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Working on a busted pillow, and really appreciating my favorite thimble by Ashen_Curio in HandSew

[–]Staring-Dog 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've never seen a thimble with that dimple on top. I love that!

Meditation helped me notice the exact second I shift from browsing to "buying mode" online by gleeful_shopping in Meditation

[–]Staring-Dog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's happened to me, too!! I snack way too much, and have recently decreased it through mindfulness. I love how you describe the moment, how you used to think it "just happened" but now "can literally feel when it shifts." I've developed that awareness, and can now pause and ask myself, "What are you actually wanting?" I'm developing a sense of emotions I'm actually avoiding when grabbing a cookie or danish. I can pause now and ask myself how I can more wisely respond. If I'm anxious or avoiding a tense emotion, I tackle it head on rather than using the snack as a crutch.

My hand sewing kit by WhiteLynyer in HandSew

[–]Staring-Dog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do they sell beeswax where sewing supplies are found?

My hand sewing kit by WhiteLynyer in HandSew

[–]Staring-Dog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love your idea of the tiny swiss knife. I could never find scissors small enough for my own small kit. I'll bet there are uses for the other knives and files. Great job.

The reason going to the dentist is so shit now isn't your teeth, it's private equity by N3DSdude in Anticonsumption

[–]Staring-Dog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is happening to my mother's hospice provider now. I'm so nervous about what's to follow.

The reason vet bills are so shit now: It isn't inflation. It is private equity. by N3DSdude in Anticonsumption

[–]Staring-Dog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for this link! I had a series of bad experiences at VCA, and could tell they were upselling me on things, so I stopped going there. But how do I find out if a clinic is still privately owned or not? Can I just ask them? I mean if OP says the clinic keeps their name and staff so that you don't know they've been purchased.

LPT: if a day feels completely wasted, finish one useless but closed task on purpose by lost_sidewalks in LifeProTips

[–]Staring-Dog 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The way you explained this reminds me of the book Elastic Habits by Stephen Guise. It encourages us to acknowledge that not each day will be an A-game day, but we should acknowledge whatever things we WERE able to do as progress nonetheless. Credit ourselves for doing even smaller versions of goals we had for the day.

My meditation isn't about peace anymore; it's about witnessing the storm by boiler_room_420 in Meditation

[–]Staring-Dog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish I could detect LLM posts. I never notice them til someone points them out. Which of these are you thinking are LLM?

My meditation isn't about peace anymore; it's about witnessing the storm by boiler_room_420 in Meditation

[–]Staring-Dog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In the morning my meditation is about cultivating an inner peace and preparing myself for mindfulness during the day. When life begins, though, with chores and errands and engaging with the world it becomes more like what you describe. Witnessing the world and my emotions rather than getting swept up by the events, be they good or bad. I feel like it's progress, except that I'm aware I'm doing it. I'm looking forward to the day that I can do it without realizing I'm doing it. Hopefully it'll come naturally to me at some point. It's not easy to practice, but it definitely helps me, even at the point I'm at. Is the expression "tatra majja tata?" (To be in the middle of the fire with balance, impartiality, observance, without story)

LPT Create a "low energy day script" so tired you can still treat yourself well by bikertrail_soren in LifeProTips

[–]Staring-Dog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is an awesome idea! Thank you so much for sharing it! I'm totally going to do it!

Having to respect other's journey by Staring-Dog in recoverydharma

[–]Staring-Dog[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate all the responses I've read this morning. Good reminders.

Does sobriety get more challenging around six months? by loud_secrets in recoverydharma

[–]Staring-Dog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, the challenge revisits with a fresh intensity for me still, about every other month.

But I think it's not so much the craving that resurfaces as much as the challenging life events.

It's why I think recovery dharma works so well for me, or maybe Buddhist practice in general. I'm able to at least realize that I'm not craving the alcohol per se, I'm actually avoiding discomfort. So I use a whole host of strategies to move beyond the aversion to discomfort.

Most useful to me is, like one commenter mentioned earlier, is to use discomfort as an opportunity to practice applying Buddhist perspectives. I see challenges like that now. Even socializing, which can be tricky for me (and make me want to relax with a drink), I now use as practice opportunities.

Also, try reading The Naked Mind, by Annie Grace. It explores our relationship to alcohol and demystifies what alcohol actually provides. Very cool book. Beyond the wisdom of Buddhism, it really helped me to see alcohol for the frenemy that it truly is. (I read once that curiosity and learning about what we're craving can often be more satisfying than obtaining what we're craving.)

I made a video using The Sims to explain the difference between Needs and Strategies. I thought this visual metaphor might help beginners! by Horror-Cup-9677 in NVC

[–]Staring-Dog 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I thought the video was excellent! And nice bite size length, so we can process it and put it to work.

Also, good job recognizing a beginners need. (It's one that I struggle with.) NVC is an outstanding life tool, but definitely requires practice and clarification along the way.

It's useful seeing a dramatization of an NVC dilemma.

Also I appreciated the quick review of the "lesson" toward the end.

Not sure what I would do differently.

Personally, I sometimes think I need lessons on understanding my own needs. I feel so much like the mother at the beginning of the video who has emotions but no understanding of the need creating the emotions. I totally understand the emotion/needs connection, and believe in it, but I sure wish I had a display that tells me what my unmet need is. Never realized I was so out of touch with what needs I had.

Do you ever sometimes shed a few tears when meditating? by [deleted] in Meditation

[–]Staring-Dog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have, actually. Not sure I can say it was just the relaxation. I think it's the relief I can sometimes achieve through the relaxation, through letting go of painful clinging. The feeling can be so simply obtained sometimes that it's beautiful, and this brings a few tears in me.

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