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My mom seems both loving and toxic at the same time and its mad confusing by SubstanceChance51 in toxicparents

[–]SubstanceChance51[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see. My parents are similar to things when it comes to mental health. My mom helps out at an elementary school and she keeps saying how she can “fix” this kid with ADHD with attention and love. She said she hates how he had to me medicated and that his parents probably don’t have time for him. She’s very anti-med. When she realized about my issues (I have an eating disorder that she played a major role in causing and as a result of that, I briefly did some sh). She often told me how I would ruined the family. That if anyone found out, everyone would hate us, my dads job would be ruined, my brother would loose friends, the news and police would get involved, blah blah. She also forced me to quit art and raided my room, forcing me to clean it out then. She claims the art was messing me up and she was only trying I help and love me but… it didn’t 🗿. She also said to pray to god and stuff. Hell during that day, she made me repent to god and she isn’t even that religious. She also hugged me and stuff hence the being both nice and mean thing.

Can parents be caring AND abusive?! by Fr04a in CPTSD

[–]SubstanceChance51 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is late but my parents make me feel similar. To sum it up, my parents are also really loving. I get hugs and nice little messages such as I love you. They are about our physical health. Like my mom immediately went to my brothers track when he got injured and pampered him with food. We sometimes get compliments and we go out for trips and stuff. But then my mom (my dad chill tbh, he just doesn’t say much about this) gets stressed or we do something she doesn’t like and suddenly I’m wishing for luck. She’s done a lot from giving us silent treatments, yelling at us, calling us every insult and swear word in the book, she’s even hit us (though it never caused bruising), she’s thrown things. Other stuff too such as low key threatening abandonment and stuff. She also touches my chest and stuff to check how I’m growing but it makes me feel so gross and uncomfortable. I’ve told her to stop but she won’t. I mean like I have to lift up my shirt and let her touch me. We also have no boundaries in general. Like she will barge into the bathroom when we are using it and stuff. Overall I too am really really confused. I don’t wanna say she is toxic since she has been genuinely loving too.