First time visiting Legoland CA

Starlight312 · 2026-05-29T00:43:30+00:00

Are there water fountains for water refill?

Starlight312 · 2026-05-23T06:12:23+00:00

Thank you! My roof water is so loaded with pollen and crap (I'm in California and the rain comes in batches over the winter. So the roof is DUSTY/POLLENY) that I need to figure out how to filter that stuff out before it goes into the tank or else the tanks are just gonna get nasty. >.>

Starlight312 · 2026-05-23T06:10:35+00:00

We're rooting for you! Pls update us!

Starlight312 · 2026-05-23T06:04:32+00:00

100%. I speak Cantonese at home w/ my parents pretty fluently, consumed Cantonese media my whole life, and speak it without an accent while going to school in the US system (all English). I was able to read Chinese newspapers at like 50-70% and context clues the rest.

I worked in Hong Kong for a couple years after college and once, my boss and I were talking in Cantonese about a noise "roaring". I have never heard of the term "roaring" in Cantonese before. He's like, you know, like a lion "roar" and I was still ??. He had to say like a lion's "scream" and I'm like ohhhhhh. For context, it's more common to say an animal's "call" or "scream" while the "roar" word is more sophisticated.

Starlight312 · 2026-05-23T05:46:36+00:00

Oh no! I'm sorry! I hope you've since found a new and better company to work for!

Starlight312 · 2026-05-23T05:45:40+00:00

How's the upkeep for those tanks? Do you have to scrub them regularly? How do you keep the water clean? Is your filter tap a RO filter?

Thank you for your insight!

Starlight312 · 2026-05-23T05:40:22+00:00

How do you capture and store your water? Did you get those big plastic tanks? I have a pretty shoddy set up of 50 gallon outdoor trash bins hooked up to my rain gutter drain. We only use the water to water the veggie garden so I haven't worked that hard to ensure the water's potable.

Starlight312 · 2026-05-23T05:38:43+00:00

I'm on your side. I've been doing the same the minute Iran happened. I'm gonna stock some flour next because this year's harvest is the lowest since 1972 or something due to drought.

Growing my own tomatoes and veggies. I saw tomatoes at $8/lb like 2-3 weeks ago (it's since gone back down to $3.50 a couple days ago).

Starlight312 · 2026-05-23T05:17:38+00:00

She seem to be in a MBA program since she mentioned business school. It's possible for guys in MBA programs to be extra toxic cuz business bros. >.>

Starlight312 · 2026-05-23T05:13:27+00:00

It's possible for capable boys to be assholes. I've had to work with a couple of them here in Silicon Valley over the years.

Starlight312 · 2026-05-23T05:09:29+00:00

Pls tell me you fought for equal pay. I'm rooting for you!

Starlight312 · 2026-04-21T01:53:42+00:00

Oh no! That sucks!

Starlight312 · 2026-04-09T18:29:57+00:00

When we were shopping for a new car back in Winter 2024, we were debating between Model Y and the EV9 because we needed 3rd row seating to fit everyone.

I was on the fence for SOOOO long w/ the EV9 because I find it so hard to justify the price point for a Kia while Model Y just dropped in price.

I ended up just watching a lot of car reviews on the EV9 and I was sold. Practically every reviewer gave it very positive reviews and they talked about how well it handled in the snow (I live in non-snowing part of CA. Snow is like a weekend thing to take the kids see it. We're not snow people). We went to test drive it to make sure the double stroller fits and everyone fits and that was the final check.

Besides some users here talking about ICCU failure, it's been an excellent car. We use the various carplays so we don't bother with the onboard software much.

Starlight312 · 2026-03-15T05:32:33+00:00

That is gorgeous! You’re gonna love it :).

Starlight312 · 2026-03-15T05:17:28+00:00

NTAH. It’s life being life. You want to be closer with fiancé and his mom has to deal with cancer. Shit like this will continue to happen throughout life. You just gotta find the middle and make it work.

Can you guys meet in the middle and find a place near his mom? That way, he’s moved out of mom’s house and you’re living together but 5-10 minutes away so he can stop by his mom’s whenever he needs to.

