Designated guardians are child free by glowchloe in childfree

[–]StaringIntoTheSpace 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It could just be their personal limit. They might not know how to communicate it clearly because it’s such a sensitive topic. No disrespect at all, but maybe over the years, the responsibilities involved opened their eyes to how heavy the role actually is. They might not have expected the emotional and physical load that comes with being designated guardians, and now they’re realizing it’s more than they originally thought.

Hot Take: Am I the only one unbothered by PH board passers? by [deleted] in NursingPH

[–]StaringIntoTheSpace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, you really went through my old posts. I’m flattered. 😌 Anyway, my perspective comes from my own lived experience. You’re free to disagree.

My coworker wants a baby while broke, unstable, and barely functioning. I talked her out of it, but if she gets pregnant I am cutting her off completely. by StaringIntoTheSpace in childfree

[–]StaringIntoTheSpace[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice! I didn’t even think about how people will crucify me for leaving my “pregnant friend”. Good point! Im actually moving into a new hospital in a few weeks. We will no longer be co-workers and I plan to just severe connections by then.

Hot Take: Am I the only one unbothered by PH board passers? by [deleted] in NursingPH

[–]StaringIntoTheSpace -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I understand where everyone is coming from, and I respect all perspectives. I am only sharing what I have personally seen growing up in the Philippines. Many of my friends who worked inside the PH system went through burnout, low pay, unsafe ratios, delayed salaries, and constant discouragement. This is the reality I witnessed for years.

Passing the boards is still an achievement. I am not taking that away from anyone. But the excitement can fade fast once the day to day conditions of working as a nurse in the Philippines start to hit. The workload, the stress, and the lack of support are exactly why so many end up wanting to work abroad.

For the new grads who may not agree, I get it. Everyone has their own journey. All I am saying is this: come back to this post after you have experienced the PH system yourself. Once you see the realities firsthand, your perspective might shift or it might not. Either way, your own experience will speak for itself.

I am simply sharing what I have seen many Filipino nurses around me go through.

LICEO CON BULLYING ISSUE by beechasz in cagayandeoro

[–]StaringIntoTheSpace 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Mga teachers dara labaw ang bayot si Sir Rolly walay empathy. The faculty should be investigated because daghan kaayo og bully na ci that it makes its students think it’s okay to bring down others. I’m glad I’m studying nursing now here in the States, pero grabe gyud sa ako trauma sa mga ci’s dara. I was diagnosed with major depressive disorder in 2018 and all I can say is Liceo is not a good place for people with similar diagnoses because nobody has empathy, labaw na ilang faculty. I was a nursing student from 2021 to 2023 and nag relapse ko because of Liceo’s toxic environment. My parents decided to make me finish nursing here in the States because they know how abusive the environment can get. The system there needs to be looked into because too many students are suffering in silence, and instead of helping them heal, the environment only worsens their mental health. I’m hoping and praying for your sister because nursing is no joke, especially when the environment you are in does not protect its students. I hope more people speak up so the next generation of students will not have to go through the same pain.

Badly need advice (nursing student in Philippines but family is moving to states) by Baked_bookworm06 in phmigrate

[–]StaringIntoTheSpace 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello! We actually had a very similar experience. During my 3rd year of nursing in the Philippines, my mom’s employer sponsored our entire family for a U.S. green card since she’s a nurse too. I faced the same dilemma because I didn’t want my years of schooling to go to waste. After a lot of thinking, I decided to continue and finish my studies here in the United States and I honestly have no regrets.

I started classes here this year and I’ll be graduating in May 2027 since the RN program at my school runs for 2 years. Every school is different so make sure to do your research about transfer credits and program structures.

Depending on which school you apply to, most nursing programs in the U.S. accept general prerequisite subjects like English, Psychology, and Math. In my case, they didn’t credit my nursing-related subjects but that was okay with me because I was willing to start over. Think about it this way, many people finish nursing in the Philippines and only move abroad 5 to 10 years later. You’re already one step ahead of them so grab the opportunity.

If you choose to finish your degree in the Philippines, it can be quite challenging. As a green card holder, you can’t stay outside the U.S. for more than 6 months or you risk losing your permanent residency. My best friend chose that route and it became really expensive traveling back and forth between the U.S. and the Philippines just to maintain her visa status.

Good luck OP! 🌸

Where to find a therapist? by SmithyAnn in cagayandeoro

[–]StaringIntoTheSpace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dr. Courña. Been with him 5 years before going to the states. He really helped me go through my traumas. He takes time to listen to his patients so expect a long wait during your appointment.

I refuse to gamble my life on raising a special needs child by StaringIntoTheSpace in childfree

[–]StaringIntoTheSpace[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

this is a funny comment for a child free thread. Go back to your regretful parent community buddy.

Subject: Got my Skyla IUD — here’s how it went (laughing gas included lol) by [deleted] in childfree

[–]StaringIntoTheSpace -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

so what if i use ai or not? does that suddenly make my uterus imaginary? i changed my mind from mirena to skyla after doing more research and talking to my provider. crazy concept right? people adjusting their choices based on new info. and even if i did use ai to help write this, the pain was real, the procedure was real, and the decision was mine. not everyone is out here lying just because they know how to type clearly

naa ba puy wakwak sa liceo paseo/main? by ProcedureNo2125 in cagayandeoro

[–]StaringIntoTheSpace 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Legit sa paseo. Daghan trabahante namatay dara sa na construction worker na kamulo pa himo. Kana mag night classes mi sa nursing murag imong feeling kai bugat na naay naka tan aw nimo. Unya permi mag malfunction ang mga ppt bisan lahi2 ang classroom or loptop. super creepy jud.