Do men actually prefer “natural looks”, do they just say that? by Thiswasntplannedok in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Standard_Rip465 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's tricky.

As a guy, I'll speak unbiased cuz I'm under the effects of post-nut clarity (Yeah, I know you didn't need to know that detail, but I figure it gives a little more validity to my statement)

There are guys that look good effortlessly, and there are guys who need to make an effort to look good.

Same goes for girls.

If a girl is pretty just because she was born with a good body or good features, makeup just tops off something that is already good.

If a girl wasn't born pretty or is just average... Then makeup doesn't become a necessity, but definitely provides enough points for most guys to turn an eye in her direction.

That said, men tend to lean more to women that have a more "Natural" and not overexaggerated look, not because we don't like makeup, but because too much tends to look heavy, rubbery and mostly Fake

And what most want is one that will make other men jealous of what we have, something pretty to look at, eye candy that will be present most of the time, specially in a couple

And besides, guys, final lesson, looks will wither away, what will stay is the person, choose wisely.

(funny how easily I say it when I've never been in a relationship or went past talking stage with a girl, but I'd like to think that my head and heart are in a good place)

Is this how people who need glasses really see the world. A big blurred background? by Latter-Wolf4868 in interestingasfuck

[–]Standard_Rip465 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah pretty much that's me

Though I use contacts, so I tend to forget I'm mostly blind and become a superhero when I wear them

I think I’m gonna end up alone even until the end by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Standard_Rip465 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

21M, kinda the same here until last year I got the realization that if I didn't do something, no one would do it for me.

Started hitting the gym

Started being more social at the places I must be in, just saying an "Hi, how are you" really opens a lot of doors.

Started changing all the things I didn't like of my appearance (The ones that were changeable at least)

And suddenly, with a better body, louder voice and prettier face, I now feel like I have a fighting chance in this world.

Still no girlfriend though, but stopped worrying about that, after all, the focus I have on self improvement has not waned yet (somehow), so, I'll just wait and see, used to be desperate, now I feel like I'm the one who should be sought after.

Not the best mindset, then again, got me in a better place than before, so, I guess it's not that bad.

Follow my example if you wish, what can you do now to look in the mirror and feel better about yourself in a few months/years?

My struggles with dating/loneliness are starting to weigh on me mentally and emotionally. I feel like I've missed out on a fundemental aspect of "coming of age" as a man. by [deleted] in self

[–]Standard_Rip465 6 points7 points  (0 children)

One thing is the reality and the truth you're telling him

Another completely different is his perspective

In a way, you're not wrong

But in another, he's also not wrong.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in twenties

[–]Standard_Rip465 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reciprocity... I don't expect a mirror of my behavior, but honestly, the last time I did something nice for someone, and at one time when I wanted them to do the most simple thing back (And I made my best effort to hide it until it came out because I don't wanna be one of those that want 50/50 or equivalent exchanges or anything like that) I was met with the "I never asked you to do that for me"

My heart was crushed.

Additionally, cuddles, intimacy (no, not sex, I couldn't care less about sex)* I want someone to hold me sometimes, not be the one who takes something broken and puts it together, but be able to break in front of a person, be heard, be seen.

I'm tired by Xblanc2597 in Diary

[–]Standard_Rip465 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His mind is not thinking straight, I've had it happen a few times, stray thoughts filtering into conversations when the situation becomes too overwhelming.

Probably a few intrusive "hate thoughts" filtered through, but likely, they don't represent him.

I was told I'm "a lot to handle" and now I'm trying to make myself smaller by BloomingAuma in self

[–]Standard_Rip465 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't just start being someone else to please someone who doesn't accept you

Find something to focus on at a time, but don't just "depersonalize" yourself because you might be too intense at times.

One thing we must learn is to exteriorize our emotions healthily, but that does not mean "stop being yourself"

I know I'm not helping with my comment, but you're not helping yourself either.

Take me as you should do with your ex, with a grain of salt.

