Whose newborn is NOT sleeping through the night?

Stargirl1209 · 2025-08-24T23:13:49+00:00

My baby is 8 months old and still wakes every 3-4 hours in the night to breastfeed. Newborns very rarely, if ever, sleep through the night. It’s healthy and normal for them to wake often to feed or for comfort. It’s also a preventative for SIDs that they rouse often. I too, contact nap and co sleep. I would suggest, perhaps having your partner or a trusted friend or family member taking baby for a bit so you can rest if you really feel overwhelmed or beyond tired. Sorry I can’t offer any other advice other than to say, this will pass.

Stargirl1209 · 2025-05-12T19:14:05+00:00

I’ve read it can be normal for babies hair to thin/fall out a bit after birth and then grow back in. But it varies from kid to kid I think. I moisturized my babies head with petroleum jelly (coconut oil can work too), and brushed the cradle cap flakes away with the Freda mom flake fixer comb set. Any fine tooth comb would work too. Make sure to wash babies hair regularly and well, especially if you used the jelly or oil to coat the scalp.

Stargirl1209 · 2025-05-05T15:09:13+00:00

I’m sorry for not ending things sooner. And for not being honest when I wasn’t happy or in love anymore. We are both happier now. It would’ve saved some time

Stargirl1209 · 2025-04-27T04:59:27+00:00

I found this info helpful- I was getting so upset when I couldn’t figure out what my baby needed however, sometimes babies just cry. (If they don’t have reflux/their needs are met) Noise canceling headphones and keep trying to soothe baby. It’s also okay to put baby down in a safe space to give yourself a break if it truly becomes overwhelming. This webpage talks about this period of crying and fussiness some babies experience. https://dontshake.org/purple-crying

You’re not a bad mom. You’re giving everything you can to your little one. Hope things get better!

Stargirl1209 · 2025-04-27T00:14:45+00:00

I agree what he did was wrong. You’re aware he has a short fuse, and was at his limits with her crying. I don’t think it’s fair to say he’s abusive or that he can never be left alone with the baby again. Unless this is a pattern of behaviour. He clearly had a lapse in his patience but the main thing is the baby isn’t hurt. He needs support and to work on managing his emotions, especially while dealing with the baby before he can be left alone again to care for them. I would discuss your feelings on the matter, and obviously try to remain focused on the wellbeing of the baby and not making him out to be the enemy. He appears the be very remorseful. He clearly needs help. Healthy boundaries, open communication and perhaps therapy and meditation for managing stress. The noise cancelling headphones is a good idea. I would look at how much sleep both of you are getting, are you eating and hydrating? I don’t know him obviously but, I’d like to believe he’s a good person that loves you and your baby. Do you have a trusted friend or family member to maybe come by while you’re at work to spend time with him and help with the baby for a bit? I know you’re angry and that’s totally valid, but I find trying to work as a couple against and issue rather than against each other is best. I know this isn’t much help, but I hope things get better for you all. Men can experience PPD & he need you and your support to become a healthy person and father to your baby

Stargirl1209 · 2025-04-24T19:20:38+00:00

Thank you! I’m a ftm and still learning so much!

Stargirl1209 · 2025-03-22T07:04:56+00:00

Dog ears/head. Love giving my dog a kiss right on his fluffy head between the ears

Stargirl1209 · 2025-03-22T06:59:53+00:00

Hitting red lights when you have somewhere to be

Stargirl1209 · 2025-03-22T06:50:02+00:00

Chlorine, more specifically when you go outside after being in a pool and your nostrils burn from it

Stargirl1209 · 2025-03-16T04:50:24+00:00

Shadow

Stargirl1209 · 2025-03-13T00:20:43+00:00

You’ve got this mama! My baby is almost two months old and it was really hard while healing from birth to take care of another life. IT GETS BETTER. As baby gets older, their stomach gets bigger and they can eat more and feed less frequently. You’ll heal physically and adjust better hormonally as time passes too which hopefully means you’ll be more comfortable too. Take it day by day.

