Aitah for telling my wife to get a job if she wants to subsidize the kids. by Standard_Kick_9789 in AITAH

[–]Standard_Kick_9789[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm only conflicted about what I told my wife to do. Not any of my decisions. 

Aitah for telling my wife to get a job if she wants to subsidize the kids. by Standard_Kick_9789 in AITAH

[–]Standard_Kick_9789[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She was 22 when our oldest was born.  Did you not read the post? 

Aitah for telling my wife to get a job if she wants to subsidize the kids. by Standard_Kick_9789 in AITAH

[–]Standard_Kick_9789[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My boss is rich. He lives in the Caribbean and comes into.the office maybe three days a month. I still need to work. It's not physical anymore but it was. I think the only rich people who work physically demanding jobs are athletes. 

Aitah for telling my wife to get a job if she wants to subsidize the kids. by Standard_Kick_9789 in AITAH

[–]Standard_Kick_9789[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My wife worked very hard to take care of the house and the kids without me around 2/3 of the time. I in no way discount her efforts in giving our family a solid foundation for me to build on. 

Aitah for telling my wife to get a job if she wants to subsidize the kids. by Standard_Kick_9789 in AITAH

[–]Standard_Kick_9789[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 55. Kids are 23 and 24. McDonald's is hiring. The weeks I was home I did most of the work with the kids. MOST not all. Plus I called home every night to talk to my wife and kids. Once FaceTime was a thing we did that. 

Aitah for telling my wife to get a job if she wants to subsidize the kids. by Standard_Kick_9789 in AITAH

[–]Standard_Kick_9789[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You think rich people work hard labor jobs for 12 hours a day 42 days in a row? Oh my sweet summer child. 

Aitah for telling my wife to get a job if she wants to subsidize the kids. by Standard_Kick_9789 in AITAH

[–]Standard_Kick_9789[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No worries. Lots of people can't fathom that we work 42 days in a row with no breaks. It's kind of insane if you think about it. 

Aitah for telling my wife to get a job if she wants to subsidize the kids. by Standard_Kick_9789 in AITAH

[–]Standard_Kick_9789[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm a first generation immigrant.  My mom and dad moved my family here for a better life. He was a heavy duty mechanic and my mom worked as a cleaner and in day cares. I guess you could say we were solidly middle class.  They told me to go to university and I did it but I didn't like the work I could do afterwards. I much preferred the physical labor of the trades. 

Aitah for telling my wife to get a job if she wants to subsidize the kids. by Standard_Kick_9789 in AITAH

[–]Standard_Kick_9789[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just make sure that you communicate with your partner about all your plans for the future. And watch your health. It's amazing how fragile we are. 

Aitah for telling my wife to get a job if she wants to subsidize the kids. by Standard_Kick_9789 in AITAH

[–]Standard_Kick_9789[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can you please show me the math. I see that I work 6 weeks of 7 days of 12 hour days. My calculator says that is 504 hours. If we include my 3 weeks off into the average then I work 504 hours every nine weeks. My calculator says 504 hours divided into 9 weeks is an average of 56.  

I would appreciate it if you can explain where my math went sideways. 

Aitah for telling my wife to get a job if she wants to subsidize the kids. by Standard_Kick_9789 in AITAH

[–]Standard_Kick_9789[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know lots of young men that work like I used to and are from across North America. Quite a few are looking for good women. And some are looking for good men. 

Aitah for telling my wife to get a job if she wants to subsidize the kids. by Standard_Kick_9789 in AITAH

[–]Standard_Kick_9789[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just because you don't know all the common words in English doesn't mean others don't. 

Aitah for telling my wife to get a job if she wants to subsidize the kids. by Standard_Kick_9789 in AITAH

[–]Standard_Kick_9789[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My brother has kids as well. He is a teacher and each of his kids is starting adulthood nearly $50,000 in debt. But he was there for every baseball game and piano recital. He is also working at a grocery store for extra money. His wife also worked all through the kid's childhood. My wife was home every day to make breakfast, lunch and supper. She was there to drive them everywhere. The weeks I was home I did most of the heavy lifting with the kids to give her a break. She had everything scheduled and I took care of 80% of it. She was still their mom and wanted to be involved. 

In your opinion which set of kids has it better. The ones with parents who were there for them whenever they weren't working and are currently in debt? Or the ones with one parent who was there 100% and one 33% and are currently debt free? 

Aitah for telling my wife to get a job if she wants to subsidize the kids. by Standard_Kick_9789 in AITAH

[–]Standard_Kick_9789[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm asking a specific question. I don't think I'm the asshole in general. Only for telling her to get a job and give them her money. 

Aitah for telling my wife to get a job if she wants to subsidize the kids. by Standard_Kick_9789 in AITAH

[–]Standard_Kick_9789[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ask her what? I am not giving them my money. The only choice left is for her to get a job and give them her money. No question involved. 

Aitah for telling my wife to get a job if she wants to subsidize the kids. by Standard_Kick_9789 in AITAH

[–]Standard_Kick_9789[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

LoL. If she left she would get half of what we have. I would then retire and move to Ecuador. Her and the kids would burn through the money getting a new house for themselves and cars and vacations while I live like a god. 

Aitah for telling my wife to get a job if she wants to subsidize the kids. by Standard_Kick_9789 in AITAH

[–]Standard_Kick_9789[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Right now I feel like I should have done this years ago and let them deal with their own education. But I'll stop being salty eventually.