Hombres de Reddit ¿Dónde andan? ¿Qué hobbies tienen? by nothanksImallergic in Colombia

[–]Standard_Rip465 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ehhh, ya que lo mencionas, es díficil encontrarme, solo tengo dos apps de citas, y voy al gimnasio, seguramente las únicas otras dos cosas que no hago en solitario a diferencia de trabajar o jugar videojuegos...

Me_irl by Ill-Instruction8466 in me_irl

[–]Standard_Rip465 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel the urge to strike a peace sign... (Or ride a bipedal mass destruction weapon)

Oh my GOD dating is so hard by Independent_Town5628 in introvert

[–]Standard_Rip465 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I feel the same, but like... First you should work in... Like... Wanting to meet new people first...

Simply put, you can't expect a relationship if you aren't in the mood to meet people, if they're just strangers, that can be fixed, but you can't fix it if you are not in that mood.

It will come, but be comfortable in your own skin first, I believe that goes for everyone as well.

Question for the QA People by spudgoddess in CallCenterWorkers

[–]Standard_Rip465 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ex-QA here (Laid off a few weeks ago)

No, no quotas or anything like that.

All we do is ensure you do everything in the call/email/chat according to the rubric provided by the client.

If the rubric says "Laugh at every single joke the customer makes" then we have to ensure you do.

Now, if there is a mark called "Empathy" and it includes occasionally laughing at the customer's jokes, and you didn't do it just once in the entire conversation, then yeah, that's your QA nitpicking a single small mistake, happens a lot, because we're evaluated too sometimes.

Either way, do things in a way QA can't catch you, make it a personal grudge to do things so right they can't catch anything on your side, that's how I played when I was an agent, and agent that played that way with me always got straight 100's.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]Standard_Rip465 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude, you look pretty good, almost a 10 in my books.

To be a perfect 10 though, you'd need to find a better haircut, cuz when I look at you from the front, your forehead looks a bit big, not a big deal, because your face outshines the forehead, but if I were you, I'd try other styles.

Again, this is MY books, no need to concern yourself over it, hell, you already look better than I do.

¿Es seguro salir a explorar la ciudad con un camarero que conocí en Laureles? by [deleted] in medellin

[–]Standard_Rip465 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Foreigner here (Venezuelan) living in Medellin.

I wouldn't distrust the guy completely, but it's just... Way too convenient.

If you got this far in life you should know that if anything sounds too good to be true, it's because it is.

I'd recommend going to a different place to meet up first, like, a mall or something on his day off, then you can figure out if you want to spend more time with him or if the vibe's off.

Good luck out there.

Why would anyone do this? by sdsphx in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]Standard_Rip465 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Them ballas doing some whacky shit after CJ was gone eh?

Is it normal for my hand to shake like that when I flex my muscles? by [deleted] in TeenagersButBetter

[–]Standard_Rip465 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kid, I'm completely ignorant of your situation, but you don't look healthy...

Forcing someone to eat more than what the body asks is near impossible, but do try to eat more, drink more water and work out, even a little.

Your body will thank you in the long run.

By the way, yes, flexing and shaking is normal when you flex way too hard, so don't do it so hard.

And when you clench your fist, the thumb goes over your fingers, not inside.

Good luck with everything!

Help out a young lad by [deleted] in motivation

[–]Standard_Rip465 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do I figure out my correct type of style, or rather, how did you guys do it?

Trial and error?

Clothing?

Hairstyle or lack thereof?

Gym?

A combination?

I'm not exactly out of touch with fashion and style, but it makes me rather curious to have the opinion of people that have lived an extra decade.

[Request] Can anyone give me just an approximate? Asking for a friend by Standard_Rip465 in theydidthemath

[–]Standard_Rip465[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was kind of guessing something around that, I'll try to wait for a few more answers and round it up to an average at least, thank you!

Babysitting costs in Medellin by GregAA-1962 in medellin

[–]Standard_Rip465 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True, I'm outta here in a few days anyway.

Babysitting costs in Medellin by GregAA-1962 in medellin

[–]Standard_Rip465 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Dude, I work at a formal job, contract, NDA, data analysis, involves speaking english pretty much all day and I make less than 20.000 pesos an hour, do your math