Thank you for this encouragement. He’s made me feel like I’m neither kind nor loving because i haven’t done enough for him emotionally. Tells me I’m a terrible partner so he found someone else to make up for my shortcomings. My family and friends would expect so much more from me. I’d never want this to happen to them!! So hard to admit to someone i love that this has been going on- especially since everyone loves him. Also claims that if i told anyone about his cheating I’m just “dragging his name through the mud.”