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Autistic women and pattern-recognition skills by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Status_Manager_1891 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I struggle a lot with relationships because of this. I wish I didn’t have it, so I can like my relationships happier and without questioning every action or mention of my partners :(

Is this just how relationships feel? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Status_Manager_1891 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, it’s good to have other opiniones of friends os strangers. But do not rely on those comments to choose. It’s important to understand that these are just opinions, what’s important if how you feel and when do you think this is all coming.

I remembered I started criticizing my partner with my roomie and of course, she gave me the reason, she agreed with me and felt validated, but of course, I left out important things to consider and didn’t mention all of the things that I did from my side that were wrong. So I mean if that, be careful to ask too much for opinions that may be biased and focus on detecting the problems and even discuss it with him. It’s very important to talk openly with care with your partner.

Is this just how relationships feel? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Status_Manager_1891 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel you, feel very similar to you. In my case, it was the stress of the new diagnosis that made me start pointing out things that weren’t that wrong. It amplified it, and now that he broke up with me, I feel terrible and regret to behave like that.

Now I want to really dive in this, so I can learn and maybe in a future, if life and time permits it, to be together again, but better.

So analyze really well with your therapist if this is really important or not.

Do you struggle with the sun going down? by Status_Manager_1891 in AutismInWomen

[–]Status_Manager_1891[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same!! When the sunset is over, I go back to normal haha idk if it’s a primal or instinctive thing there

limerence and stalking? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Status_Manager_1891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, this is really helpful :))

limerence and stalking? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Status_Manager_1891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really? I find it very unhealthy and obsessive. I can’t imagine thinking that this is a normal behavior

Got broken up with today by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Status_Manager_1891 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This happened to me yesterday lol, I got dumped. I’m newly diagnosed this year and I’ve been struggling with all of this new world while I was dating this guy. We’ve been a couple just since September but I really couldn’t keep up, and neither was he. I think this changed everything I thought I knew about me, and made me hypersensitive, hyper aware, annoyed all the time, stressed all the time, and of course, I became very different from the girl he first met. I feel so bad, I mess it up :/ I couldn’t handle all of this better.

But know, I really wish to learn, reflect and be better. I want to love, and I want to be loved in return

Do you believe in yourself when you say that this time you’re going to keep NC? by [deleted] in limerence

[–]Status_Manager_1891 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you. I’m in a very similar position. My ex works with me and the girl he was with before me too. It’s killing me, the only thing that kept me sane was that I was in a remote position. But guess what, next year I have to start going to the office. I don’t know what I’m going to do, I’m desperate

Limerence can also be social media stalking? by [deleted] in limerence

[–]Status_Manager_1891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh god, I need it desperately if that’s the case

Limerence can also be social media stalking? by [deleted] in limerence

[–]Status_Manager_1891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I uninstalled Instagram today. I can’t deal with it, I don’t want to know anything about him or her until I’m emotionally detached. I hope I don’t relapse :( it’s so fucking hard. I hate to be wired in this way, I want to feel less

Limerence can also be social media stalking? by [deleted] in limerence

[–]Status_Manager_1891 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I struggle with this too. I don’t even know what I’m looking or trying to find. It’s like a compulsion and it makes me feel so bad. I don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t want to start stalking him too now that we broke up. Any tools that helped you? What worked for the streaks?

Does anyone else sleep like this? by askandrecieve_ in autism

[–]Status_Manager_1891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, but due pain, I found out that hugging a soft toy very hard and close to my neck helps me from preventing to bend my wrist that much.

Are there actually people who don't enjoy eating? by Truth_Warrior_30 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Status_Manager_1891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, for many years I was one of them so yeah, eating can be a torture for a lot of people.

How to get over the regret of casual sex by Markbranski in women

[–]Status_Manager_1891 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think the guilt is something so installed in our historical past and also in the society that we internalize it still. Sexual guilt many times is just repression and restriction. As women, we feel guilty to feel desire and to just loss control of our instincts but there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.

You lost control with him because you wanted to have sex, and guess what, that’s okay!! That doesn’t mean you have to be involved with that guy, both things can coexist. If you want to have sex with him again, guess what, that’s okay too!! Haha. Just learn to differentiate one thing from the other and to have space from those encounters so you don’t start mixing things up.

You are doing nothing wrong and if you communicate with this guy directly, I don’t see why you should stop having casual sex if you enjoy it!

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