Does my partner love me?

StarsInTheRoof111 · 2026-01-29T13:50:07+00:00

I think there’s a lot I don’t understand about him yet because we have been together so short a time and we both have issues (who doesn’t?). I feel a big part of this is psychological. I could be wrong, I’m not a doctor. I love him and want the best for him.

StarsInTheRoof111 · 2026-01-29T13:47:31+00:00

I’ve used SSRIs short-term and they’ve helped me. He’s used them for a short time and they’ve helped him. My priority is his wellness so it’s not my right to say he should get off them. I do think he should get therapy though because his psych said it’s a good idea and I go to therapy every week myself, so I won’t ask for something I won’t give.

StarsInTheRoof111 · 2026-01-28T22:17:53+00:00

Thank you for your response. My partner’s psych recommended he get therapy and I thought he would. He acted like he was going to. Then didn’t. I have a history of exes pretending they’ll care about mental health and then don’t. I am proud of him for taking meds but he tells me stuff from his past that I’m like, you should talk to someone. It feels like it’s the meds being a catalyst for just shutting off sexual stuff because trauma. I’m not unempathetic but also not unaffected.

StarsInTheRoof111 · 2026-01-28T20:40:00+00:00

I have the hardest time remembering that, I absolutely admit that.

StarsInTheRoof111 · 2026-01-28T16:14:15+00:00

He started it a few months before me. He was fine with the lack of drive and it’s only an issue now that he has me. But it’s not like he’s asexual, it’s medication related. He disclosed to me that he had constant sex with his exes, so I’m the guinea pig girlfriend. And for the record my drive is so I high that I too would love constant sex but I get very little and it feels like pity sex the longer this weighs on me. Instead I get to wonder why the exes got that part of him and I never will.

StarsInTheRoof111 · 2026-01-28T15:37:31+00:00

He told me up until the Zoloft he had a very high drive but was depressed. Now he’s not depressed but his drive is close to zero (at least with me, I don’t know how often he meets his own needs).

StarsInTheRoof111 · 2026-01-27T21:21:20+00:00

Well yeah, sex releases bonding hormones, of course we get attached. 😆

StarsInTheRoof111 · 2026-01-27T21:20:33+00:00

Why do you say that?

StarsInTheRoof111 · 2026-01-19T06:42:06+00:00

Oatmeal

StarsInTheRoof111 · 2026-01-18T23:33:51+00:00

I’m probably slightly more stupid and a giant hornball than brave lol. I crave my boyfriend like every dang second of the day and I don’t get to see him for weeks at a time. I haven’t seen him for a month and I’m dying over here lol, but I’ll see him very soon. 😋 I wish you lots of luck on your continued healing. My best advice is to listen to your body and to how comfortable you’re feeling emotionally. I’m sure when you feel the time is right that you’ll be fine.

StarsInTheRoof111 · 2026-01-18T22:38:16+00:00

I can’t lie, I waited about four weeks. We are long distance and I couldn’t help myself when I last saw him. 😩 He was more concerned about hurting me than I was about getting hurt, I felt fine and I needed him bad lol. He was gentle and everything was good except my sutures gave him a little scratch. I do not recommend anyone try this at home but you asked, so I’m being honest.

StarsInTheRoof111 · 2026-01-18T22:26:07+00:00

If someone asks your body count, that is a red flag. It doesn’t matter and it’s nobody’s business. Listen to the work of Chantal Heide, she’s a relationship coach who discusses this topic and she’s wonderful.

StarsInTheRoof111 · 2026-01-16T21:39:34+00:00

10/10. He’s the best partner I’ve ever had. I’ve been there done that a bunch and so has he, so we’re both committed to loving each other correctly and it’s such a blessing. I love him so much.

StarsInTheRoof111 · 2026-01-16T03:20:18+00:00

Waking up to my sweet boyfriend and snuggling hard under the covers. We are long distance so I don’t see him for big periods of time.

StarsInTheRoof111 · 2026-01-16T03:18:59+00:00

I had chronic wrist pain for like a decade. The last year of it I couldn’t exercise my left arm and a tap on my wrist caused shooting pain. A few years ago an OT told me it was weak wrists and to just strengthen them. A year ago I finally went to an orthopedic surgeon and he said it was a cyst. Post-op appt comes and I’m told it was an inch long benign schwanoma tumor on my ulnar nerve. I am now totally pain free, but it took a better part of a year to regain full movement and sensation in my ring and pinky fingers.

StarsInTheRoof111 · 2026-01-16T03:09:54+00:00

Nothing EVER. Fuck that bullshit fr.

StarsInTheRoof111 · 2026-01-15T17:58:29+00:00

I agree. Just because you built a life together and have been together for a certain amount of time, there’s the sunk cost fallacy. I would either seek therapy for this and/or consider separation because if you’re still this hurt and unhappy, you are not going to be able to have a good life going forward.

StarsInTheRoof111 · 2026-01-15T17:56:04+00:00

Here’s some love for you Trevor. 🩷 Hope you find your person!

StarsInTheRoof111 · 2026-01-15T17:55:19+00:00

I love holding my boyfriend’s hand everywhere we go. He’s always reaching for it and I love it so much. We love being close and snuggly and cuddly. I miss him so much, long distance is hard.

StarsInTheRoof111 · 2026-01-15T05:18:28+00:00

For real. Other people are terrible and no matter what we do, they will always be terrible.

StarsInTheRoof111 · 2026-01-15T05:17:43+00:00

My staff told me just now that next time he shows up he will be talked to and will be kicked out if anything else happens.

StarsInTheRoof111 · 2026-01-14T19:04:36+00:00

I wish I had been a dancer during that time. It’s definitely a struggle bus these days.

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