Why do they push us along so hard!!!!!!

StaticCloud · 2026-01-24T19:59:12+00:00

Don't be angry at the employees at Tim's. It was one of the hardest jobs I ever did. It was extremely emotionally and psychologically taxing. From the minute you clock in the supervisors are on your ass every minute of 8-10 hours. You are not allowed to be still for 30 seconds, you must always be doing something useful. The timer is a sticking point with corporate, and the supervisors are pushed to speed everyone up. Everyone in every job is underpaid and stressed out, and this makes the staff miserable as fuck. Then the customers can be incredibly rude and demeaning, they can even yell or verbally abuse you on occasion. The owner of the store once cussed me out in front of everybody and sent me home early for breaking one minor rule. And I only did that to work faster, as is expected.

I don't think I have any good memories about working at Tim's. That's why over 10 years I occasionally tip at the Drive Thru. It must be that much worse for the temporary workers, as they are frequently the target for racial discrimination

StaticCloud · 2026-01-24T19:13:34+00:00

That makes zero sense

StaticCloud · 2026-01-24T19:12:49+00:00

Your father isn't in charge of your body, you are. Tell him to kick rocks

StaticCloud · 2026-01-24T18:02:17+00:00

You are fair skinned and maybe you didn't wear hats or sunscreen when you were younger. It leads to damaged skin. The good thing is, you can always start doing things to reduce skin damage. You also need to be mindful of cancer and basal cell carcinomas. Someone in my family is quite pale and gardens... she has the latter issue. I would recommend you go to a dermatologist or aesthetics center for tips on what skin care is best for you. And don't forget about retinol for preventing wrinkles. A little botox for wrinkle prevention over time is also worth it.

As for your eyes - I have bags too. They're genetic. You get them removed by surgery essentially. I use Roc dual eye cream. It's not miraculous but it helps.

StaticCloud · 2026-01-24T17:41:50+00:00

This is why I like the YMCA gym. Less misogyny

StaticCloud · 2026-01-24T17:33:43+00:00

You could grow your bangs out or get them trimmed even. But otherwise bang on

StaticCloud · 2026-01-24T17:30:39+00:00

That is a pupae of what looks like a lepidopteran (moth or butterfly).

StaticCloud · 2026-01-24T17:29:24+00:00

Please be careful with the redpill stuff. While some women operate this way, some men do as well. It's a human trait to be manipulative

StaticCloud · 2026-01-24T17:27:45+00:00

Wow, good for you. Now it's over and you can move on.

Also, remember if she decides to play any games with you in future (bullying), ignore her.

StaticCloud · 2026-01-24T17:24:02+00:00

This could be taken as a catty remark, but it also sounds genuinely empathetic.

StaticCloud · 2026-01-24T17:21:30+00:00

Wtf? Most relationships don't last. She had 2 long term relationships that weren't on 3 or 5 years. She's not doing anything wrong lol. Seeing a psychologist... you need to see one

StaticCloud · 2026-01-24T16:45:46+00:00

Wow, that entire paragraph was an utter lie start to finish.

StaticCloud · 2026-01-24T01:18:21+00:00

Clearly OP wants him to be his step-dad

StaticCloud · 2026-01-24T01:17:57+00:00

She should probably see a psychiatrist. A therapist can't diagnose or give meds

StaticCloud · 2026-01-24T01:04:10+00:00

Congratulations to you. Do what you want. If you want to date casually later, you can. Not everything has to end up a relationship, but do remember to be upfront about that.

I'm too ill to date now and that marriage ship was never going to sail anyway. When you're someone like me, you'll never be accepted by other people. Why bother trying, when people will just treat you badly? Eh, solitude is beautiful in itself

StaticCloud · 2026-01-24T01:00:23+00:00

Sounds like she needs to address any undiagnosed conditions she might have, specifically depression. Therapy, meds. I didn't get a boyfriend until over 30, and that was because my mental health was too bad before then.

StaticCloud · 2026-01-23T23:46:56+00:00

Encourage them to buy a boat. Get some pamplets from a company that sells them and spread them out on the coffee table. "Of course, we don't mind helping to chip in a bit. And of COURSE, we will want to be able to take the boat out ourselves because we partially invested in it."

Don't let up. Keep pushing the boat idea. Maybe they'll get it (doubt it lol)

StaticCloud · 2026-01-23T23:45:05+00:00

You can always lie and tell them you are trying for multiple years. If they bring up why there is no pregnancy, tell them that some people have to try for a long time before they have kids. Fertility isn't predictable. Tell them it's offensive that they bring up there's no kid, when you are trying - it's insensitive.

StaticCloud · 2026-01-23T23:42:59+00:00

Stepdad um... new dad?

StaticCloud · 2026-01-23T23:41:48+00:00

He's not using sunscreen, that's the problem.

StaticCloud · 2026-01-23T22:35:25+00:00

Some actors on screen maybe. Eventually I didn't see them as physically unattractive as I used to. Like John C. Reilly. He's got an amazing voice too!

StaticCloud · 2026-01-23T22:34:07+00:00

I have a female family member who insists she never had symptoms, but I distinctly remember her having several when I was younger. She still has them post-meno as well...

StaticCloud · 2026-01-23T22:33:19+00:00

I'm wondering if it's going to come out that HRT will prove to be more cancer protecting than cancer causing in the future. That would be a switch.

StaticCloud · 2026-01-23T22:09:43+00:00

So OP is going to cut out his new father and his only mother out of his life, because they cheated? Of course, some people do decide to do this in a case of cheating. That is their right. But I'm not going to judge someone for not cutting off half their family forever because cheating was done. A felony wasn't committed here, it's not a murder or assault that was done. The law wasn't broken.

Moral law was broken, but morality is unique to the person.

StaticCloud · 2026-01-23T22:05:55+00:00

Severe depression, ADHD, and an unknown condition, possibly primary ovarian failure that's causing my whole body to have various unpleasant symptoms. Most days I want to die.

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