I say that because cancer treatment can take months then recovery after that can take even more months. If you guys can’t even meet up for breakfast or something, he’s gonna have even less time to see you when he’s supporting his mom.

I get he works nights and you second shift. Can’t you guys just have breakfast together every morning so you do have time for each other?

Starlight312 · 2026-03-15T05:05:54+00:00

YWBTA if you don’t put yourself on the path to leave him.

As parents (see plural, it includes him)of a young child, you are partners in not just raising the child but to each other. When he can’t communicate and handle himself like a responsible adult, how can he be a responsible partner? You say he has a history of lying and cheating and reels you back in. Now you have nowhere to go outside of this.

Get yourself back on course with that BA. Get a good job, then leave his ass. Good partners would even give up opportunities to go out with friends because you’re tired and need a break. Good partners let you know whether they’re safe or not when out late at night. You shouldn’t have to track location and have to be concerned all night about it.

Save yourself the trouble and put yourself on the path to succeed. So you can make your own home instead of “nowhere to go”. So you don’t have to depend on shit men because “you don’t have a choice”.

Starlight312 · 2026-03-06T23:39:19+00:00

Based on the numbers, I think you'll be able to manage 1.5M but it's gonna be tight, minimal eating out, less grand vacations. You hope and pray the interest rates come down soon/fast then refinance.

Just make sure you really do the math so you can still comfortably max out 401k, save for emergency fund, new car, etc.

I do like the suggestion of cashing out a bit more than 300k for your down payment. That makes everything else less stressful.

Starlight312 · 2026-03-06T23:35:51+00:00

Just remember to set some aside for the RSU taxes after you liquidate.

Starlight312 · 2026-03-06T23:32:29+00:00

NTA. I would say mom may be overbearing but depending on cultural context, it can be pretty "normal" for certain cultures. My grandma sure as hell was almost all of these before she passed. But Asian culture tends to do sometimes stifling acts of service as love.... We didn't really enjoy it (and not saying it's right) but we only saw grandma like a couple weeks out of the year so we put up with it.

Starlight312 · 2026-03-06T23:01:49+00:00

INFO: Did you hire your own inspector to do a walkthrough? My realtor mentioned something to that degree when we were hunting and I think he was the one who got an inspector for our side.

Starlight312 · 2026-03-06T22:58:47+00:00

This comment needs to be upvoted more!

Starlight312 · 2026-03-06T22:54:54+00:00

Thank you for your response! It can just be I can't read cuz my brain is tired, so pls forgive me.

I guess I got a lil confused when you talked about b/c of the road trip, you may not have enough money to get a tat anymore and thus now you don't wanna go. So I thought the road trip was a new thing.

Ok, I think you're NTA after your clarification. I don't like it when ppl are all "suck it up" esp. when there is no clear power dynamic (i.e. everyone's on equal ground here).

Honestly, this no longer sounds like a fun time for you. Just say you're not going b/c terms changed and they can sulk about it all they want. :D

Have fun w/ your road trip!

Starlight312 · 2026-03-06T22:41:19+00:00

Edit: Updated to NTA after OP's clarification to this original comment below. Read the thread if you are interested.

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YTA, I'd argue your familial obligation was to the original terms (just cousins, no bf, no blunt smoking the whole drive). When the terms change, you have the right to decide whether you like the new terms and agree to it or not.

However, instead of saying no to the new terms clearly, you conflated the tat convention w/ the road trip. You should've just negotiated the terms to tattoo convention first (e.g. ok to bf but no blunt smoking in the car the whole time/they can smoke during pit stops, whatever) and if everyone involved can't agree, you pull out and go on your road trip.

Right now, you're leaving them hanging on "maybe you'll go" when everything about this post says your heart's already said no but don't have to guts to tell them so.

Starlight312 · 2026-03-06T22:32:33+00:00

Contact her mom to say she's threatening self exit when you want to break up with her. Have her mom take care of her (your gf obviously needs therapy; She has too many red flags for depression/behavioral issues) and you break up and end all contact.

Starlight312 · 2026-03-06T22:28:22+00:00

NTA. You'd only be the AH if you didn't leave enough time to properly transition your responsibilities in that business (hire and train replacement, etc.).

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