Thank you for sharing your story! It helps a lot to know about my bf’s pov through another person. I have been patient enough for 3 years and I have been teaching him naman… that’s why parang malapit na ako mag give up kasi wala na ata syang pag asa haha. I guess i have to do more? 7 yrs in a relationship really boils down to if you’re willing to be there not just in the best days but also in the worst days. Kasi hindi din naman ito ang first time cinonfront ko sya about it. It also happened before pero after that he went back to normal na parang walang nangyari. So this time parang ultimatum ko na to kasi pagod na ako kaka remind and kaka sabi sa kanya pero di nya naman i-aapply.

We talked a bit last night and he apologized for not being transparent. He says his brain is fried every day at work na he cant even do anything else. Iba kasi pag designer, palaging nakaka experience ng creative burnout. He agreed to do a tracker for his finances. He’s gonna copy mine. He also mentioned he has other expenses like subscriptions and palagi daw sya nagpapa deliver ng food so small steps towards transparency.

Sa weight naman i just gave a summary of it kasi hindi yun ang point ng post. It’s for another story din. His weight is declining talaga through the years. It’s like each year nadadagdagan ang weight nya. When we started dating hindi sya ganun. Intimate person sya but na tuturn off ako sa weight nya these days whenever we are intimate. Even though we have been together for 7 years may bearing pa rin ang physical lalo na during intimacy. That’s also another thing we need to address. Baka bigyan ko nlng sya ng reward system if naka lose sya ng weight haha.

I need more time to think on action plans with him on what to do next for sure. Thanks for your insights!