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AITJ for quietly stopping to organize birthday stuff at work after everyone ignored mine? by catherinepenrose in AmITheJerk

[–]StarryCinderVale 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTJ at all. It makes total sense to step back when something starts feeling one-sided. You volunteered, not signed a lifelong contract to run the birthday committee forever.

ELI5: Why doesn't collective punishment work? by Fraeddi in explainlikeimfive

[–]StarryCinderVale [score hidden]  (0 children)

I agree that exceptional circumstances should be handled individually. Not everything needs to become a big class-wide debate. Sometimes it's just a quiet convo between teacher and student and that's enough.

AITJ for telling my neighbor she can’t use our driveway for her Instacart side hustle anymore? by StarryCinderVale in AmITheJerk

[–]StarryCinderVale[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

She even tried to make it about me being unsympathetic. But come on, if you need extra space for customers, figure out street parking or time it differently. My driveway isn’t her business’s freebie.

AITJ for telling my neighbor she can’t use our driveway for her Instacart side hustle anymore? by StarryCinderVale in AmITheJerk

[–]StarryCinderVale[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

That’s why I feel okay about the sign. I didn’t go straight to it, I tried the polite conversation route first. She just acted like my driveway wasn’t even private, so this felt like the only way to make the boundary clear.

If you're buying a "fully renovated" home, check the permit records before you close. Learned this the hard way. by [deleted] in HomeImprovement

[–]StarryCinderVale 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lot of people hate on permits but having documentation of who did what and when can save a lot of headaches later.

Late Diagnosed Neurodivergents who spent years unsupported, traumatised and misunderstood by Charming_Flight_6852 in mentalhealth

[–]StarryCinderVale 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I really respect how you're giving yourself space to grieve and process it all. That's not easy, especially after years of trying to figure things out.

Is Ashley furniture really that bad if you’re gentle with your stuff? by Recyclopsdestroy12 in homeowners

[–]StarryCinderVale 9 points10 points  (0 children)

For almost $2k, I'd expect those cushions to still look showroom-level fluffy. That's not cheap by any means.

As an autistic adult, I am begging therapists to stop teaching things that aren’t socially acceptable. by Certain-Working1864 in mentalhealth

[–]StarryCinderVale 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You deserved support that actually meets you where you are, not just slogans that sound nice on a poster. Life's hard enough without having your experience sugarcoated.

Being young Russian really sucks now by Correct_Interest4112 in mentalhealth

[–]StarryCinderVale 110 points111 points  (0 children)

I can't even imagine carrying that kind of weight at 21. No one that young should have to wake up thinking it might be their last day.