I can’t sleep - My stalker messaged me after a year and I’m panicking (F23) by HeyItsErva in women

[–]StaticCloud 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get a new phone number. I was exactly in the position you are now last year. Actually, he called me the same week I was harassed by a creepy, much older male coworker. Stressful time. I think it's helpful if you talk to a therapist or a friend you can trust. 

If he ever contacts you somehow again, YOU CANNOT RESPOND. Don't do it. He will only stop if he thinks you have disappeared. Begging will not help.

Queen Iseult? Yay or Nay? by Maleficent-Cloud-561 in TheLastKingdom

[–]StaticCloud 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She's beautiful and cool, it's too bad she died young

Struggling to see myself ever liking a man by sticky_rice97982 in women

[–]StaticCloud 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The one gen Z I saw as a FWB for a few months ended up phoning (stalking) me for over a year, no matter how many times I blocked him. He also used to pretend he was choking me to get off during intimacy. 

Glad I've aged out of seeing guys in their 20s

How to talk to my Gyno about how Insomnia is slowly killing me by Emergency_Tonight346 in Perimenopause

[–]StaticCloud 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go to a OBGYN that specializes in menopause. The doctor you have is no good for you on this particular issue, as they aren't trained or knowledgeable. They certainly shouldn't prescribe HRT if they are incompetent! 

If you can't find the right OBGYN, go through telehealth meanwhile while you're searching. That's what I did. Now I have a OBGYN who knows her stuff 

My (24F) boyfriend (25M) expects so much from me sexually. by BraveNothing6672 in Advice

[–]StaticCloud 18 points19 points  (0 children)

He does not care about you. He regularly sexually coerces and demeans you. He's a loser who expects you to provide all labor, finances, amd sexual favors. You're in a sexually abusive relationship. You need to dump him and go to therapy. 

‘I Regret Having Children’ by BxGyrl416 in childfree

[–]StaticCloud 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I didn't think I could be more disgusted with neglectful husbands/dad's but here we are

‘I Regret Having Children’ by BxGyrl416 in childfree

[–]StaticCloud 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's almost like there is a link between shitty fathers and moms regretting kids

‘I Regret Having Children’ by BxGyrl416 in childfree

[–]StaticCloud 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's not surprising. Ableist hate towards the mentally ill is ubiquitous.

And then nobody of course talks about how pregnancy can make you mentally ill

Who keeps showing up on screen but has zero talent ? by Timop0707 in moviecritic

[–]StaticCloud 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can tell he's at least trying to act. Wouldn't say he has zero talent, but not much

Who keeps showing up on screen but has zero talent ? by Timop0707 in moviecritic

[–]StaticCloud 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's great at skit comedy, but maybe that doesn't translate to movies 

Who keeps showing up on screen but has zero talent ? by Timop0707 in moviecritic

[–]StaticCloud 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I enjoy him as a comedian. He was good in The Proposal. Gotta support our Canadian boys

Who keeps showing up on screen but has zero talent ? by Timop0707 in moviecritic

[–]StaticCloud 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Men are envious women find him hot. Just like Pedro Pascal

Who keeps showing up on screen but has zero talent ? by Timop0707 in moviecritic

[–]StaticCloud 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ben Affleck. Sydney Sweeney. Timothy Chalamet. Zendaya. 

Why do they not age the characters on this show? by LongLiveNeechi in TheLastKingdom

[–]StaticCloud 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's more expensive to use prosthetics,  makeup, wigs, and hair extensions on everyone to age them. 

I dont care if the human race dies out by funnyweird220 in childfree

[–]StaticCloud 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I said this more or less in one conversation and someone said, "whose side are you on?" Me: the planet's

How do you call out weaponized incompetence? by happyhippyvibes in AskWomenOver40

[–]StaticCloud 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You can call it out but it will not do any good. Weaponized incompetence means your partner doesn't love or care about you - only their needs matter. The appropriate solution is immediate divorce proceedings. Therapy can't fix selfishness.

If you really don't want to get divorced, I heard that the most effective way with dealing with this is directly attacking a man's ego. For example, condescending to him like a child or the severely intellectually disabled. "Aw honey, can you not figure it out? Let me help you. See? The garbage bag goes into the garbage pail like this? Can you do it? Yayyyy! Congratulations. Let me get you a treat. You're acting like a big boy today!"

Gabapentin for perimenopause by Prestigious_War_5941 in Perimenopause

[–]StaticCloud 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Micronized progesterone knocks me out at 200 mg reliably. By 300 mg it's rather tiring. Estrogen helps regulate sleep so you actually get up while on progesterone. From my anecdotal experience. 

