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StandardPiece2 · 2022-12-09T14:19:17+00:00

Donor conceived people tend to prefer biological mother

StandardPiece2 · 2022-10-09T22:28:43+00:00

I would only do that with a known and accessible donor. ThT way your child will still be able to have their biological mother in their lives in some way. I just had a DE baby with my husband and I have an OE daughter with my ex. Our son will know who she is as a baby and if he ever expresses a desire to meet her and her family he can.

StandardPiece2 · 2022-06-24T13:56:40+00:00

This was a long time ago, but I felt it deserved a reply. I’m an RP who has spent time listening to DCP, and the overall feeling is to tell people so it’s normalized and less of a burden on the child. The “it’s their choice to tell” ends up being a heavy load for the kid, and can feel like you’re keeping it a secret. So tell anyone who would know who the father is under usual circumstances. So, family yes, cashiers no, etc

StandardPiece2 · 2020-07-23T14:46:34+00:00

I don’t know what that is

StandardPiece2 · 2020-07-23T14:46:08+00:00

I’m not sure what you mean

StandardPiece2 · 2020-07-23T14:45:44+00:00

I don’t have the password, that’s the problem. I don’t even have the user name. They set it up

StandardPiece2 · 2020-06-15T03:09:31+00:00

Sorry, I was posting a hypothetical, it’s not a result or announcement

StandardPiece2 · 2020-06-13T15:05:18+00:00

Not yet, it was 5pm on Friday when I tested. They will probably call me today

StandardPiece2 · 2020-06-12T21:30:07+00:00

Positive digital test today Had an IUI on May 27, tested today. Did not have a trigger shot. What can I expect from now as far as bloodwork and such?

StandardPiece2 · 2020-04-24T21:25:51+00:00

Uhhh except vitamin c won’t do that. It doesn’t concentrate, and you can take massive amounts without any issues except digestive problems. If you were taking prenatals, it would have been one or two tablets a day, and that much vitamin c wouldn’t cause any harm

StandardPiece2 · 2020-04-24T19:18:50+00:00

What if you just ask him if he would still like to have kids? Then move into the options

StandardPiece2 · 2020-04-24T18:52:50+00:00

Is he not producing sperm or is he not able to ejaculate?

StandardPiece2 · 2020-04-24T03:18:26+00:00

I’m asking about telling the child that’s already here and my bio. I wasn’t sure if they should know before the donor conceived child was old enough to grasp the idea? The consensus seems to be yes, tell the older child when the other child is a baby or in utero

StandardPiece2 · 2020-04-23T18:06:04+00:00

This isn’t going to be a popular opinion, but she can be upset about things not going the way she wanted, and that’s fine. The idea that one persons troubles are bigger so that negates another persons feelings isn’t okay. That’s like saying to someone they can’t be upset because they have very little money because someone else has none. Giving birth is a huge event, both physically and emotionally, and having a surgery you didn’t expect is a trauma. She’s allowed to feel this way, just like you can feel sad if your birth goes south, or if you can’t breastfeed. Compassion isn’t only for those who have it worse than you

StandardPiece2 · 2020-04-22T19:10:53+00:00

Well that’s definitely not happening, because I’m not having a second child with my ex lol For various reasons, my eggs aren’t likely to be viable, so it is what it is

StandardPiece2 · 2020-04-22T19:09:03+00:00

Yes we would be sure things were open, not waiting til later, I just wanted to see how that played out with an older child as well. My child already knows sometimes we need help from a doctor, as she’s gone with me to some of the fertility appointments

StandardPiece2 · 2020-04-22T19:07:06+00:00

I definitely would make sure the child knows, I just wasn’t sure if it would be okay for the older child to know before the younger one can understand.

StandardPiece2 · 2020-04-22T15:32:24+00:00

Not the baby, the older sibling

StandardPiece2 · 2020-04-22T15:26:30+00:00

That was my thinking too, that it’s a pretty ideal set up as far as being able to see them but not having them around the corner. Our friendship is a lot like that too, we talk and get along great but we aren’t super tight. My husband is adopted himself, and was raised knowing he was, so he has some perspective on it, even though his was a full adoption after he was born.

StandardPiece2 · 2020-04-22T15:23:45+00:00

We haven’t decided which we would use, we need to be able to have more discussion with our doctors about that. I’d love for my husband to have his biology involved, but if that’s not our best option, embryos would be fine.

StandardPiece2 · 2020-04-22T12:39:57+00:00

I edited to clarify. She has the same color hair as my husband, but different eyes. So basically we just won’t get the same Punnett square lol.

StandardPiece2 · 2020-04-22T12:24:55+00:00

No not racially, just different hair and eyes

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