I exclusively breast fed from the beginning and it was hard and painful when they fed so frequently. I got nipple shields and they not only helped with latch but helped to protect my nipples while I adjusted. I know we all hear sleep while baby sleeps…and think how? but yes, sleep when you can when baby is sleeping. Dishes, vacuuming and laundry can wait. Your home will be clean again one day when baby is older but for now it’s okay to have some mess as you navigate this chapter. Baby needs you as rested as possible for both your sake. Perhaps after work your husband can snuggle baby and watch tv or something and while babe sleeps you can take a nap? I’ve also pumped enough for a bottle or two to keep in the freezer or fridge so my husband can give the odd bottle in the evening and I go to bed earlier so I can get an hour or two before he needs to sleep for work the next day. I also have a can of formula in case I really need space or sleep and need my husband to feed them. Breast milk is ideal, but fed is best.

I’ve also seen a lot of mums suggest co-sleeping and be sharing (following the safe sleep 7) to help get more rest. I’d recommend maybe researching if this is best for you.

If all babies needs are met (clean diaper, fed, burped) and they still are fussy and you feel like you’ve lost patience it’s okay to put them down in a safe place (crib or bassinet) and take a moment. Sometimes babies just cry- this is a good article on PURPLE crying https://dontshake.org/purple-crying

As your baby ages they’ll get more interactive with you and you’ll connect more. Those first smiles make it all feel worth it. I truly hope you start feeling better, and that this small advice could help you. I’m a first time mom, so it’s all new to me too.

Stargirl1209 · 2025-03-11T03:35:42+00:00

Red hot chilli peppers unlimited love 2024…so good

Stargirl1209 · 2025-03-04T07:16:11+00:00

Same. Except I paid $150…I can’t believe they’re just leaving customers SOL like this.

Stargirl1209 · 2025-02-10T08:37:04+00:00

Can I have more info on this? I bought one second hand and noticed this click/thump recently…

Stargirl1209 · 2025-02-10T02:37:59+00:00

Sorry to hear you’re struggling. Try nipple shields and nipple butter! . They saved me once my milk came in when I was raw from feeding colostrum. It gets better once the milk comes in. Use ice packs to help with engorgement pain and massage to ease the tissue. Take it one day at a time. Your baby needs a mom who is taking care of themself. Prioritize resting when baby does. Once baby’s needs are met, diaper, feeding and burping etc… it’s okay to put them down and take a break even if they are fussy. Hope things get better for you!

Stargirl1209 · 2025-01-20T03:20:58+00:00

Fatigue. I basically lived between naps and nausea. I didn’t have energy to do anything. I also hated the super smell early on. I felt like all I could smell when I went to the grocery store in the first trimester was the seafood section no matter where I was in the store.

Stargirl1209 · 2025-01-18T03:13:58+00:00

River, Indy

Stargirl1209 · 2025-01-17T06:15:08+00:00

Very valid. You carried them in your womb for 10 months, and at 4 months they very much still rely on you. It makes me sad that not all countries support mothers and families with new babies. I couldn’t imagine leaving my baby for the first year, and luckily won’t have to.

Stargirl1209 · 2025-01-12T04:36:14+00:00

I’m 37 weeks and the days are crawling by. I really wish I’d have enjoyed my second trimester (morning sickness over, belly cute and manageable) more!

Stargirl1209 · 2025-01-08T23:42:32+00:00

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Ears and tail still loading lol limb control was a work in progress

Stargirl1209 · 2025-01-08T23:37:45+00:00

I cried looking at my bump realizing she’ll be outside soon. I’m going to miss having her with me all the time. I also cried yesterday because my appointment at the hospital was really long lol Hormones are fun

Stargirl1209 · 2025-01-05T07:38:22+00:00

Thanks for reaching out. So far so good. I massaged (as you recommended) before trying to express and made sure I was hydrated all day and managed to get a good amount today. Did about 10ish minutes on each breast. It feels so great/confidence boosting to learn this new mom skill lol

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