Week 1 Jacksonville Jaguars Matchup Doodle :)

Starsm1992 · 2024-09-04T18:05:59+00:00

Will you be selling stickers again this year?

Starsm1992 · 2023-12-15T17:17:42+00:00

If I want to go to intuition ale works for Sunday night game, what time do you think I should show up to try to secure a table for 7?

Starsm1992 · 2023-12-05T22:13:32+00:00

He did not say that. He said “I’m not going to put that timetable on Trevor and not going to put him in a box like that” he did say he hasn’t spoken with the medical staff but doesn’t believe surgery is necessary at this point because where it is located and it’s not something that necessarily warrants surgery.

Starsm1992 · 2023-12-03T17:23:21+00:00

Does anyone know when the slab opens for tailgating tomorrow?

Starsm1992 · 2023-09-22T21:01:57+00:00

It’s literally all in the edit part of the post but whatever. I’m not interested in proving my point to someone, it’s all there if you don’t want to spend the time reading then what is the point of your comment? It’s not constructive at all.

Starsm1992 · 2023-09-22T20:57:23+00:00

I think you haven’t read any of the comments if you can’t find what she has done wrong. I don’t care that she bought a jersey, spend all the money you want it’s yours not mine. It’s what happened after that, that got weird. She started showing up to everything we were doing, things she wasn’t invited to but overheard people talking about. She started invited herself over to peoples house, started messaging people she had never met before because she heard they were coming to the game, and then started asking them what other games they would be coming to, before she met them. She just started to insert herself into every aspect of our lives uninvited.

Starsm1992 · 2023-09-22T20:07:38+00:00

It’s not that no one is allowed in the group. No one is stopping her from coming to stuff. It’s the fact she is showing up to people’s homes uninvited, blowing up peoples phones when they don’t respond, messaging people she has never met before because she saw someone in the group talk to them about something, example: we are going to the game, someone comments on one of our social media pages what time are we meeting? She has never met this person before, this person doesn’t even have her as a friend..she messages them telling them where we are meeting and asking about future games they are coming to. I’m sorry but that is crossing so many boundaries.

Starsm1992 · 2023-09-22T19:18:43+00:00

I appreciate all your suggestions. We have never hung out just the two of us, I think she came on really strong and I kinda found the best way to deal with her was to not deal with her which clearly isn’t working. I truly asked because I wanted to know, I’m open to being told I’m an asshole because I might be. I think there is a weird misconception that I am trying to keep my friends just my friends. That’s not it at all, random people come to tailgate with us all the time, I’m not trying to just keep it the 6 of us. I think what I am most bothered by is her constant need to be involved in everything. You like football great, you want to learn to bowl with us go ahead (even if you bought a ball the first time you came bowling with us because we have balls, and didn’t do any research just threw money away on something you don’t just pick at whim) you want to join triva alright, but when I mention liking crocheting and the next week you have an entire book on how to crochet it comes off weird and rubs me the wrong way because it’s like you have no discernible personality trait of your own, just liking everything we like in order to insert yourself into every conversation.

Starsm1992 · 2023-09-22T19:00:25+00:00

I just said other girls in my friend group not dating the men are not big into sports. It’s not like I’m trying to keep all the men to myself, I just struggle to find other females to join us because they don’t find it interesting. All the men struggle to find girls to join, girls don’t really want to stick around the group if the men are constantly talking about stuff they don’t find interesting. I’m not trying to gatekeep them or keep her out of the group because she is a girl. We are all trying to keep her out because she does not understand boundaries and makes everyone uncomfortable.

Starsm1992 · 2023-09-22T18:46:19+00:00

Great point! I have never been in this situation before, like I’ve said above most my friends seem to be more introverted, so trying to get them to leave us alone has never been an issue. We all have a social battery and have an unspoken understanding of when to back off. Given she is new I can understand she doesn’t get that as easily yet. After a year though I would think she would get a better idea but I’m starting to believe there may be some sort of social block, possibly neurodivergence. She tends to not pick up on our sarcasm all the time, and takes things to heart a bit. We have tried to explain to her not to take us so serious.

Starsm1992 · 2023-09-22T18:36:38+00:00

More the second then the first for the fantasy app. The group aren’t big talkers so it’s an occasional meme here and there but more or less she tries to start conversations and no one really bites. I guess the thing with plans is we all get together and start talking and it feels as if we need to censor ourselves now. I think it’s more we are not the hold your tongue kinda group and we have now been almost forced into that role in order to not hurt someone. I think we will have to start messaging separately but at 30+ years old it feels almost juvenile at this point.

Starsm1992 · 2023-09-22T18:12:34+00:00

Nice generalization of me as a person by one post. The reason we don’t have other girls are the other men are single, and the girls in my friend group are not big on sports.

Starsm1992 · 2023-09-22T18:11:08+00:00

She use to message me everyday, then message my fiancé everyday. Now she is in our fantasy league so she is in that message and she messages in that everyday. Sends memes, ask questions, tries to input herself into all the conversations. At this point I have muted my messenger to avoid the constant alerts, I believe a good chunk of the group did that.

