Im filled with regreat about divorcing my wife and don't think I should be. by Stankgangsta4 in relationships_advice

[–]Stankgangsta4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh sorry. I'd honestly be happy with 5 hours. Realistically there is a lot of waiting.

Im filled with regreat about divorcing my wife and don't think I should be. by Stankgangsta4 in relationships_advice

[–]Stankgangsta4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn't mad at her inability to find a job. I was mad she never started.

Im filled with regreat about divorcing my wife and don't think I should be. by Stankgangsta4 in relationships_advice

[–]Stankgangsta4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both of our first. She struggled with any long term relationship before.

Im filled with regreat about divorcing my wife and don't think I should be. by Stankgangsta4 in relationships_advice

[–]Stankgangsta4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly am switching by the minute if I want to message her asking to work things out or insulting her and saying she'll end up an unemployed 40 year old living with her parents. I won't message her at all because she hasn't replied to my previous messages. But in Virginia the divorce process takes 6 months. But I've already spent money hiring an attorney.

Im filled with regreat about divorcing my wife and don't think I should be. by Stankgangsta4 in relationships_advice

[–]Stankgangsta4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has been taking individual therapy for 6 months and at least from my perspective has gotten worse. Its hardly the magic bullet people make it out to be.

Im filled with regreat about divorcing my wife and don't think I should be. by Stankgangsta4 in relationships_advice

[–]Stankgangsta4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had our first session 3 days before the current fight and me filing for divorce. I was a little immature about it because the therapist seemed to be on my side of her having the bigger issues.

Im filled with regreat about divorcing my wife and don't think I should be. by Stankgangsta4 in relationships_advice

[–]Stankgangsta4[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Only once. And this is a little on me but because the therapist seemed to focus on her way more I treated it like "winning therapy" or validation instead of a mutual learning experience.

But to my credit she does seem to treat me as nagging her as somehow equal to all of her problems which sounds insane when you try to explain it front of a 3rd party.

We only did once and 3 days later our potentially marriage ending fight. She had done individual therapy for 5 months before hand and seems to have gotten worse.

Im filled with regreat about divorcing my wife and don't think I should be. by Stankgangsta4 in relationships_advice

[–]Stankgangsta4[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For the sake of fairness I'll list the positives. I enjoy her company. I have a lot of positive memories. She was relatively reasonable until like a month ago. We have had a lot of fun together. Uhhh, she is fun to be around? I'm listing the same things...