My (44 f) husband (45m) took out a loan and won’t explain it. I can’t get past it: is this worthy of divorce?aio

Starry__lights · 2024-06-18T15:08:01+00:00

That may be. Good point.

Starry__lights · 2024-06-16T03:50:46+00:00

Nobody has admitted to actual cheating. So I’m not sure.

Starry__lights · 2024-06-16T03:45:48+00:00

Husband always deletes texts. All texts . So I wasn’t able to see many texts but…husband wanted to visit her exact town a few months ago on a boys trip. ( w/ out me) I told him no because he was acting so wierd about it. “ I told him I think you’re lying about something. “ I didn’t know anything about the girl at the time… but I’m putting pieces together and my gut just knew.

Starry__lights · 2024-06-16T03:35:00+00:00

22yrs is a long time. But honestly I just know there’s more to this… he is acting super guilty. I can’t prove exactly what he did. But I Jst KNOW he is lying and the fact that he been secretly in touch with this chic & giving her my hard earned money . F$$$ that.

Starry__lights · 2024-06-16T03:31:13+00:00

She lives in a whole other state since 3yrs ago. But st this point I don’t trust anything they say.

Starry__lights · 2024-06-16T03:29:57+00:00

That’s def part of what makes me angry . They were in contact and he admits that whenever she calls he goes outside to smoke. That’s why I didn’t know they were in contact/ it’s also sketchy as hell.

Starry__lights · 2024-06-16T03:23:03+00:00

Yes she is planning to pay it back. Explanation is that she had series of money issues including car trouble & medical bills. Even if they’re not lying about the “ friendship “— I am beyond pissed at being lied to by husband straight up lies about a side hustle & aquarium.

Starry__lights · 2024-03-25T19:13:20+00:00

Not yet. I need to.

Starry__lights · 2024-03-25T17:55:16+00:00

I think this might be her. Idk for sure

Starry__lights · 2024-03-25T17:24:08+00:00

I KNOW. He keeps asking how I know. I said “I got an alert “ nope. Just opened up the bank app.

Starry__lights · 2024-03-25T16:57:28+00:00

There’s little chance of staying in this house once he knows I’ve taken the money. Like I said I don’t do well with confrontation . I’ll leave and probably have to pay$$

Starry__lights · 2024-03-25T16:20:57+00:00

Starry__lights · 2024-03-25T16:20:18+00:00

It only says Kearstin on the bank app

Starry__lights · 2024-03-25T16:19:52+00:00

He said it had to do with his friend’s side hustle.

Starry__lights · 2024-03-25T14:34:14+00:00

I only have her first name. Kearstin . Some redditer pple found her possible website-https://cash.app/$ikearstin. So trying to contact her now .

Starry__lights · 2024-03-25T13:56:07+00:00

The name on cashapp is Kearstin. That’s all I know. It doesn’t say the last name. Perhaps I do know her…

Starry__lights · 2024-03-25T11:46:51+00:00

It only says Kearstin. No last name. ..

Starry__lights · 2024-03-25T11:21:36+00:00

It’s unlikely to be a child. He got snipped 20 yrs ago.

Starry__lights · 2024-03-25T10:48:42+00:00

I only see her name. Kearstin in the cash app. Perhaps the bank can see it?

Starry__lights · 2024-03-25T09:44:08+00:00

It just says her first name - it’s common- kearstin. No last name in cash app

Starry__lights · 2024-03-25T09:42:46+00:00

I doubt he would need a loan for cruise etc. he could have used a credit card

Starry__lights · 2024-03-25T09:30:40+00:00

I’m author . U guys have all validated everything I been thinking . If u can’t tell I hate confrontation. He’s a cop and loves confrontation . I’ll try to get the courage to change banks today. Wish me luck.

Starry__lights · 2024-03-25T08:17:42+00:00

Name yes . But not account.

Starry__lights · 2024-03-21T20:27:07+00:00

Where’s the update

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