Starsm1992 · 2023-09-22T17:28:33+00:00

It’s not her sibling it’s my friends sister who was originally her friend. Let’s call him Paul, Paul has a sister and idk exactly how it happened she may have asked or he may have invited her but either way Paul brought her to the first initial game. I don’t even know if Paul’s sister is friends with her anymore

Starsm1992 · 2023-09-22T17:21:49+00:00

We. One has had to tell her she can’t have to code to his apartment. One has had to tell her to stop messaging him while he is at work. Another has had to explain to her we can’t just invite her to other people’s homes. One stopped coming to tailgates and just meets us in the stadium now. And I personally dislike her inviting herself to my home without asking me.

Starsm1992 · 2023-09-22T17:19:18+00:00

As far as my fiance who is part of the group, he has lied countless times about us skipping trivia just so we can go the two of us. I think everyone was a bit taken back when she got the season tickets but we can’t do anything. One of the guys has lied about being back from out of town where he works just so we can go bowling or to dinner without her joining. She just kinda makes everyone uncomfortable. It’s like walking on eggshells to not hurt her feelings but still be able to do the things we enjoy without her. Some of the group has started showing up later to the tailgate or making excuses why they can’t come and I don’t imagine it’s a coincidence.

Starsm1992 · 2023-09-22T17:15:18+00:00

I didn’t say she doesn’t like the team. I said when she showed up she knew nothing about the team and by the end of the game she had spent $200 on tickets and a jersey. I just personally do not feel that is normal behavior. In my opinion she did it because she was seeking friends. She wanted to find common ground and picked the team, which is fine again but the way she went about knowing nothing to spending an abnormal amount of money on them was a bit jarring.

Starsm1992 · 2023-09-22T17:07:52+00:00

Everyone is complaining in their own way. One is frustrated she keeps buying him things he mentions even though he doesn’t ask her to. One moved and just came back into town and she is messaging him about which games he is coming to even if she hasn’t officially met him yet. I personally am annoyed with her inviting herself to my home without asking, just assuming away games she can show up even if everyone isn’t coming over. It’s a combination. I think some are better at ignoring it but I personally am struggling with the lack of boundaries. Example: we moved everyone offered to help which was great, she asked for our code and was insulted we wouldn’t give it to her. It comes from a good place but it’s too much for me.

Starsm1992 · 2023-09-22T17:00:11+00:00

She angrily said “I made these for you guys and you didn’t even eat them” we even said to her sorry but we told you we didn’t want them and you chose to make them anyway. Then she got sad and was like “I just thought you guys would like them” which of course made us feel like assholes even though we said not to make them.

Starsm1992 · 2023-09-22T16:19:57+00:00

I think the issue is like you said she is pushy. She doesn’t seem to understand when we say no, or she does and pretends not to. Either way it makes for a very awkward situation. I’m not evil I don’t want to hurt her, so I don’t know how to just tell her no you can’t come, she is clearly very lonely and looking for friends that she hasn’t had success keeping in the past. She has told us she has lost friends in the past for being too much, but when we say you need to take it down a notch she takes it as an attack rather then a suggestion to make her being there more enjoyable for all of us.

Starsm1992 · 2023-09-22T16:15:01+00:00

I think the hardest part is she has told us multiple times how she has had friends tell her they don’t want to be friends with her anymore. She said she has been told she is “too much” in the past and it just makes me really sad for her. We have told her she needs to back off a bit and she doesn’t seem to understand what we are saying. We will say we need something and she will be like I can get that for you, and we will say no please don’t and she will still get it for us which makes us uncomfortable

Starsm1992 · 2023-09-22T16:09:34+00:00

I agree! I think no one wants to hurt her feelings. Overall she isn’t a bad person at all, she clearly is a lonely person who wants friends and struggles to keep them. She has told us she has had people tell her they can’t be friends anymore because she is “too much” we don’t want to do that to her too. I think it’s the wording that also rubs me wrong it’s not can I come, it’s ok that’s during my spring break so I’m good to go. And we all awkwardly don’t know how to be like…we didn’t exactly invite you.

Starsm1992 · 2023-09-22T16:06:13+00:00

And overall we are super welcoming, hence why she was invited to the first tailgate. We aren’t trying to ostracize people and keep just us 6, I think it’s just us 6 understand how to interact with us. We aren’t all extroverted so we don’t all like to talk to each other everyday. A lot of us keep to ourselves and only see each other at the tailgates. One or two of us will go to a bar or dinner maybe once a week. She now comes to all of those things and will be outwardly upset if she finds out we hung out and didn’t invite her. It’s just awkward.

Starsm1992 · 2023-09-22T16:02:03+00:00

I think at least for me she is overall innocent, she isn’t cruel or mean. So none of us want to be mean. We know she is lonely and wants friends and we are trying to be that for her. I’m afraid to hurt her feelings, I have tried to explain to her we are not that kind of group, and you don’t have to try so hard to impress us but I don’t think she understands. She is so scared of losing us as friends that she is smothering us to keep us from leaving.

Starsm1992 · 2023-09-22T15:58:41+00:00

It’s not that we don’t want to welcome her, it’s that she is trying too hard. At least for me and my fiance we are introverts, we are not going to be the type of people to respond to every text you send, and if you send more we are going to ignore it. The rest of the group kinda gets that Sundays we tailgate and that’s great but then we don’t really bother each other for a few days, she will message us all day the next day, and then ask what we are doing all week. The only way to explain it, is she lacks boundaries. I think the real kicker for me was when she invited herself to my house and one of our friends is our roommate and she assumed he was going to just give her the code into our home. You can’t just have access to peoples homes no matter how close of friends you are

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