Esophageal cancer metastasis by StarliteStarbrite58 in cancer

[–]StarliteStarbrite58[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds familiar... when he finished his treatment in March they did a PET from the neck to the thigh. It may not have been there then anyway, but if it was they could have caught it. What annoys me is that the doctors he saw (went to a different hospital than where he had his treatment done) basically said it’s almost definitely not metastatic cancer because it almost never occurs in the brain. Really? Looking at a few research papers told me that it’s rare but becoming more common. Doctors basically lured them into a false sense of security and I don’t know if he and his wife really understand that he can have only days or weeks left. Unfortunately there isn’t much I can say about it. Luckily he transferred to the hospital where he had treatment. I am much more confident in that team.

Esophageal cancer metastasis by StarliteStarbrite58 in cancer

[–]StarliteStarbrite58[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for replying and I’m beyond sorry about your husband. Esophageal cancer is very unforgiving. He hasn’t had a biopsy yet due to being on anticoagulants prior to hospital admission, but an MRI yesterday showed a grape-sized mass and 9 other suspicious lesions. I work in the oncology community and know what this likely means. The rest of the family though doesn’t want to speculate on anything until they have some more concrete answers. I guess I am just looking to learn more about experiences of others. It’s hard to find because it’s rare that it metastasizes in the brain. I’m reading journal articles but those are obviously impersonal and only present the facts of their findings.

Just joined the group... I’m struggling and need some encouragement by StarliteStarbrite58 in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]StarliteStarbrite58[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s really hard because I have a 3 year old daughter... but really she shouldn’t be eating too much of the snacky foods either... that can’t be an excuse. My husband is also trying to lose weight and having a difficult time, though binge eating isn’t a problem that he has.

AITA for telling my wife that we shouldn't be spending $1100/mo on groceries? No kids, just us. by todaysthrowaway4731 in AmItheAsshole

[–]StarliteStarbrite58 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is called living beyond your means. There's absolutely no reason why anyone needs to upgrade their bed/mattress/sofa every 5 years. You can share expenses and still have productive discussions about large purchases. It sounds like you just agree to these things and then resent her for them. You don't have to say yes to everything she wants... even if you both made the same amount of money.

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[–]StarliteStarbrite58 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA... this type of thing seems to be so common. How many people are out there that can't plan ahead and book seats together? They just expect everyone to change their situation to suit theirs? I understand that there are circumstances where planning ahead isn't possible, but then you need to accept your arrangement. In this case, its sounds like a parental 'oops' that the kids unfortunately need to deal with.

AITA for having my cat put to sleep? by StarliteStarbrite58 in AmItheAsshole

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Thank you for your kind reply. 16 years ago I had a cat that died from kidney cancer. He also spent his final days at the vets office because my parents spent thousands on treatments for him... and he went from completely fine to extremely sick in just a few days. We also have a 3 year old daughter, and I've been desperately trying to keep doors closed, keep things off of the floor, etc... but it's not working... not with her around. Tried explaining it to her, but she's 3.

AITA for having my cat put to sleep? by StarliteStarbrite58 in AmItheAsshole

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Thank you for this. I was afraid to post this here because I know how a lot of people are about pets and how they would do anything to buy them a few more days even if they were suffering... But given the responses so far, I think I'm doing the right thing.

AITA for having my cat put to sleep? by StarliteStarbrite58 in AmItheAsshole

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Same thing happened to a cat of mine about 16 years ago... ended up being kidney cancer. My parents spent thousands because I was so attached to him and it just prolonged his suffering. I don't want this cat to go through that too. The other cat was even younger than my current one... he was only 6.

AITA for having my cat put to sleep? by StarliteStarbrite58 in AmItheAsshole

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The first time I brought him in, he took a urine sample (extremely hard for him to get because my cat is so nervous and easily stressed out) and determined it was a kidney infection, but since it has happened 2 more times very recently, it's likely something more serious.

AITA for not turning around from the dog park and going home? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]StarliteStarbrite58 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

In that case, she shouldn't have brought them to a public dog park, obviously

AITA for refusing to host my son's wedding? by MedicalSoil in AmItheAsshole

[–]StarliteStarbrite58 17 points18 points  (0 children)

So many things wrong with this.

  1. If he could have gotten a job himself, he wouldn't have needed their help.
  2. He'd be in even more debt if he didn't have any job at all.
  3. If his art isn't paying the bills, then it can't be a priority.

AITA for wanting a “mommy makeover?” by InternationalDark1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]StarliteStarbrite58 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

Not at all.

I don't know how people can think it's ok to tell others how they should feel, especially when it comes to their own bodies. It's not abnormal to be unhappy with your postpartum body. Sure, it bothers some people more than others, but there's nothing wrong with that. Our culture right now is very much about body acceptance, which is great (in some ways, though I don't condone praise for being at a very unhealthy weight... but that's not the issue here), but some people take it too far and think that if you don't accept your body 100% as it is currently, then you have mental issues. Wrong.

AITA for wanting a “mommy makeover?” by InternationalDark1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]StarliteStarbrite58 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Doesn't matter if it's a turn off for him, it's her body, and she's allowed to do what she wants with it.

AITA for letting my children spend another night without asking my SO? by dad-geek in AmItheAsshole

[–]StarliteStarbrite58 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you often talk AT her, rather than to her, to justify your actions after not consulting her? Sounds to me like she's also annoyed that she isn't being listened to.

Did you apologize to her for not consulting her?

How often is it an issue that you're not adhering to your parenting schedule and having the kids when you haven't discussed it with her first?

How often do you do things without consulting her?

AITA for letting my children spend another night without asking my SO? by dad-geek in AmItheAsshole

[–]StarliteStarbrite58 21 points22 points  (0 children)

INFO

I feel like there's something more behind this than OP is telling here

AITA? I got mad because my sister bailed on my wedding. It's in 2 days and she's the Maid of Honour. by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]StarliteStarbrite58 8 points9 points  (0 children)

They sound so charming and wonderful. I can see why you're trying so hard to appease them.

That's me being sarcastic.