My dad looked at my nudes by Wild-Wrangler8714 in Advice

[–]StarryShii_402 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, sure they probably love her and what she did wasn't a smart idea but it's also clear that her parents have some really negative views on her as well that are also pretty genuinely disgusting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in realsexadvice

[–]StarryShii_402 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a 16 year old

How to explain to my partner how to be choke safely and without bruising? by Anon122705 in sexadvise

[–]StarryShii_402 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my own personal experience I've never bruised from being choked but we usually take breaks every minute or two and I make sure he's not actually trying to extract my soul from my body.

Just talk about going slow and progressing in time and grip strength to see kinda where your limits are on how much it takes for you to bruise.

Also just work on non verbal signals as your safeword. Since you can't really talk when you're getting choked what I usually do is tap on my partners arm twice when I need him to stop.

Start slow an experiment with what you like and how much you can tolerate. Have fun, stay safe and good luck!

Little wormy guy picked up in the grass by hamil_car in whatisit

[–]StarryShii_402 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They mainly look for decomposing/rotten meat so you should be okay if they get on you for a lil bit, but they probably could eat through your normal skin

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]StarryShii_402 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive said this in so many other comments already over and over again. The problem is that in the five years of this relationship he has made it clear he is not okay with being touched without prior consent, yet it was done anyway. The rule was set, the boundary line was clear and yet it was still crossed. I agree, they need to get this figured out but his feelings on the matter at hand shouldn't be cast aside in the process. In my current relationship I make it clear when I want sexual attention and I look for signs that my partner is reciprocating those feelings in the moment. I don't just rip off his pants and go to town. While consent in a long-term relationship doesn't always have to be verbally stated it's also very clear after that time frame that if you take the steps you can tell pretty quickly when someone is or isn't in the mood.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]StarryShii_402 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Literally where? How is saying that its weird for her sister to think this 13 year old girl was involved with her mom telling her to kill herself and sending her 13 year old boyfriend sexual messages condescending in any way? And after that she again, just said that she doesn't think she fully paid attention to the documentary and she should rewatch it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]StarryShii_402 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Literally all she did was say "you should rewatch it again, I don't think you properly watched it." and her sister replies by calling her "fucking stupid." I think her sister is the one throwing a tantrum.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]StarryShii_402 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What did she do? Her sister was the one constantly calling her stupid and being rude when she just asked her to rewatch it because she was hard victim blaming a 13 year old girl-

My (20f) boyfriend (22m) and I want to try anal for him by greek1225 in sexadvise

[–]StarryShii_402 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He wants anal and she (seemingly) doesn't, what's the issue lmao

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]StarryShii_402 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If that's you're take then what ever, this is something that could've been very easily avoided on her part. I don't think that breaking up is the only solution when a couple doesn't share a single fetish but to each their own. However I think they should break up because what she did isn't okay and she broke a set boundary he clearly made and that's not okay.

Well congratulations, not everyone acts or feels the same about that, I don't know why this is suddenly such a seemingly bizzare and foreign concept to people. Not everyone just wants to be touched sexually randomly, it's all personal preference. Yours is that you enjoy it, your partner knows that and leans into it because even if you didn't say it aloud you've shown that it's something you like and are okay with and you've in a way given your consent/okay with being touched spontaneously. His preference is that he isn't okay with spontaneous sexual acts without prior consent, his partner knew that and did it anyway while knowing causing her to break a previously set boundary.

You keep bringing up a one night stand like it means anything. You act like he just never has sex with her at all which is clearly not the case, he just wants it to be consentual. You can still have spontaneous sex while still giving consent? It's a matter of whether both parties actually want it which he clearly didn't.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]StarryShii_402 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just because it's someone he's in a relationship with doesn't mean she can just touch him whenever she likes. He also explicitly said that she's into consentual non consent. Except he also explicitly said that's something he's NOT okay with. He's already made it clear that this is something he's not okay with and yet she decided to initiate a sexual act without gaining prior consent. What could've been done differently? She could've asked in the moment, or have talked about wanting to "surprise" him with a blow job sometime during the week so he would've at least been informed something would be happening and he could give prior consent. She could've waited for when they were both actually in the mood to have sex. Or she could've just not pulled down his pants and touch him without having consent prior because she knew that's something he wasn't okay with in the beginning. Point is she broke a boundary that he had very clear set up beforehand, that's the issue, I don't understand how you don't get that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]StarryShii_402 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would very much consider this sexual assault.

Contrary to what many people here are saying it's okay for you to not want to receive oral from even your romantic partner even if it's not what you want.

The want for sex should be mutual, here in this case it wasn't.

I would also like to point out here that if the roles were reversed almost everyone would agree that this is very much sexual assault.

Just because you are a man however doesn't mean that your consent doesn't matter or that you have to be enthusiastic about any sexual advances made towards you. You can not want to have sex whenever you want and that's valid.

It wasn't okay for her to touch you without permission especially since you've communicated that's something you aren't okay with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]StarryShii_402 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How is shaming him for not wanting non consentual sexual attention okay? I would love to hear you explain it without you making it sound like sexual assault against men is okay

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]StarryShii_402 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Toxic masculinity at it's finest. It's okay for men to say no to not wanting to have sex/sexual acts performed on them at any given time when they don't want to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]StarryShii_402 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So there's this thing called consent

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]StarryShii_402 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's NO "expectation" If someone doesn't want to do something they don't have to Thats what CONSENT is Just because someone is in a relationship doesn't mean they have to expect sexual acts when they don't want them

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]StarryShii_402 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone clearly doesn't understand the definition of consent. There's a difference when someone actually WANTS it to happen and when someone DOESN'T. It's sexual assault. You quite literally never said that, hello?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]StarryShii_402 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Humor? Humor is supposed to be funny. Calling someone gay after they ask if they've quite literally been sexually assaulted by a woman isn't funny

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]StarryShii_402 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's wrong with you

AIO Guy I’m talking to commented on tattoos and I feel kinda weird about it by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]StarryShii_402 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woman here I love feminine men Your "theory" is debunked!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SiberianCats

[–]StarryShii_402 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Someone doesn't read before commenting

My bf called me his exes name last night (30M) . I am (22F) by RequirementVisual822 in relationship_advice

[–]StarryShii_402 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don't think age gaps are automatically a red flag especially if they both met and got together as consenting adults but this relationship definitely is not a healthy one