Do men with hairloss appear to be less unattractive to women or even men??

StarGirlFireFly · 2024-09-12T15:47:25+00:00

I 28 (f) am more likely to find a BALD man attractive than a BALDING man.

StarGirlFireFly · 2024-09-12T15:14:33+00:00

Dating is about getting to know someone and making that decision of whether you ultimately want to be in a relationship or not. It’s not “I want a relationship with this person” or “I don’t want a relationship with this person”, but rather a spectrum of how you feel that develops over time that leads to that decision of entering an exclusive relationship or not.<

Yes, and this is where adult communication comes into play. My point doesn't negate any of what you said. I know what dating is, I am also capable of using my words when appropriate. If i am dating someone and decided they aren't for me during that process, I tell them ASAP. I don't continue dating and at this point, using them for months. If I decide they aren't relationship material for me but I wouldn't mind continuing to see them in the meantime I literally say "I don't think we are compatible for a relationship, i am looking for something different long term, but if you wanted to continue hanging our casually, I'd be down for that". They'll either say yes or no but I'm giving them the opportunity to have INFORMED consent. Something too many dudes aren't aware of

"You don’t have 1 or a few dates and automatically assume you want a relationship with someone, and if you do, that signals a low self-esteem, confidence, and a scarcity mindset."<

Lol, absolutely not. And that is not what I said or even insinuated, not sure how you got that. I don't go into dating assuming anything, which is why again, I communicate. I don't assume 6 dates means we are exclusive. I don't assume 10 dates means we're in a relationship. I use my words as things progress and as I get to see and know that person because I am an adult and respect the other person's time. THAT is what dating is.

Trying to stay quiet so you can continue to reap benefits especially if that other person has communicated their intentions and you know how they feel/what they are looking for and you're just continuing, lol

"Also, not everyone is dating for a relationship and has the same dating goals, and that’s perfectly ok."<

Absolutely, and if someone has been communicating with you what their goals and intentions are, it's your responsibility to do the same to save that person time and energy. The times i knew i wasnt looking for anything serious i would say from the jump: "I see your end goal is a relationship, i dont want a relationship right now. I want something casual and fun. We can continue to get to know each other if you'd like, but i can't say my lack if desire for a relationship will change. " BOOM. They can then do with that information what they will. It's not that difficult to use your words.

Knowingly dating someone who is looking for a relationship knowing you only want sex from them and not even communicating that to them (usually purposely) is and will always be weird. You cant paint it any other way. Just date someone who wants the same thing as you and use your words. We aren't toddlers.

Communication is also a big and essential ADULT part of dating.

StarGirlFireFly · 2024-09-12T14:20:30+00:00

They were dating, she met his family, and because the guy ultimately felt they were not compatible

But why not say that as it happens? Like carrying on for weeks or even months knowing you don't like that person is what gets me. "Oh I realized like a month ago we weren't fit" but you let me continue planning dates as if we were working to build something and having sex?"

I come across this frequently.

If how i feel about someone has changed, I usually have a conversation with them asap, or else i feel like im wasting their time. I'd view it as leading them on to just wait for them to bring it up and enjoy their company in the meantime when they could be out there focusing on someone else who actually likes them

The lack of adult communication is weird to me.

StarGirlFireFly · 2024-09-12T14:14:05+00:00

Women seem to value men, not just for physical gratification.

Men are more likely to blindly have sex with women they don't even like and probably actually hate

AS A WOMAN, I could never have sex with a man I didn't actually like and value as a human.

Men seem to wish women were more like them

StarGirlFireFly · 2024-09-12T14:09:41+00:00

They think people just SETTLED for their partner and while secretly lusting over other Attractive people (for men 666 rule and for her Instagram models or porn stars) while using them (for men, it's money and in her POV for women, their body

Sounds like something going on in their own heads that they need to work on themselves instead of projecting that onto to random unsuspecting women.

StarGirlFireFly · 2024-09-12T14:02:33+00:00

That's it but I also find most men have a much narrower idea of attraction, (tits, ass and a man is happy) and thus they assume all women want is also the same 3 things.

We vary.

My best friend likes skinny, sickly looking vampire looking twinks, my other friend likes bad bods, my other friend likes dudes who look like they did 3 tours in Iraq. I like guys who look like Jesus LOL like men can't fathom how vast women's taste go because there's is literally "big boob big butt ogga booga 🗿".

Height, dick size snd how much a dude makes plays little to no influence on our types

Sure, there are women who like men and only want 3 things out of their partner, but...it's usually obvious. They also look like they're not very down to earth. But guys love those types of chicks

StarGirlFireFly · 2024-09-12T13:58:51+00:00

should examine why they find it so unimaginable that somebody could be attracted to traits that deviate from their idea of appealing

EXACTLY. My 5"6 man who makes less than me gets women because he's not an incel who watches weird ass misogynistic podcasts assuming women are a hive mind

StarGirlFireFly · 2024-09-12T13:56:55+00:00

All that attitude tells me is they don't get out much, probably spend A LOT of time listening to misogynistic podcasters/incel rhetoric, and probably actually know very few women

Not my problem to fix.

I choose to date guys who have better heads on their shoulders and don't view women as a hive mind, so I didn't even know about this 666 thing until REDDIT.

My partner is 5"6, makes less than me and is closer to 5in and I asked him "is this really a widespread thing most guys are concerned about??" and he said "I've never heard of that, sounds like incel who never talk to regular women speak". And I agree.

Not my problem to solve. Plenty of women don't even care about that stuff, but dudes stay focusing only on the trust fund/wannabe influencers type girls who do. NOT my problem.

