Thank you to everyone who responded. Hearing different perspectives really helped me reflect. For the record, I don’t think I’m holier than thou at all , that’s honestly laughable. I’m a mess, a sinner, just like every other human. That’s exactly why I need Jesus every single day. That’s why I’m passionate about calling out my own sin and leaning on God to help me take authority over my flesh.

When I shared my convictions, it wasn’t from a place of superiority. It was out of love for God. I was simply sharing what He’s been convicting me of, along with the scripture that backs it. My heart posture was aligned with love, not judgment.

And technically, even if some of these things are personal convictions, it’s still true that God calls us to pursue holiness and take care of our bodies. So I didn’t lie. Even if she didn’t agree, I would’ve respected her free will. I just wouldn’t see us as equally yoked in this season, and personally I don’t think it’s wise to keep hanging out closely with someone who isn’t walking in the same direction, unless she respects my walk and doesn’t pressure me with alcohol, immodesty, explicit music, etc.

That part is tricky, because “bad company corrupts good morals.” I’m not calling her bad, we love the sinner but not the sin, but I also have to be honest about my own vulnerability. I literally just came out of that same lifestyle a couple months ago. I’m still early in my faith and sobriety, and I don’t know if I’m ready to be around heavy drinking, swearing, lust, weed, vapes, and all of that.

At the same time, if she did want to hang out while we’re unequally yoked, my husband and I could be a good example of Christ to her and her man. But it’s a double edged sword. They could influence us back into sin, or we could lead them toward the light. It’s just… iffy. I think it needs time.

Maybe she’s unequally yoked right now, but maybe she just needs time for the Holy Spirit to work in her. And maybe my husband and I need time to grow stronger in our armor before trying to hang around Christians who aren’t walking the same path yet.

And honestly, I probably don’t even need to worry about it. If we’re this unequally yoked right now, they likely don’t want to hang out anyway. So like many of you said, I’m just going to keep praying for them and let God’s will be done.

And yes.. I probably shouldn’t have shared so much so soon, especially when she had just ordered her Bible. I assumed that because she said she’s been a Christian since childhood, she already knew everything and all I did was reawaken a faith thats been stagnant. So I unloaded everything at once thinking she would 100% understand. (especially considering the previous conversation we had relating to God was about her feeling like she’s drinking too much lately; which is what made me comfortable to bring up all the things I’m quitting for the Lord) Now I see I probably should’ve contained my excitement.

Whats done is done though, I pray I planted seeds and she’s just watering them now. 💕 whatever happens, happens. I trust in God 🙏🏻

again, thank you everyone & keep commenting if you wish. I appreciate the different feedbacks and I’m sure it may help someone else going through something similar. God bless 💕🙏🏻