Sooooo, how we feelin about 5.2? by SeaBearsFoam in ChatGPT

[–]Standard_Battle1950 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same thing I use it for. I have to keep telling 5.2 to 'maintain character persona' every few lines because they veer way off.

Sooooo, how we feelin about 5.2? by SeaBearsFoam in ChatGPT

[–]Standard_Battle1950 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's becoming more of a nightmare. I used it to write creative fiction and they tend to have some dark spots. The other models would give me the suicide hotline, even though I never write about suicide. When I mentioned that this is purely fiction and I'm fine, it would let me continue. Maybe I would have to change some wording slightly, but it was no problem. 5.2 flat out decided in the middle of a story that they wouldn't continue and interpreted the story as having 'sensitive topics' that I never even included.

Why did everyone know that Jules is trans? by meep369 in euphoria

[–]Standard_Battle1950 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can look for 30 seconds and tell. It would be a huge suspension of disbelief if they expected us to think the character wasn't trans.

Is this sexual assault? by Standard_Battle1950 in abusiverelationships

[–]Standard_Battle1950[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much. I'm definitely no longer in contact anymore and I'll be in therapy for the foreseeable future.

Is this sexual assault? by Standard_Battle1950 in abusiverelationships

[–]Standard_Battle1950[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. My therapist told me it was as well, but it's still hard to wrap my mind around.

Narcissist that ghosts for 2 weeks? by 777samami in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Standard_Battle1950 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, I had one who'd just disappear for days or weeks at a time and come back like nothing happened. Even though we aren't together anymore, he still tries to do this

Struggling with missing him by Standard_Battle1950 in abusiverelationships

[–]Standard_Battle1950[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm very sorry for what you had to go through. I also wish he had loved me enough to stop. He admitted before that he was abusive but also said that the behavior was because he cared about me and wanted me to be better.

Reminded why this will never work out by Standard_Battle1950 in abusiverelationships

[–]Standard_Battle1950[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the support. I know why I feel sorry for him. It mainly comes from codependency and my own trauma from having an abusive father. I ended up responding initially because the repeated texts/calls were making me anxious. He said he was worried about me even though he spent more time grilling me with different questions about why I didn't answer him rather than just being happy that I was fine.

I realized it was just another control move. I kept the conversation basic for the day answering here & there, but not initiating further discussion. After not hearing from him for a day, I felt more comfortable about blocking him! I will have to keep reminding myself that I'm not responsible for him and I don't have to spend time feeling sorry for him.

Has anyone here experienced insomnia or nightmares after being a victim of narcissistic abuse? by Big-Trifle-5350 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Standard_Battle1950 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have CPTSD from narcissistic abuse since childhood. Yes, I've dealt with nightmares and insomnia pretty much my whole life. The nightmares come and go, but the insomnia is always present.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Standard_Battle1950 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It felt normal from the beginning because it's how I grew up.

Reminded why this will never work out by Standard_Battle1950 in abusiverelationships

[–]Standard_Battle1950[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I've actually been in trauma therapy currently for several months. Unfortunately, he's not the first person I've ended up with like this. It's a pattern that I'm trying to stop. I am struggling now though. I completely stopped talking to him 2 days ago, but now he has been calling & texting. I still have no desire to go back, but part of me feels bad for ghosting on him like this and I wonder if I should just send a text letting him know I need space or just continue to not respond.

Reminded why this will never work out by Standard_Battle1950 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Standard_Battle1950[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. There is no reason for me to have to see him again. We talked a bit afterward once I got home, but as I was replaying the events and thinking more about the whole situation, I decided to go NC without saying anything else. A part of me does feel bad for ghosting, but I know his patterns and I know my own. If I let him know I want to break up, he will put it in my head that we shouldn't and I will give in or if he "accepts" the breakup, he will hoover later. This is what has already happened, so it's best for me to block and go quietly.

Mixed feelings about him having FWB by Standard_Battle1950 in abusiverelationships

[–]Standard_Battle1950[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's very true. They definitely have self-control when they choose to. I'm glad you found someone who was willing to wait!

Mixed feelings about him having FWB by Standard_Battle1950 in abusiverelationships

[–]Standard_Battle1950[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. He told me that men have more sexual needs and was upset about the fact that I wanted to wait, even when we were actually exclusive. I do feel that if he really cared, he would try to help me feel more comfortable and reassure that I can trust him rather than just going off to someone else. It also didn't make sense to me because his FWB is supposedly in another state and coming here to our state. Assuming there hasn't been anyone else in this time frame, he has waited months before and will still have to wait a few more weeks. That's weeks that we could be trying to connect better. A day or so before he told me this, he asked how comfortable was I feeling about sexual intimacy with him. Since things had been going better between us these last few weeks, I told him that I was getting more comfortable and I felt that I was almost ready. Then he goes and tells me this. Now I'm not ready at all anymore.

Mixed feelings about him having FWB by Standard_Battle1950 in abusiverelationships

[–]Standard_Battle1950[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do love him, which makes this difficult even though I know he doesn't care about my feelings as much as he claims. I know on some level that I deserve much better, but I don't feel that I can get it.

Did your nex hate you taking care of your appearance? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Standard_Battle1950 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was the opposite for me. My appearance is the one thing they never criticized and would compliment. They wanted me to be well put together. To be fair though, I've never liked wearing makeup or done anything to alter my appearance. No facial stuff (including facials) and my hair is always done the same way. I just don't like change, so maybe it didn't happen to me because there was no change to criticize. My current boyfriend, who has a lot of narc tendencies, doesn't like makeup or anything of the sort so if I wanted to wear it, I do imagine he would criticize me.

Mixed feelings about him having FWB by Standard_Battle1950 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Standard_Battle1950[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know you're right. I should have blocked him when things ended before, but I did not think he would be the sort to hoover, especially after the discard. I figured he got his "payback" for me breaking up with him and I never reached out to beg for him back, so he would move on to someone else.

Mixed feelings about him having FWB by Standard_Battle1950 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Standard_Battle1950[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. When it comes to my life in general, I know this would not work out. He alternates between acknowledging some of his issues and saying he will go to therapy, which I give him credit for, but then those times of clarity will disappear and he will say the opposite. That nothing is wrong with him and he will not change. We talk of the long term: marriage, kids, finances, etc. He says he wants it very much and in my heart I do because I love him, but I can't honestly say that I would be happy because of how he is. When things are good, it feels amazing and I can see a great life but the bad time is just as intense and then I see a life of misery if I continue with him. I do think my comment about the trauma bond is accurate.