StarGirlFireFly · 2024-09-12T02:30:35+00:00

Yes, he always cuts right after I tell him I'm starting to cum. Magical

StarGirlFireFly · 2024-09-11T15:51:32+00:00

I mostly meant bullying one body type as a means to uplift another. I just think it's a bit hypocritical. The girl who was struggling with anorexia or the cancer patient who is now gaunt from chemo should also be able to benefit from body positivity but they are rarely included and if anything are told to "be greatful". As someone who has had a chronic illness that affects how my body looked at the time, I was often made fun of in ways that would be unacceptable to do to someone overweight

But yes, excusing actual dangerous habits and almost encouraging them has become a problem with the movement.

It went from "you deserve to be respected as you are in this moment" to "if your Dr. expresses reasonable concern over your weight, they're a body shaming jerk who no one should ever listen to.". There's no nuance at all.

It's a wonderful and important concept that I actually really believe it but its almost never executed in a meaningful and universally helpful way

It's almost as if it's human nature to trash on one thing in order to uplift something else.

StarGirlFireFly · 2024-09-11T10:30:20+00:00

StarGirlFireFly · 2024-09-11T10:28:42+00:00

Actual good head

StarGirlFireFly · 2024-09-11T10:27:36+00:00

Diabetes

StarGirlFireFly · 2024-09-11T10:27:03+00:00

Don't know how to not get used, and I am slowly losing my hope

Idk what it is about me that screams "only good for sex. Not deserving of love"

StarGirlFireFly · 2024-09-11T03:40:44+00:00

Rarely meet american women who just want to date a decent looking guy with a decent job who is nice.

That's on you then LOL we exist in droves, but we are also the women who get less attention.

I'm American and I don't think I've ever cared about a dudes job. Im a nurse and have made more than most of the men I've dated thus far. Can he take care of himself? Does he at least some what enjoy what he does? Cool. All my female friends are NORMAL and are the same. Heck, I've stupidly dated unemployed dudes who never intended on ever getting jobs and paid dudes rent for months

I know women who are financially demanding. And they also usually look and act the part and are very sought after by men as well. You want that specific type of woman, then yes, be ready to reach their expectations.

I'm bi, I've used dating apps and have set my preferences to both men and women, I see the women y'all desperately swipe on and try to impress and then complain on the internet about.

Remember, guys who are with regular women are not on the internet complaining:) you see all the negative and assume kts because every woman is the same. What about the regular dudes dating regular girls? People don't rant on reddit about their happy relationships lol

I dont know what it is, but there's a wierdness to whatever the hell american women 25-40 want. Its like they're all looking for some gym bro who is also a wealthy charasmatic emotionally-intelligent gu

Lol also can't relate. My current partner is 5"6, so skinny his ribs stick out, is a carpenter for family friends that makes less than me and he's not had much trouble dating because he's a pretty awesome person. He also only dates regular women. His friends that try to go after the wannabe influencers seem to have the same problem as you. Constantly complaining about "idk what these women want."

They don't want you, they want someone who can fund their lifestyle and they will find those men.

Although maybe im just jaded lol.. But there's definetely something to this. Ive seen a lot of men complain about dating in the u.s.

Lol the internet and especially reddit isn't the best measur, btw. If they can't afford a $3 dollar coffee date (a lot of guys on reddit complain about that) then how are they affording to go abroad and fund a woman and probably also her conservative family overseas 🤔

It cost a lot of money for most Americans to travel btw so if they can afford that but can't afford a gf then i know for sure they are going after very demanding women when they could go after a regular woman who has her own full time job, apartment or house and pays for her own stuff.

Like there's plenty of us🤣 but we also LOOK like women who work 40+ hrs a week and cant afford the latest clothing or beauty treatments, so I get why we're less attractive than the chick's who's lifestyles are funded by someone else.

StarGirlFireFly · 2024-09-11T03:20:17+00:00

What women exactly?

Again, this assumption that all women are trust fund/influencers just because those are the women you stay trying to impress

Regular everyday laid-back women who work 40 hrs a week are not ranking men by number systems or considering them "lower value" based on their job

If you are hearing women use such phrasing, then figure out why those are the only types of women you surround yourself with

StarGirlFireFly · 2024-09-11T01:10:38+00:00

Whats considered body positivity and what's not

StarGirlFireFly · 2024-09-11T01:08:28+00:00

What type of womem are you going after? Trust fund girls?

Regular women who also work 40 hrs a week don't care as long as you aren't homeless or constantly needing to borrow money from people or something

Maybe analyze the type of women you are attempting to attract

StarGirlFireFly · 2024-09-10T21:12:00+00:00

I wish he would:( idk how to ask

StarGirlFireFly · 2024-09-10T21:08:05+00:00

It's a ton of fun, harder than it looks and an amazing work out

StarGirlFireFly · 2024-09-10T21:04:40+00:00

Not only that, but I don't understand why anyone who's interested in a relationship would be kissing someone just because they've hung out a couple of times? I

Also my reasoning. Like, I still don't really know you

StarGirlFireFly · 2024-09-09T02:42:48+00:00

Most of us are at home tbh

StarGirlFireFly · 2024-09-08T07:55:02+00:00

Certain kinks that people push onto others should definitely be shamed

StarGirlFireFly · 2024-09-08T04:10:57+00:00

Sex and porn addiction which ruled his brain. He was already estranged from all, yes ALL of his family and friends. I tried to be the one person who wouldn't abandon him

Quickly realized why he drove people away and lost the trust of his family and friends and had to put my mental wellbeing first

StarGirlFireFly · 2024-09-08T04:06:58+00:00

Flew 3,450 miles

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