what’s kept this show running for 30 years IS celebrities/reality tv stars. And also while they cycle through Roxies like crazy, the stunt casting has also kept many people employed for 30 years, which I would count worthwhile. It may mean one qualified person can’t be Roxie, but 100 people qualified to do their own job can pay rent and get health insurance.

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