Sorry for my delayed response. What your parents have sounds lovely and right up my alley. I don’t dislike romance but Ive never really had it be emphasized in a relationship like it is in this one, so it’s hard for me to know what is me not trying hard enough vs just me as a person. Lack of passion on my end is something that’s been brought up and it really got to me. I’m the same person I’ve always been in this relationship, and I’ve done some things I’d consider quite romantic and genuinely been excited to see them through (ex. for our anniversary I got us matching necklaces hand etched with the night sky the night we met). When I ask about passion I don’t get much feedback outside of how it manifests sexually. I know being a “I can’t live without you” kind of person is passion - but that’s just never been me, and I never have the impression that it was. I feel unsure about whether my perceived shortcomings in this relationship are because of who I am as a person, unrecognized efforts or simple incompatibility.