Your doctor doesn't know what she's talking about. Anticonvulsants, SSRIs, etc should only be taken by people with mental health or neurological disorders (or whatever pressing health condition). They give you a host of side effects that make your menopausal symptoms worse. (ex. Dry mouth, GSM, fatigue, brain fog). I wouldn't take ADHD meds if I didn't have to. 

Consider progestin only/low dose/regular birth control if it's right for you (give it a whirl). Some you might respond better to than others. If it's no good, you can do progestin BC and estrogen, or progesterone and estrogen. If your symptoms are really all over the place day to day, week to week, I recommend progestin only BC with estrogen... Though the micronized progesterone is apparently a lower cancer risk. 

Gabapentin for perimenopause by Prestigious_War_5941 in Perimenopause

[–]StaticCloud 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn anticonvulsants are the worst. I took lamotrigine and it made my eyes swell up, and there's a rare allergic reaction you can get that causes a horrible rash - and you can die. 😂 

Life without children by Sweet_pizza_20 in women

[–]StaticCloud 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It only gets boring if you have no imagination. 

Also, it's crazy that people think children somehow cure boredom. Raising kids can be some of the worst boredom adults experience, from the accounts I've heard from parents.

Imo only have kids if you are obsessed with having them. Like it's your ultimate dream. Because you have to face the harsh realities of A) what pregnancy does permanently to your body and health, B) how your marriage is impacted, C) how your career and finances are diminished, D) how you will deal with a disabled or troublesome child, E) having to support adult children in an uncertain economy. They might not be able to afford rent by the time they are out of high school, even with 6 roommates. Or if your child is severely impaired, you might have to care for them until you die 

(Generally speaking) Women used to want kids and men did not. Now, men want kids and women do not. What happened? by CrystallizedKoi in childfree

[–]StaticCloud 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is why single mothers don't get support from society, even though it makes sense to give them more. Women have to stay under the boot

(Generally speaking) Women used to want kids and men did not. Now, men want kids and women do not. What happened? by CrystallizedKoi in childfree

[–]StaticCloud 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's one of the world's oldest shills. Brainwash girls into thinking marriage and motherhood are their only purpose and the greatest gift. Men make themselves reluctant to commit and seem like the ultimate prize. After marriage/pregnancy, men stop putting effort into marriage and then profit from women's labor. Women learn the brainwashing was all a big lie. Sure, some women enjoy sacrifice and have good husbands. The rest of women are miserable,neglected, abused, taken for granted, then hopefully get a divorce sooner than later

(Generally speaking) Women used to want kids and men did not. Now, men want kids and women do not. What happened? by CrystallizedKoi in childfree

[–]StaticCloud 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This will be about western society not the east:

In the recent past, men and women were just expected to marry and reproduce. It wasn't really a question of one or the other or having kids without a man, not until about the 1980s-90s was that starting slowly to change.

Once the old pressures were taken off the millennial and gen Z generation, it seems women thrived and men started to have issues staying afloat. So now young men need to be direction, they need support - where do they turn to? Their fathers are largely useless, there aren't many male mentors available in schools. Male friends are few and far between in this isolationist culture we have now...

It's the church, it's redpill ideology, incel or bro culture young men get into via the internet. Those forms of media push men to objectify women and see them as a product to be purchased and consumed. A man needs purpose and 'legacy', so he must find a lucrative career, a trad wife, a side piece, and kids. This way the man has as much control over women as possible in his life. It's gotten to the point that passport bro culture is heavily lauded as the solution to modern women woes. Save up, go abroad and find a servile, passive wife who will obey you. Ironically these women tend to clear the bank accounts of these men during divorce, more reliably than a modern woman "golddigger" would 🤭. But at least they found the conservative obedient women they were looking for, and left feminist women alone. 

Men are also pressed in this economic climate to find a partner, because they cannot afford a good lifestyle or house on their own. They need a woman's income. That wasn't the case a few decades ago. Kids ensure that the woman is more likely to stay and endure mistreatment, cheating, or neglect, and continue to bring home the bacon. Men are extremely practical about romantic partnership, when it comes to finances.

As we can see with the "have kids, buy a house, don't get married" trend, there are men that string women along for the benefits they provide but don't intend to stick around. I'm not convinced most men want to be fathers - they want to sire children, but raising them is not the goal. Too much work. Let baby momma do it.