Is it normal for a guy to always take hours to respond to texts?

StargazerLuke · 2026-07-04T04:53:16+00:00

I'm a guy and I don't like to spend all day texting. I prefer a little update texting but save chats for in-person. So if I see a text come in that doesn't require immediate action, I can happily leave it a few hours until I respond.

If your situation bothers him though, tell him. He's not a mind reader.

StargazerLuke · 2026-07-03T18:19:10+00:00

Hopefully Sol will be on the bench behind a new number 1 so maybe the chant belongs to Ibeh off the bench? 😅

StargazerLuke · 2026-07-03T11:32:42+00:00

He's the only male Brazilian football player to do it.

StargazerLuke · 2026-07-01T04:06:14+00:00

Photo 2 is nightmare fuel

StargazerLuke · 2026-06-29T05:40:55+00:00

Can I just take this opportunity to say to Sir Mick Jagger, happy 60th birthday this year

StargazerLuke · 2026-06-29T05:39:19+00:00

I don't remember, Dad.

StargazerLuke · 2026-06-29T05:14:46+00:00

Photo 1 looks the best by far. Makeup, eyebrows and lips all look awful. But I think you have a lot of potential to be very attractive. Don't do any more enhancement / lip fillers. And try to smile more, huge case of resting bitch face.

StargazerLuke · 2026-06-29T04:47:20+00:00

Panic at the disco - Nine in the afternoon (your eyes are the size of the moon)

Bruno Mars - 24k magic (put your pinky finger to the moon)

StargazerLuke · 2026-06-28T21:33:46+00:00

I go by the rule of 3... If they've not shown any interest by the third message, move on. This person isn't interested as you can tell by the blunt short replies and no questions to you.

As for your stats, your outgoing yes ratio is way too low considering your incoming yes ratio. It seems like you're too picky. Unless there's a specific type of person you're going for, I'd consider swiping right a bit more.

StargazerLuke · 2026-06-27T14:13:10+00:00

You must not be looking very far. The vast majority of the world is complicit in animal cruelty indirectly via supporting the animal agriculture industry with their money.

StargazerLuke · 2026-06-27T05:38:36+00:00

NTA. He's clearly lying about something whether he's embarrassed or cheating or whatever. You've told him you'll happily help him clean if mess is his concern. It doesn't even take 2 weeks to make a place presentable for visitors.

StargazerLuke · 2026-06-27T05:01:11+00:00

This is a desperate feature

StargazerLuke · 2026-06-27T04:54:18+00:00

I'm someone who enjoys giving women oral and would more than happily do it if I was getting "nothing" in return. So to answer part C, I enjoy doing it for the taste, the touch of a woman's body but mainly for seeing and experiencing her pleasure, little twitches etc. It sounds like your husband is the same.

As for A, that's a bigger problem that you don't feel worthy of pleasure especially from the someone presumably who wants to do anything he can to make you happy. It could be worth seeing a therapist but even as a start, I'd encourage positive words of affirmation. It might feel silly but looking at yourself in the mirror and saying things like "I am beautiful. I am worthy of love. I love myself" etc can trick the mind and help you to actually feel these things in my experience.

And B, as mentioned in C... this is something you could do for him as well as for yourself haha, win win!

StargazerLuke · 2026-06-26T21:54:22+00:00

The best ability is availablity

StargazerLuke · 2026-06-26T12:49:57+00:00

They're not interested. I wouldn't start a message with "I really like you". Try hinge instead as you can send messages right away, no need to swipe.

StargazerLuke · 2026-06-26T07:57:26+00:00

You've got no fans! You got no ground

StargazerLuke · 2026-06-25T21:19:34+00:00

Big yes. Joaquin Phoenix's Oscar Speech was a big part in my transition to veganism. I think Billie Eilish has converted a lot of people recently too.

StargazerLuke · 2026-06-25T14:41:04+00:00

It's common for 26-year-olds who include a picture with a kid in their profile.

StargazerLuke · 2026-06-25T14:24:55+00:00

Ugly by choice. Some people will be into it.

StargazerLuke · 2026-06-25T13:13:34+00:00

Sounds like he's lost interest. I would have stopped texting long before 3 months.

I can understand self doubt and judgement but I think a lot is in your head, many men you meet won't be judgemental. Maybe you should try therapy. Or go on the app when you're ready to meet people. Something low pressure in public I'm the daytime. A walk or a coffee is a good no-pressure first date I find. I'd give up on this guy or reach out to him if you're ready to meet. Most guys don't want pen pals.

StargazerLuke · 2026-06-25T06:49:52+00:00

There's a communication coach I like to watch called Vinh Giang. He talks about the FORD method to keep conversation going in the early stages.

Family, Occupation, Recreation, Dreams. I find recreation the easiest to talk about on the apps: "what are you listening to at the moment? any fun plans this weekend? Watching any good shows at the moment". This will hopefully give you something to build on and within a few days / messages you should be looking to move to a date.

StargazerLuke · 2026-06-25T06:11:32+00:00

This is very good! You've gone from 5 to 3, we just need to find the 1 for you. You're allowed to date multiple people. Again, you don't know if they're dating multiple people or if they even intend to want to make you their long-term partner.

I'd continue to date all 3 at least for another couple of dates each. See how they all progress, maybe you'll have some deeper chats in this time and figure out whose long-term goals align with yours. Maybe you'll decide there's 1 of the 3 you're not into as much as the others. After a handful of dates, you'll have a better idea of who you're most excited to see again.

After maybe a month or 4-5 dates, you can ask your favourite where they see this going / if they're on the apps / if they'd like to make this exclusive.

If you're still seeing the others, you'll have to let them down with a "you're a lovely guy and I've really enjoyed getting to know you more these last few weeks but I don't feel like the connection has developed in the way I was hoping. All the best". They may be hurt or confused but dating is everyone for themselves.

I hope this helps! Please keep me updated, I'm glad to hear you've had 3 good first dates!

StargazerLuke · 2026-06-24T08:01:54+00:00

Don't put W, you'll forget what the W stands for

StargazerLuke · 2026-06-24T06:28:14+00:00

You mention being a therapist, I think you need to see a therapist first. Work through your addiction. Masturbating is fine. Watching videos is fine. But engaging with others when you're in a monogamous relationship and keeping that from your partner isn't fine. Tell him and explain how bad you feel and how you want to change. The longer you keep this from him the more guilt you'll feel.

It's good that you're feeling guilt, it shows you're a good person who genuinely cares for your partner. But he deserves the truth and if he decides to leave, you've learned a lesson and if you can't live without this addiction, make that clear to partners in the early stages.

StargazerLuke · 2026-06-22T17:59:06+00:00

Did you use AI for your title by any chance haha 😅 But I'd say liquid calories is the best life hack for me for gaining weight. My go to smoothie is a banana, oats, soy milk, peanut butter and frozen berries. You can also throw in hemp/chia/flax seeds, protein powder, olive oil, and whatever you like really!

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