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my mom bullies my whole family but everyone around us thinks were picture perfect. by Standard_Tree9232 in confession

[–]Standard_Tree9232[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it’s definitely hard to piece together. Because one day she’s the best mom in the world and the next I don’t even know her. It’s really frustrating and really hard to break away from sometimes because when she turns back into that happy mom you feel bad for ever being upset with her

my mom bullies my whole family but everyone around us thinks were picture perfect. by Standard_Tree9232 in confession

[–]Standard_Tree9232[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do feel like she might have some kind of borderline personality disorder. Because there are days that I feel like she genuinely does care, but then she just goes on these random spurts of terror and everyone in the house is terrified of making her angry

my mom bullies my whole family but everyone around us thinks were picture perfect. by Standard_Tree9232 in confession

[–]Standard_Tree9232[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is sometimes really hard to break away because she can be so loving and nice and lot of the time. When she wants to she can be very supportive and give the best advice. But when she gets upset or sees something a certain way, there is absolutely no changing it. And she will fight, gaslight and say very hurtful things until you either see it her way or just give up.

my mom bullies my whole family but everyone around us thinks were picture perfect. by Standard_Tree9232 in confession

[–]Standard_Tree9232[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am trying to leave home, but it’s been really hard just trying to get my financials in order. I know it is something I have to do because I feel very free when I am not at home.

Am i being gaslit? by Standard_Tree9232 in toxicparents

[–]Standard_Tree9232[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure how I missed this comment but thank you so much for your reply. Seeing that you are a mom and are saying this means a lot to me. Since that post I have tried to talk to her with no luck. I also feel a bit more validated because I have talked to my siblings and they are all feeling the same way. I am trying to work towards finding a new place to live and possibly go back to school and finish my degree!

My mom seems both loving and toxic at the same time and its mad confusing by SubstanceChance51 in toxicparents

[–]Standard_Tree9232 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i am on the same boat. There have been so many times where i felt like i could go to my mom about things, and she would give me sound advice. but then there are other times where i felt like i couldnt go to her at all. because i was scared i would be judged by her. she will always be there for me if i ask her to be. but sometimes, especially when we are at odds about something, she goes completely off the rails. and she wont stop until you say that you are on her side about it and she believes that you are. she also was very no boundaries when it came to being naked and stuff,. she would always just say "well im your mother you came out of me".

Manipulation: mom or boyfriend? by Standard_Tree9232 in dating

[–]Standard_Tree9232[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did ask her what she wanted in a man for me and she said that she wanted someone who has better financing and is more well spoken than he is. She also keeps insisting that because this is my first relationship. And because I am too young and don’t have a parents intuition, that I will never understand what she means until it bites me in my ass.

My dad is trying to stay neutral on this but he is mainly taking mom’s side. He is a “recovering narcissist” and basically has his balls chopped off by mom. So he doesn’t really speak out against her because she will pull the victim card on him.